I am very pleased to see this thread and am so glad that you mamas have come together to support and embrace one another. It is sooo needed.
I have moved this and all other C-Birth related threads to the I'm Pregnant board. After reviewing the VBAC forum we felt it best to host C-Birth discussions here in I'm Pregnant and allow the VBAC board to concentrate on VBAC discussions and support.
I also want to suggest that you C-Birth mamas start a tribe in the Finding Your Tribe board. Should threads get lost here in the activity of the I'm Pregnant board you may find a tribe thread more constant and supportive for you as a group.
I joining in late but.....I had a c/s in April 2002 due to FTP and the fact that I was contracting so hard I was verging on uterine rupture 9 days of "actual labor" (the dr's term) and only to 3cm and 95%. They finally induced me hoping that would help but they wouldn't believe me when I kept saying he was sunny side up...wouldn't do an u/s or try to turn him...the dr was LATE!!!
Anyway, I didn't feel like I bonded any less with ds then I would have with a vaginal birth. He was in my arms about 30 minutes after birth but he never left my sight. The only bf problem I had was that my milk came in 4 days late. My babe was STARVING!!!
My recovery was fast (I went home a day early. The dr was impressed how soon I was up and about)...even though the effects were long.... I so wanted a natural childbirth. I was aggrivated at myself for days..but then I realized that my life and my baby's health were more important....besides..I blame my c/s on my dr!!!
I also agree that after dh looked at me and said, "It's a boy and he's peeing!!" I forgot all about not having the birth I wanted!