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I came here to write down what just happened to calm down a bit and  I would also like to read others' experiences with wackadoos they have met in their prenatal appointments.

 

Today we were supposed to confirm the sex of the baby at my highly anticipated 18 week ultrasound, among other much more important things. It was supposed to be special.

 

Not even a full minute in to the ultrasound, I had not yet seen the baby move, and being nervous and 35 years old, decided to tap my stomach to see if it made the baby move, during the ultrasound while the tech was looking away.  I had been asked to do this at my last ultrasound in a different clinic to get the baby to move, so I had no idea it could present a problem.  

 

The tech crossly asked me,

 

"what do you think you're doing?" after I had tapped my stomach.  

 

I said, "Oh, I got nervous because I didn't see movement and wanted to see if the baby responded. I just saw it move so I'm not worried now. Sorry"

 

she replied, "That was completely uncalled for. The baby was in a perfect position, so there is NO reason you need to be tapping your stomach. Don't do that again."

 

Shocked by her tone, I let e moment pass and said "Wow! I'm really sorry I had NO idea it would be that offending".

 

Silence...she was still doing the ultrasound. No apology, no joke to lighten the mood. Nothing. She was just mad.

 

WTF?

 

I looked at my husband.  He too had an incredulous look on his face.  A WTF look.  

 

Ordinarily, I would have allowed her to complete the ultrasound, then said some things about it to somebody at the clinic.

 

But this was a very important ultrasound, one which was about to confirm the sex of our child, one which was about to potentially determine certain health concerns of the baby.   Could I possibly have this toxic, rude woman invading my womb for a second longer, and risk this memorable day being spoiled?

 

I promptly sat up, told her the appointment was over, wiped off the goop, buttoned up, and explained I don't deserve to be talked to like that, that I deserve respect, and that she should apologize for her tone.

 

To my amazement, she said, "but I did just apologize!"

 

I looked over to my husband who shook his head and said, "you didn't apologize, and the way you spoke was rude".

 

(Thanks baby daddy. I am NOT a hormonal, emotional, stupid cow, just a pregnant woman who wants respect. Thank you!)

 

Then the tech tried to push us in to staying to complete the ultrasound, explaining their specialty is high risk pregnancy, and that there was no place else I could go for this kind of ultrasound. Also condescending. I knew that was BS and can only guess she was trying to make me look irrational.  

 

She reminded us of the neurotic sister who's also a nurse in Breaking Bad. 

 

I rescheduled on a day the tech won't be there, but am now freaked out because the tech was so toxic I feel like something must have been wrong for her to act that way.  

 

Anyway, the last time I was snapped similarly at by a medical person it was one OB I didn't know during the delivery of my son.  I will not allow people, especially people I am entrusting with my baby's wellness, to condescend to me as if I am the giant dumb cow I sometimes feel like.  We DO need a little special treatment during times like these.  

 

 

So, I guess I hope that we all have the luxury of walking out on people who treat us like that; because sometimes it's a far more desperate situation and we just have to take it, and feel like victims.  We are made to feel like we are being irrational but we aren't.

 

I am glad I took this opportunity to say no to that, because I might not have that luxury next time.

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I do think her tone and response were less gentle than they could have been, but we also need to remember that she was trying to do her job. An 18 week u/s is usually to look at and measure a number of different body parts to make sure that the baby is healthy and growing well, to estimate risks that may require intervention or advanced planning, etc. For *us* it's a chance to see our adorable babies and sometimes to learn the sex, but that's not the point of the procedure. I can understand being frustrated if you were seconds away from getting an accurate measurement only to have the baby move out of position. But I also think that babies are generally uncooperative when we want them to be and would probably have moved even if you hadn't tapped him/her. orngtongue.gif
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I do think her tone and response were less gentle than they could have been, but we also need to remember that she was trying to do her job. 

Gee, thanks for your opinion.  First of all, my OP clearly states that I understood the importance of the ultrasound beyond sex.  Less gentle?  What?

 

And what is up with "we"?  Are you my lecturer or something?  

