|Originally posted by hahamommy
Call brother #3 first and brother #2 last on the birth day!!
I think that is an excellent idea!
Well... everytime we think about *maybe* telling Mike's fam about this baby (they're the ones who behaved as if Xiola's death was a greater loss for Mike's mom then it was for us, her parents... understandably, we found this offensive) they go and do something even more psycho!
Like, we were thinking of telling them around Christmas, and then Mike's uncle flamed him in an email saying how Mike was, and I quote, "sh*tting on" his mother by not "being there" for her and appreciating how difficult Xiola's death was for her (um, SHE chose to move 3 hours away from us, we have no car, he calls weekly, and if she has nothing else going on in her life Mike really can't be held responsible for that)... so that's how we found out that she was badmouthing Mike to whoever would listen. It did a LOT of damage to their relationship and now he hardly ever calls, which she blames on me for 'controlling' him (she said this to him when I walked out on her because she was being disrespectful, oh that woman is a trip)... actually it is because he is disgusted with her, but I can understand that blaming me is easier for her then facing up to the fruits of her selfishness.
GRRRRR! We were talking about waiting till Spawn is here to tell them, but after just writing that (and trust me, that's the *abridged* version, lol!) I don't want to tell them EVER!!! I cannot have that kind of negative and selfish energy around me or my baby.
Whoa, sorry to jack your thread! back to the OP... B#2 sucks, ignore him and share your happy news with B#3. If B#3 wonders why you did'nt tell him sooner, things have just been crazy lately, mention how crappy you've been feeling with nausea... that should be explanation enough, lol.