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#841 of 1252 Old 05-23-2014, 03:00 PM
 
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Haha we must have posted at the same time!
Yeah... Now I just have to figure out a way for SO to tell his mom we are preggo.... He still hasn't figured out how he wants to do it and we are supposed to tell her tomorrow! Lol!
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hi all.  i'm 6 wks 1 day now, and had some spotting over lunch time.  it was pinkish, now brownish, and not a whole lot of it.  no pain, no cramping.   hoping it's from the progesterone suppositories.  ultrasound has been moved up to wed. please cross your fingers that we make it until then!!


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I'm so glad you got good news, maof1!

 

shelly4, I didn't have spotting exactly, but occasionally would she specks of blood in my underwear at the beginning of this pregnancy (and also 2 days ago), which I believe was the result of irritation caused by the progesterone suppositories. I hope you have a good ultrasound on Wednesday too!


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I am right there with you on the needing a suite at the ER! Lol! Glad your little muffin is doing well.

AFM I went straight to the OB this morning as soon as I dropped my son out at school. I let them know this is the 2nd time I have spotted this pregnancy as well as I had a miscarriage in December. This Dr who saw me was super nice! I like him! I may just start seeing him instead of the lady I was seeing. Lol! He had them do an immediate ultrasound on me. I was so scared for baby! In this particular office they have a giant monitor on the wall so you can look straight at it instead of having to crook your neck to see the monitor the tech is using. I saw baby appear quickly but I couldn't see the heart or heartbeat at first. Thankfully the tech was able to see it and even though I am not far enough along to hear it strongly yet she could see it appear on the screen. 167 BPM!!! Phew! She also said baby is growing perfectly for how far along I am. I will be 10weeks on Sunday. I also informed the Dr that when she was doing the US that I felt tender and sore down there (was a vag ultrasound) when the tech was over the baby but had no tenderness or pain when she was over my cysts on my left ovary. He seemed concerned about it and decided the best course was a progesterone injection to relax my uterus due to the pain and also help protect baby. So I had the injection and go back in two weeks. I was also put on strict bed rest for the next 24hrs.
Thank you all for the concern. I was scared so bad!
On a positive I got two pictures of my butter bean and showed them to my DS who got the cutest look on his face and asked, "IS THAT THE BABY???" It was so adorable! Here is my current US picture from today.

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hi all.  i'm 6 wks 1 day now, and had some spotting over lunch time.  it was pinkish, now brownish, and not a whole lot of it.  no pain, no cramping.   hoping it's from the progesterone suppositories.  ultrasound has been moved up to wed. please cross your fingers that we make it until then!!

Hello there! Hope all goes well for you. This early time can be frightening.

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On a positive I got two pictures of my butter bean and showed them to my DS who got the cutest look on his face and asked, "IS THAT THE BABY???" It was so adorable!

I can't wait to hear your DS's reaction when he first feels the baby kick. orngbiggrin.gif (Or SEES it kick, later on.)

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I can't wait to hear your DS's reaction when he first feels the baby kick. orngbiggrin.gif (Or SEES it kick, later on.)
Oh yeah! That will be a riot!!! SO tells his mom we are expecting today.... I'm hoping it goes well... I'm nervous.
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I can officially say "hello second trimester" along with hello to the UTI from hell.  (Ughh).  I'm ecstatic because we are technically in the clear, and we made it to the point his mother didn't think would happen.  (Evil woman sometimes).  But this UTI is gettin on my nerves.  The meds can cause dizziness, neon colored urine, and nausea.  If you ever doubted the "crazy" side effects, don't.  They're not kidding about the neon color.  

 

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@badwolf092087 Hope your UTI clears up soon. Congrats on making it to the 2nd trimester!

AFM, I have determined to let go and let God. If He wants me to have the baby I will have the baby. If not then we will try again. I am letting it go to God and trusting in him. I say this because I spotted a little this morning as well even though I was told strict bed rest for 24hrs. I spoke with a friend who encouraged me to speak back to my fear or it will rule me. I do not want to live in fear so I am letting my fears go to God. Since I decided this I have felt SOOO much better. I haven't been stressing about it. I hope this helps some of you ladies as well. God bless.
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I can officially say "hello second trimester" along with hello to the UTI from hell.  (Ughh).  I'm ecstatic because we are technically in the clear, and we made it to the point his mother didn't think would happen.  (Evil woman sometimes).  But this UTI is gettin on my nerves.  The meds can cause dizziness, neon colored urine, and nausea.  If you ever doubted the "crazy" side effects, don't.  They're not kidding about the neon color.  

