I'm hurt that no one wants to make the effort to meet our baby when he/she arrives. Yet, they expect us to visit them.
What do you think? And when would you travel to see family with a newborn?
Some people have told me that early infancy is the best time to travel because the babies just sleep a lot. I think it depends probably on your kid. My nephew hated his infant car seat so much that a 5 hour drive would have been torture. I'm sure others would just cuddle in and sleep most of the way. So I guess there is an element of just waiting to see what is the right choice for your kid, and also weighing how worth it is to you to put in all that effort for someone who wouldn't be willing themselves to reciprocate.
Thanks, all. It's not just about exposing the baby to germs and a long car ride. I prob will be exhausted, still healing, nursing, and what not. Plus the idea of packing all the gear sounds awful. I can't believe they expect us to drive to them. Don't the remember the postpartum period?
Oh, absolutely agreed! I think I was dwelling on the length of the trip because that impacts everything else - not just the kid having to deal with the ride, but also me being uncomfortable in the car that long, trying to manage feeding during the trip will be harder the longer it is, and yes, the stuff you have to bring to prepare for a journey of that length! I have tried to take a stance of "let's see what happens". I think it is hard to tell people now what you will and won't be willing to do later, so I try to stay non-committal and appear open to the possibility. We just don't have enough information yet to make that decision - what if I wind up having a C-section? what if my baby has latch problems? Honestly, I think when it comes down to it I just can't see myself agreeing a trip of that length for quite a while. But it will be easer to make that case once the reality of my child and my postpartum period are actually here. Not an argument I need to have with those people today, I have enough else on my mind these last few weeks!
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