I am not sure where to post this, so I am posting it here. I have a beautiful DS who is seven months old and often think of getting pregnant again (when our family is ready) and dread the M/S, but love the rest of the pregnancy. Anyhow, DS was born at 9'12 ounces with no meds by a midwife in the hospital after about an 18 hour labor (I did most at home and was in the hospital laboring less than 5 hours). I took Evening Primrose Oil orally at the end of the pregnancy, drank RRL tea, and also took PN-6 (Dr. Christopher's prenatal tea). My Mw did perineal massage with olive oil and and let the baby crown for what seemed like forever to me and my doula applied warm compresses and despite all of these efforts, I had a third degree tear. I was soooo uncomfortable after the birth and could hardly sit up to breastfeed when DS cried in the middle of the night. I sat on donuts for a week, and lived on arnica and herbal sitz baths and was so miserable. My question I guess is, is it likely that the scarred tissue that was stitched up is less likely to stretch again and I will have to contend with a major tear again or does the skin "remember" and stretch better the second time around (I guess if everything else is pretty similar such as size and position of the baby, position for pushing, perineal massage, etc..)?/ I also did prenatal yoga, but could not bring myself to do prenatal perineal massage. I just couldn't get myself to do it. I just think back to that postpartum time and couldn't even walk through the door of the hospital-had to be in a wheelchair and could barely sit in the car. I want to avoid this terrible tearing so badly in the fututre. I am thankful and blessed to have a healthy baby boy -hope I don't sound too much like a complainer. WOuld love anybody's input. TIA!