I hope everyone else is doing well.

Ouchers! Hope it clears up fast.

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@badwolf092087 Hope your UTI clears up soon. Congrats on making it to the 2nd trimester!

AFM, I have determined to let go and let God. If He wants me to have the baby I will have the baby. If not then we will try again. I am letting it go to God and trusting in him. I say this because I spotted a little this morning as well even though I was told strict bed rest for 24hrs. I spoke with a friend who encouraged me to speak back to my fear or it will rule me. I do not want to live in fear so I am letting my fears go to God. Since I decided this I have felt SOOO much better. I haven't been stressing about it. I hope this helps some of you ladies as well. God bless.

Hugs to you during this tough time. It's so hard when things are out of our hands. Sending you positive thoughts. I know there is nothing anyone can really say to make it better.

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@maof1amen!!

@badwolf092087 yeahhhhhh!!!! I only have 1 1/2 weeks to go until I'm there!

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Hope everyone has a great Sunday. I am feeling like complete crud today... Woke up feeling like I was going to yak... Still ate something because I knew I needed to so I could take my BP meds... Now I'm feeling gross. Haha! Time for a shower and get the kids ready. SO's mom is up from Florida and we got SO's 4 kids from his ex wife Friday so today she wants to take them to see a movie. So 3 adults and 5 kids. Movie time!
OHHHH! And SO decided to get a cute Congratulations Baby card for his mom to tell her we are pregnant. So we wrote in it congratulations on being a nana again and gave her one of the ultrasound pictures. She liked it. Of course SO was worried about how she's react and told her so because he knows how certain other people will react and she just told him, if it's something you want, and you think you can handle it and are ready then don't worry about what they will say. It's not about them. I was so glad she said that! His being nervous to tell her had me scared. Haha.

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We went to a restaurant today that had a "party room" for my birthday for lunch today. Sometime in the recent past, there must have been a girl baby shower there because there was still a foil banner up that said "It's a girl!" lol. Everyone teased me and thought that we either weren't finding out or hadn't found out yet. So I joked back and said, "Yeah, this was a total surprise to me, too." And then someone said maybe it's a premonition or whatever, and I said "Yep, it's quite literally a 'sign.' " lol. On that note, we did go ahead and get the MaterniT21 test on Friday. That particular test is brand-new to the birth center, so they weren't fully up-and-up on the procedures for it, and they had to track me down on Saturday to get me to sign the requisition form. Then with tomorrow being a holiday, I'm thinking that I won't hear from them until the middle of next week for the results since they have to send it out of state, but I'm excited to be able to find out the gender w/o an ultrasound. I'm still thinking boy, but hoping girl since DH thinks it's a girl and after three boys in a row, DD needs a sister. smile.gif

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Today has been a good day so far.  Felt well enough to run some errands, went to church, and convinced my father to come visit us this week.  I also felt the first baby kicks!  It happened in church today which we found cute, because that's when I first had a hunch that we finally had conceived.  It was only for a few seconds, but they were strong!

 

@Harmony96 that could totally be the world's way of saying "girl!"  I'm a sucker for signs the universe throws at me.  I hope you get your test results back soon!!

 

@maof1 feel better!  And glad to hear SO's mom is happy.  And she is right.  As long as you and your partner are happy, that's what matters.


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Sitting here... In my SO's granny's home... Feeling like I just want to cry and cry until I cry myself to sleep... Damn these emotions! Lol!
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Sitting here... In my SO's granny's home... Feeling like I just want to cry and cry until I cry myself to sleep... Damn these emotions! Lol!
Just let it out girl!!

@badwolf092087wow that's early to feel kicks! Such a wonderful feeling. I live the second trimester. You start to feel better, more energetic, the baby starts kicking, your belly looks pregnant and not just fat lol and you don't have to worry so much!! I'm do happy for you.