 

For *us* it's a chance to see our adorable babies and sometimes to learn the sex, but that's not the point of the procedure.

 

That's incredibly off-base, and insensitive. Did you read my post? Are you the same ultrasound tech we just ran from?

 

I have no frustration at anything other than being talked to rudely for no reason; I made a point not to exaggerate or make myself look better .  The tech was less than a minute into the scan and, as you said, the baby was likely to move any moment.

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On second thought, I'm not out of this website.  I'm not going to let anyone else upset me today:-) 

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I would have walked, too, if I were you. And if I were your care provider and you told me this story, I'd be pretty ticked off at my ultrasound tech. Just my 2 cents.

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The tech was definitely rude and should have found a more respectful way to ask you to please be patient while she is taking measurements. Also, the first thing she should have done is found the heartbeat to reassure you before getting into the nitty gritty of her job. She should have enough experience with mums and dads to know the first thing they want to know is if their baby is alive and kicking. And while I'm on your side, it would be helpful for you to remember that getting those measurements can be very tricky, and techs sometimes have to work very hard to get baby into the necessary position for each part of the anatomy they need to scan. If they need you to roll over or go to the toilet to get baby to move, they'll ask you. I hope your next scan goes much more smoothly, with a cooperative baby and a more respectful tech.
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Good for you! How rude!


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Good for you! There are much better ways she could have handled things. You don't deserve rudeness or disrespect, for any reason.  If it was critical for you to remain still, she should have communicated that to you before beginning the exam.   I haven't had a bad experience like that in my own pregnancy care, but would likely handle it as you did if I had a similar situation. Nobody, especially not someone I'm paying for a service, gets to be disrespectful to me with impunity. I'd probably also consider writing a letter to the management of the U/S facility and/or discussing it with your pregnancy care provider, so they get some feedback about what clients may experience in the facility and might consider giving some constructive criticism to the tech so she can clean up her act.  Patient dissatisfaction is a major thing for most healthcare institutions, because they want your business, especially if you have your choice of other places to use for the same care.

 

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Good for you demeter! So many people, women especially, put up with that sort of treatment at their appointments. They're not going to improve the way that they treat people unless clients start standing up for themselves like you did.


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The tech was definitely rude and should have found a more respectful way to ask you to please be patient while she is taking measurements. Also, the first thing she should have done is found the heartbeat to reassure you before getting into the nitty gritty of her job. She should have enough experience with mums and dads to know the first thing they want to know is if their baby is alive and kicking. And while I'm on your side, it would be helpful for you to remember that getting those measurements can be very tricky, and techs sometimes have to work very hard to get baby into the necessary position for each part of the anatomy they need to scan. If they need you to roll over or go to the toilet to get baby to move, they'll ask you. I hope your next scan goes much more smoothly, with a cooperative baby and a more respectful tech.

 

Hi, Thank you for constructively making your points.  I know it's a very stressful job, and not for every temperament.

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Thanks Haurelia and everyone who has really been sweet. I feel relieved, getting these echoes that I didn't deserve the treatment I got.

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Good for you for walking out!  She was completely disrespectful, and you didn't deserve that.  Sorry, mama. 


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Pardon my French, but I hope I can summon those balls if someone is like that to me. Good on you! Don't let 'em get away with that garbage!!!
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I will not allow people, especially people I am entrusting with my baby's wellness, to condescend to me as if I am the giant dumb cow I sometimes feel like.  We DO need a little special treatment during times like these.  

 

I wouldn't even call it special treatment!  Practitioners should be treating ALL their patients with respect and sensitivity!  Something is going on in the world today where people are losing sight of what customer service and patient care is.  Shame.  Good on ya for walking out and showing her that people will not tolerate that kind of behaviour.

 

I don't think there is any need to worry about your baby's well-being because of her bad attitude.  She was probably just a bitch having a bad day and letting it interfere with her job.  Sorry you had to be on the receiving end and had a bad experience, hope it goes better at the next appt and you have the cherished, special moment you desire!


