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I am pregnant with baby #2 for me and it will be baby #5 for my boyfriend/fiancé. He has 4 with his ex-wife. I am needing help on how to tell my 8 year old son that he is going to be a big brother. I want to tell him soon but am worried about telling him as well as my late husbands family. I will have to tell them because my son goes to see them once a week. How do I tell them without them getting upset and no longer seeing my son?
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Why would they stop seeing him?  I guess I don't understand the dynamic there.  Obviously, it is best to simply announce your exciting news and emphasize how happy you are.  You say he was your 'late' husband, I presume they don't expect you to remain in mourning forever. 

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My late husband committed suicide in 09. My son is from a previously failed relationship. My late husband and I never had children of our own even though he was the only dad my son knew. I am worried that my late husbands father won't take the news so well.
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I think the only thing you can do is to tell him- if you are worried about a reaction, maybe take him out for coffee or let him know somehow out of earshot for your son so he can process. .  It is so hard when someone commits suicide- it throws a whole extra layer into the emotions.  Even if your FIL doesn't take it well, you aren't responsible for his grief, and he can't expect you not to go on living your life.  

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The above said, it looks like you are very early in this pregnancy, there isn't necessarily a huge rush to shout from the rooftops (unless you want to.)

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Thanks. I hit 5 weeks tomorrow. In fact the only one to know other than y'all is my fiancé and our spin instructor. Lol! And I only told her because she is 2 months ahead of us in her pregnancy.
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