@Harmony96 you have to let us know the gender as soon as you find out!!!

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I have a question -can anyone recommend something for bloating and constipation? I'm 8 weeks, but look and feel probably twice that. I'm usually so regular and never have any GI issues, but this baby is wreaking havoc on my insides. My husband thinks it's amusing because he's usually the one with GI complaints and now my stomach of steel has gone awry.

Prune juice? Stool softener - and which kind?
I drink lots of water already.
Help please. Thank you!

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AFM: I'm in that stage where my belly just looks pudgy not pregnant. So I'm not big enough for maternity clothes but my shirts are starting to look bad on me. My pants still fit though! I just push down under my belly a little.

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I have a question -can anyone recommend something for bloating and constipation? I'm 8 weeks, but look and feel probably twice that. I'm usually so regular and never have any GI issues, but this baby is wreaking havoc on my insides. My husband thinks it's amusing because he's usually the one with GI complaints and now my stomach of steel has gone awry.

Prune juice? Stool softener - and which kind?
I drink lots of water already.
Help please. Thank you!

Try the prune juice and see if it helps you.  If not, get a recommendation for a stool softener from your doctor.  I forgot which ones they recommend.  

 

@apeydef this is apparently normal for baby two.  It scared me because I thought I was having another pain attack today.  But just tiny kicks.  Goes hand-in-hand with the never ending cartwheels muffin does at night during ultrasounds.

 

@maof1 let the tears out!  I know how uncontrollable they are, but it's alright.  Means you've got some pushy hormones on your side.  ;)

 

@innacircle you alright?  Miss your posts!

 

@Kita4 how're you doing?  Been thinking of you as well!


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Woohoo for kicks, Sarah! I've had a couple of "maybes" but nothing for sure yet, and given my history, I won't have any firm ones for about another 2.5-3 weeks. How far along were you when you felt your first baby?

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Woohoo for kicks, Sarah! I've had a couple of "maybes" but nothing for sure yet, and given my history, I won't have any firm ones for about another 2.5-3 weeks. How far along were you when you felt your first baby?

I'd have to find the baby book we started for Connor, but I'm pretty sure 16 or 17 weeks.  This was no doubt some kicks today.  I was hungry in the middle of mass, and there it was.  If we were in a comic book, you'd see "Bam!" in cool print in the frame.  Someone wanted more food and didn't like waiting. 

 

A couple of weeks is not too bad!  (Coming from Miss Impatient over here).  Are you keeping a log for the baby book?  (If you're doing one)


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My poor firstborn still doesn't have a baby book, lol. I intended one but all her "stuff" is in a drawer and on various memory cards. I post updates on enough long-standing message boards that I can go back and find that information later if I want to. But when I have some spare time (hahahha what's that?) then I do eventually think it would be a good idea to make a book for each of the kids.
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I just read on another thread that mom's were disappointed with the gender of the child instead of happy that he/she was healthy. I can't believe "gender disappointment" is a real thing. Does anyone else feel that way?

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It seems there is no limit to some people's capacity to take things to extremes and have attitudes they should've left behind in Kindergarten.
I guess if you have 4 or 5 boys and are hoping for a girl there could be a sense of disappointment, but that should be far outweighed by the joy of a healthy baby.

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It seems there is no limit to some people's capacity to take things to extremes and have attitudes they should've left behind in Kindergarten.
I guess if you have 4 or 5 boys and are hoping for a girl there could be a sense of disappointment, but that should be far outweighed by the joy of a healthy baby.

I want to reply to the thread because it was a happy and positive thread about how we're planning on revealing the gender, and in comes gender disappointment. I get it, wanting a girl and it's another boy. But that should be completely trumped by the fact the baby is happy and healthy and rolling around in there. It's upsetting. My Grams had 3 daughters and tons of granddaughters and two grandsons. She use to say that she wouldn't have mind having a son of her own, but she was happy that all three of her girls were healthy and strong. I know my hubby wants another boy, but we are also trying to fight the "curse of the firefighters." Every guy in his department has had daughter after daughter, so it's a joke he will get 3 girls before a boy again. I'm happy either way and love this muffin growing inside of me.