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  Good for you for walking out!  I have not had the unfortunate "pleasure" of a rude US techie, but I do understand rude behavior.  When I went for my mandatory "nurses talk" at our OB practice, the nurse there lectured me for a good 10 minutes because we are farmers and choose to drink raw milk/eat unpasteurized cheeses/meats, etc...  I explained to her as nicely as I could that this was my 3rd child and we've been eating a whole foods diet for a very long time and while I understand it's not for everyone, it works for us and is healthier than eating a lot of chemically processed packaged junk, etc.  I also explained that I understood the risks, but our cows and sheep are routinely tested as well as the milk, etc.  It was one of those situations where I WISH I had had the courage to walk out!!  She was telling me how I was putting my child at risk and even after the berating, CALLED ME AT HOME to "give me more research" to read about.  I understand they have a job to do, but you are right, we deserve to be treated with respect and they should honor our decisions.  Europeans have been doing raw dairy for centuries and it is a widely accepted practice there, the Amish/Mennonite/Quakers have been doing it as well...so why is it that it's all of a sudden a risk?  irked.gif 

  I am sorry you had to have that happen to you, especially during such an important scan!  I do hope the next one goes well, and I agree - you should write a letter to those in charge to tell them of your rude and unacceptable treatment...you never know how many other women have either been silent or have already written in to express the same thing.  She MAY have been having a bad day, but that's still NO excuse for you to be treated that way.  hug2.gif  Hang in there mama!!  

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Good for you.  That took a lot of strength to walk out on such an anticipated appointment. The Ultrasound Tech works with people on a very personal level every day.  She should learn how to communicate in an empathetic way or find another job.  I'm sure she will get reprimanded by her superiors and what you did will hopefully prevent her from being so harsh to other expecting parents in the future.

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Bottom line: Giving an ultrasound is performing a service for pay. When providing a service, you MUST respect and appropriately treat the customer, even in the medical field. Many people forget that critical fact. "That was completely uncalled for" is not acceptable in any type of service unless the customer is verbally or physically abusing the employee. A specialist cannot expect the customer to know the details of the specialty. If we did, they wouldn't be needed. :)

 

The office should give you another ultrasound at no additional cost (maybe even discount the first cost) with a different tech. If the tech come forward and apologizes, I think it is appropriate to forgive and move on, but you definitely should receive the service for which you are paying without being hassled. 

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Well now I am mad too in your behalf. In fact it sounds to me like you handled it gracefully. I probably would have said "um, this is MY stomach and MY baby so keep YOUR hands off of me, and I'm out of here." The fact that she was a professional "doing her job" doesn't give her a right to speak to you like that. in fact I would think it gives her an obligation to be courteous to you. Sorry 

 

Sorry you had to deal with that but good for you for standing up for yourself. Why does everyone seem to think that pregnant women need to be docile? You will be a great mommy!

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I agree that walking out was appropriate. I am from Canada and so we don't typically view health service performances as a "customer relations" issue but however way you look at it, she needs to treat people with dignity and respect. Anyone in the health care field (as in the education field and other similar government services) have a professional duty to recognize the position and influence they are in when dealing with the public, and that their jobs only exist because they are basically 'civil servants'. Furthermore, because they are often in a position of authority and influence over the people in their care (we are trained from a young age to respect health care professionals and follow their instructions because they are acting in our best interest) , they have a duty to insure they don' abuse that position. As a teacher, I would be breaking a professional code of ethics if I neglected to recognize and respect the power I have over my students' emotional, mental and physical well-being. Treating people with respect and dignity at all times is part of my duty as someone serving the public and to behave in such a way that could cause distress is an abuse of my position. Health care providers are just as accountable for their patients mental and emotional well-being. If they are unable to maintain this expectation, they are not acting in a professional capacity and are not fit to perform this duty. I understand the job is stressful and people are only human and will make mistakes (I know I've had my snappy moments) BUT these moments must be recognized as uncalled for and unacceptable (I've had my share of apologies to students if I felt I was in the wrong or I've recognized times / days that I was unable to maintain my composure and patience and taken time to myself that day or removed myself from the situation temporarily so that I may calm down or gain better perspective on the situation).

