btw this would probably have made more sense posted on the WOHM's message board, if we had one... since we do not yet I put it here
Bleh I really hate it when I find out things on the weekend when I can't do anything about it!
My former boss, who actually resigned (for some unknown reason) on Feb 11th grrr!
told me I could have my medical provider put me on maternity leave anytime up to 4 weeks prior to my due date. I asked, at the time, if there were some policies I could read over in regards to maternity and he said, "no, this is just the standard here and maternity is considered short term disability and falls under FMLA" So I figured, alright. He asked me when I might plan to go off then about a 6 weeks prior to my due date so that he had some idea of when to call in for coverage. I told him that 38 weeks seemed good to me. So that was the plan.
I called the benefits department and got the paper work and they informed me to make sure I didn't fill it out and date it until they took me off work, so that I did. I waited until 2/12/03 to send it in.
Well, today I am called by my partner and told that she got an email yesterday!!!! Why not call me yesterday?!?!?!?!
Or better yet, why not freaking call me at home instead of sending email to my place of work, where I am obviously not at?! from the benefits department saying that because no medical complication was stated that my leave is not in effect yet since I have not delivered the baby. And I must make other arrangements! Meaning use my vacation or 1 personal day (only 8 hours btw) I get annually.
I am also pretty annoyed that I am only hearing about this 10 days after I took off work! WTF??! If this stuff wasn't in proper order why wait this long to inform me?
Ok I am pissed now. I was misinformed by my boss and was given no policy to read. Now he isn't even there for me to at least yell at
for misguiding me!
It makes me more angry when I think about how wrong all this is in the first place. My friend's sister lives in Calgary and she was going to stop working a month prior to her due date, but decided to take off earlier! Earlier?!?! And now she is off for 6 months after her baby was born plus she is being paid 60% salary the entire time!
Some would say I should be thankful that my job is protected 12 weeks under FMLA and
that my company will pay me a portion (60%) of my salary for up to 12 weeks, but I don't really feel that lucky.
This might be acceptable if I were not the sole source of income in my family. If I had a husband's salary to fall back on. I do not, though.
On the other hand I do see what a drain on a company's resources and the economy it would be have overly generous maternity leaves. I am torn, though.
Is there a double standard out there?
I can honestly say I once could see why women had to fight so hard to get equal treatment in the workplace. If they're having babies and taking off for extended periods of time that is going to be very disruptive to a work enviornment. Hell, I was pretty annoyed last year when one of the women where I work took off for her maternity leave and I had to change my schedule and work every other weekend instead of every 3rd weekend. Then when she came back she wanted to rearrange everyone's schedule because of the day care for her baby. The nerve! Why's her life and her needs suddenly more important than mine?
Well, now I am in that situation. I see just how unfair it is from my side to not respect my wishes to work less hours and take off a week or 2 early to prepare for the birth. I see how 8 weeks post partum is the minimum I am even considering to return to work. (the guy covering for me thinks 4 weeks is plenty
I guess there is no obvious answer. It all comes down to what does society value most perhaps. What do you sacrafice to have the things you want most.
I suppose maybe if I wanted to do this the right way (my ideal way) I should have been more traditional and marry a rich man to take care of me so I could raise my kids in my ideal way.
Thanks for reading my little rant.. just had to get that all out. I'm sure I will figure out something or I can get my midwife to rewrite the form or something, or I can use up all my vacation for the year
Which sucks! but we've got to make sacrafices for what we really want, right? Dwelling on this and getting pissed off isn't going to help me anways... So I am going to relax and take it easy until I can get something done about this monday. This will pass, right? Everything will work out for the best I am sure. (I hope!) *sigh*