DDC again over here-
Radiolab- if you're not familiar with it, it's hard to explain the show, but beautifully crafted story telling slash reporting I guess- did a great piece called "23 weeks 6 days." http://www.radiolab.org/story/288733-23-weeks-6-days/
I don't know that I'd advise listening to it now, but overall it's a baby born then, her ups and downs in the NICU, she is happy and a toddler now, told better than any NICU story I've ever heard. I listened to it about 1 year after DD's NICU experience and sobbed in a therapeutic way. Anyways... The point here is the parents were talking with the doctors before the birth about statistics, and choices etc, and it was all very grim and absolute. Then the NICU nurse practitioner came in, and said, let's just see what happens and make what ever choices we can at the point where we need to. You can follow the baby's lead, start treatments then stop them, etc. it's one of the things that sticks with me the most about the show.
My dear friend is a NICU nurse. Her favorite babies are the 23-24-25 weekers. Mostly because she likes the complexity and longevity of it- and she finds it overall to be a positive job she does, likes going from a tiny being with maximum support to a pudgy good ol' baby. this is not all about grim-ness. I don't know if it helps- but knowing their are people out there who see 24 weekers as a routine part of their day-to-day lives helped add a drop of normalization to all this when I had my DD.
Dealing with parents is honestly what NICU doctors do WORST. No one wants to give false hope, and I get that. I remember angrily the doctor who assured me, with salesman-smoothness, my DD wouldn't have retinopathy (which she did) and that she'd be in the transition nursery in a few days (weeks later...), etc. I found it better to hear and talk in "if-then" ways, and what "criteria" had to be met for the next step. Because really that's what matters. The nurses speak in this way more so, I found.
Netflix got me through a lot in the NICU. I also read a lot, although oddly the only one that comes to mind was re-reading Dracula.