Well, I didn't think I'd be back here. DH was supposed to be getting a vasectomy and put it off and put it off ...So here I am eating my words about how done we are :p My oldest is 5 then 3.5 and 2. Anyone BTDT, I could use some encouragement
I can't say I have, but I just wanted to say congratulations. I imagine it is very over whelming, but I read something recently that said 3 kids is the hardest number (statistically speaking), so moving up to 4 is a good thing (I guess, haha).
My kids ages were a little more spaced out than yours (8, 6, 2) when I had my 4th, but I have to say, going from 3-4 was the easiest transition when it came to having kids. 1-2 was the hardest for me (really, really hard), 2-3 wasn't too difficult, but again, 3-4 was by far the easiest, and now I'm 10 weeks out from #5.
The best advice I can give you would be not to take on any new responsibilities outside of your home, don't feel badly for bowing out of responsibilities outside of the home if you need to, and don't feel guilty if it stays that way for a while. I gave myself a wide berth for taking on commitments after #4 was born, and was actually surprised at how soon after he was born life returned to relative normal and things settled down and found a new rhythm-but it was so nice not feeling like I HAD TO get back to everything. In some ways I think allowing myself that space took the stress out of it and I was able to relax and transition easier.
Good luck and Congratulations!!!
jamie. crinkly (not quite crunchy) mama to 3 amazing little girls, an awesome little boy, and a baby girl making her debut at the end of this summer.
Congrats! I won't go into too many details, don't want to give you nightmares but adding the fourth for me was, well, words escape me of just how difficult it was. He turns 2 this month and I'm still waiting for it to get better but I was "blessed" with an insanely difficult fourth child after several other high needs children. He was born screaming, and hasn't stopped yet!
2 to 3 was the only transition of mine that was easy. #4 for us was also not exactly on purpose. I'd second what the pp suggested and don't be afraid to ask for help or just say no to other things. I am still bowing out of things with the baby as my excuse but people usually understand once they witness him in all his glory.
Oh Peony! There's a silver lining, right?! : p That is how my MIL describes DHs babyhood and he is still high maintenance hehe