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I have a question -can anyone recommend something for bloating and constipation? I'm 8 weeks, but look and feel probably twice that. I'm usually so regular and never have any GI issues, but this baby is wreaking havoc on my insides. My husband thinks it's amusing because he's usually the one with GI complaints and now my stomach of steel has gone awry.

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I drink lots of water already.
Help please. Thank you!

I had to eat lots of prunes to get through the first trimester when I was pregnant with my son. Prune juice would probably work even better. Good luck!


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I just read on another thread that mom's were disappointed with the gender of the child instead of happy that he/she was healthy. I can't believe "gender disappointment" is a real thing. Does anyone else feel that way?

Quite frankly I feel it is completely selfish. Especially as someone who has lost a baby, it pisses me off. Think of the poor baby, unwanted from the womb.
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I just read on another thread that mom's were disappointed with the gender of the child instead of happy that he/she was healthy. I can't believe "gender disappointment" is a real thing. Does anyone else feel that way?
I do think there is a true thing as gender disappointment. But I also feel it should only go so far. I say this because I have a DS. My SO has 3 DS's and 1 DD. I would LOVE to have a DD this time around. My mother and a few other friends say it is a DD this time. Although I would love a DD this time I will be happy so long as baby is healthy. I do worry though if it is another DS that i will act disappointed and that is what worries me most.
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I do think there is a true thing as gender disappointment. But I also feel it should only go so far. I say this because I have a DS. My SO has 3 DS's and 1 DD. I would LOVE to have a DD this time around. My mother and a few other friends say it is a DD this time. Although I would love a DD this time I will be happy so long as baby is healthy. I do worry though if it is another DS that i will act disappointed and that is what worries me most.

I completely understand what you're saying.  But the problem with the other person I'm having is they pretty much expressed how disappointed they'll be now, but "hoping" they'll be less disappointed at birth.  It kind of just irks me.


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I do think there is a true thing as gender disappointment. But I also feel it should only go so far. I say this because I have a DS. My SO has 3 DS's and 1 DD. I would LOVE to have a DD this time around. My mother and a few other friends say it is a DD this time. Although I would love a DD this time I will be happy so long as baby is healthy. I do worry though if it is another DS that i will act disappointed and that is what worries me most.

I agree. I have always wanted to have a daughter, but I have accepted the fact that we don't always get what we want. I have always believed I would have 2 boys, and I am okay with that. I know that by expecting a boy, I will not be disappointed, and if I have a girl, I will be pleasantly surprised! But I am not worried about the sex right now; I am worried about whether or not it is healthy.

 

I had a prenatal appointment today. There was nothing interesting in my ultrasound results. Both ovaries were normal. (I was worried something was wrong because she spent SO MUCH time looking at them). The doctor decided to listen to the heart beat via doppler, which surprised me because he has previously refused to try before 12 weeks. He warned me not to be concerned if we couldn't hear it, and then it took a really long time and I thought he might give up. We could hear my heart beat nice and strong, but eventually there was a whiplike sound, and he said, "That's it!" He counted and said, "it's fast, but it's still very small." FHR = 180. Fundal height = 13 cm. I had been concerned because I cannot feel my uterus at all. As others have said, I look like I've gained weight (although I haven't gained very much, <5lbs), but I don't look pregnant. Also, I thought I might be feeling the baby move last week, and this week, I'm not, so I have been worried that something happened since the ultrasound. Which would suck since we just started telling people.

 

We told DS and he has been our official spokesperson. We went to a family gathering yesterday (my grandmother's 97th birthday) and he told everyone, "My Mommy has a baby in her tummy." The thing is that everybody arrived separately, so as each new family grouping came in, those who had been there previously said, "DS, tell them your news!" and he did.

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@NSmomtobe I completely feel you on the DS thing. I have a feeling it's a DS this time too. Lol! I'll definitely be pleasantly surprised if it's a girl. SO is supposed to tell the kids tonight that we have a baby on the way.
As for the lady who says she will be disappointed if baby is not the gender she wants, I'm sure once the baby is here she will be happy. Don't let others bother you like that. It's just extra stress none of us preggo mommies need.
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