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good for you! i was lucky to have a really great u/s tech who was beyond nice.  it was uncalled for on her part to react that way and she should have told you ahead of time how things were going to be, what to expect, and what not to/to do. 

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That was very harsh of her and very shaming angry.gif. She acted like you were trying to mess up her job behind her back! Its ridiculous. As if one little poke is going to make a big difference :snort: She sounds like she needs to take a long vacation, possibly a permanent one. I guess the fact that you did it when she turned away made her think you were being "naughty"? She might not have reacted as harshly if you did it when she was looking or if you had asked first. Still, the tone was way too much and she should be more sensitive considering who she works with all day.

I know what it feels like to be shamed harshly out of nowhere. It is overwhelming and humiliating. I typically am left speechless but on occasion i have spoken up. I dont blame you for walking out, that was the right thing to do, imo. She shouldnt feel like its okay to treat people like that, especially pregnant women. I would complain to her boss so that hopefully other women will be spared the abuse.
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Good for you! That lady needs to learn some bedside manner!

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Oh my goodness!!! When I read about how this woman treated you I was so enraged!!!! I'm so proud of you for walking out!!! Wow!!!! I don't care if she was having a bad day there is NO EXCUSE to act that way! Common people!!! You're expecting your baby you're nervous as it is and she treats you so disrespectfully?!!! I would also talk to her manager the hospital manger and take this to the top!!! But if this causes more stress then forget it. And what is up with Mosaic comment "I do think her tone and response was less gentle?!!" Clearly this didn't happen to her/him!!!
Anyways you as a patient SHOULD get the BEST treatment possible. And there are many other places you can get specialty u/s done - that's why we've got yelp.com!!!
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WOW you did well! I think you handled with grace and respect because I know I wouldn't have. I would've probably tapped my stomach again and said "there, what are you going to do about it?" then stormed out. That was utterly rude. Let's hope she just had a really bad day and that it's not regular behavior.


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I had my 19 week ultrasound a few weeks ago, and the tech was equally rude-and she did the opposite...the baby wasn't in a good position so she took the ultrasound wand and, 4 separate times, roughly pumped it into my stomach for like 10-15 seconds each time to get baby to move. I WISH I would have had the nerve to speak up, but I am very shy and timid unless I have prepared myself beforehand for a possible confrontation and mentally rehearsed what I might say-which of course I didn't prior to an ultrasound.  

 

You were absolutely right in how you responded.  Yes, it's her job, BUT she does work for the patient, and MUTUAL respect should be observed, and I do believe the tech was out of line in how she responded.  She could have been very different in what and how she responded to the situation, but chose to be rude. Not okay.


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Gee, thanks for your opinion.  First of all, my OP clearly states that I understood the importance of the ultrasound beyond sex.  Less gentle?  What?

And what is up with "we"?  Are you my lecturer or something?  

For *us* it's a chance to see our adorable babies and sometimes to learn the sex, but that's not the point of the procedure.


That's incredibly off-base, and insensitive. Did you read my post? Are you the same ultrasound tech we just ran from?

I have no frustration at anything other than being talked to rudely for no reason; I made a point not to exaggerate or make myself look better .  The tech was less than a minute into the scan and, as you said, the baby was likely to move any moment.

I agree with you, OP, that the tech was rude. But yikes, you got so defensive toward the responses quoted above. I really don't think this poster was trying to be rude to you. At any rate, sorry you had a bad experience.
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I completely understand I have a similar story accept mine was with my WIC lady.. She was so rude to me I wanted to punch her but instead I just walked out. You would think people would be a tad bit more nicer to us since are hormones are out of whack as it is but nope. Still rude.
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I would have reacted the exact same way. Go you! You don't need anyone treating you like that. She is there to provide a service to you and your child. I think she realized how inappropriate and shameful her behavior was after the fact; that's why she kept trying to convince you to stay - she didn't want to get in trouble from her superiors. She's obviously not in the right line of work for her temperment. Maybe she should go work at the DMV. orngbiggrin.gif

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