what a cascade or events from 1 U/S appt!
1st of all, I don't know how high your BP is & I wouldn't dream of telling you whether or not an induction is the right thing for you. However, I completely support you in doing what you decide is right for you & your baby, even if it is NOT what your Dr says you should do!
It sounds like you have educated yourself & have a good idea of what kind of things happen after an intervention like an induction, and now you are facing the hard part: how to avoid an induction if you think it is unneccessary! It is so difficult to avocate for yourself & your baby in the face of "Obstetrical authority" but that is what you must do now.
Think of your current Dr and your 2nd opinion Dr as resources; specialized consultants that you are paying to provide you with their expert *opinions*- they are not the decision makers here, *you are*!! Seek out a variety of expert opinions (2 OBs will likely think the same thing, a lay midwife or CNM might see things differently) talk to your doula, info from books, etc. It sounds like you have been cking into the link between BP, PIH, & pre-eclampsia. Get all your info together & make sure your Drs know that you know what you are talking about.
2nd) Find out what you can do to bring your BP down- are you staying wound up about this, nervous, & anxious? Are you doing any relaxation exercises? How about some quiet music & some gentle affirmations & visualizations? Breathe alot. Maybe you are already doing these things, but I wanted to mention them. No matter what is happening around you, you have the strength to protect your baby & yourself. You are right that people should not mess with pregnant ladies! They know not what they do!
I am wishing you strength & power to birth your child in safety & health. Keep us updated!