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In the thread for plus size pregnancy pics there's been an interest in having a forum for plus size pregnancy chatter, so I'm hoping this can be it!!

Come on plus size mamas that are pregnant...ask questions, get support, etc.
 
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#327 ·
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Originally Posted by MotherWren View Post
I saw your post and thought it was very eloquent. I'm kind of hesitant to post there again, but I already spoke my piece.
I am pregnant and obese too. It IS scary the way that we can be perceived by others. Hopefully though, those ignorant ideas will never get them anywhere that matters.
This may sound bad but I think I am a more informed mom than many skinny moms who I see spanking, formula feeding, practicing CIO and feeding their kids nothing but saturated fat and refined sugar. I DO know about good nutrition despite my size. Ok sorry that was a little


Thank you! I agree our parenting should be merit based and not size based. I don't think this is off topic at all for a plus sized pregnant mama forum. I have been thin and pregnant and obese and pregnant. There is a difference in how we are treated. My first pregnancy I gained sixteen pounds and was 154 when I delivered. I heard about the weight then too! I was so hungry all through that pregnancy and my poor babe was only 5#13 ounces at term birth. I am certain she was hungry too! Being obese makes it so hard because I really feel a lot of prejudice from the nurses and OB.
 
#328 ·
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Originally Posted by MotherWren View Post
I saw your post and thought it was very eloquent. I'm kind of hesitant to post there again, but I already spoke my piece.
I am pregnant and obese too. It IS scary the way that we can be perceived by others. Hopefully though, those ignorant ideas will never get them anywhere that matters.
This may sound bad but I think I am a more informed mom than many skinny moms who I see spanking, formula feeding, practicing CIO and feeding their kids nothing but saturated fat and refined sugar. I DO know about good nutrition despite my size. Ok sorry that was a little

Same here. ANd I was just talking about this with a friend. I bet a LOT of obese people know a LOT about nutrition. I have been obsessed with it over the years...I think about food and nutrition constantly...
 
#329 ·
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Originally Posted by mamamoo View Post
Yeah, that was a truly sickening merry go round I got myself caught up on.


It would be nice if we good have a safe place to talk about stuff, but you know the OP did say all sizes welcome...maybe that was the issue?

Hi! That's me!
FTR, I think fat women and co-sleeping go together like milk and cookies. I really doubt Venus of Willendorf had an Arm's Reach Co-sleeper!

I am plus-sized but not pregnant yet, but hope to be soon, so I will be lurking this thread. Thank you all who commented on my controversial thread...can't believe there's a controversy!
: Hope everyone is having wonderful pregnancies. I am excited to get pregnant again, because I think I've found a truly positive, plus-size friendly midwife.
 
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We saw the OB today and he is not going to keep me Baby looks OK for now but he wants me to see the Peris instead for the duration of my pregnancy. He wants me to be followed closely because of the surgeries I had for the endo. So we are going to be on pins and needles during this pregnancy and hope to get to 38 weeks.
 
#331 ·
oh momuveught2b!

what does he think the risks are? did you have surgery ON your uterus? or just an big abdomen scar?
i wonder what the birth professionals on the BP threads would suggest???

Ammaarah, oooh milk n cookies. dont you know syaing that around a bunch of fat preggos will cause a stampede? lol. kidding!!!! but that sounds SO good right now.
i think i am deficient in chocolate chips right now


last night i had a wicked BH contax, i am only 16 weeks and DH was STILL able to feel it under my HUGE belly/belly flap. he was like "wow thats rock hard! surrounded with fluffy love" geez i love that man!!!
 
#333 ·
Yes, it got yanked again. I said something, not anything offensive or even directed to the pps but the individual who was rather hostile in my opinion and didn't have a dog in the fight since she stated she is not obese jumped right on it and got all defensive again. I don't know if there were any more posts but it got pulled again. I

I am unhappy about it because I think there is a lot of good info there and that a mom who is pregnant and concerned needs to be able to read our experiences and thoughts on the subject. We get enough grief for having weight problems. We don't need anyone telling us we are too fat to have babies, co-sleep, nurse or anything else. If we could all be size two I am sure we would be but the great creator didn't see fit to make us all the same KWIM.

I am seeing a peri because of scar tissue in my uterus. The OB is scared I will develop precretia. He didn't say this but I think he is also freaked out because this is the heaviest I have ever started a pregnancy and I will be 43. I just want a healthy baby. I have not gained anything yet and I am exercising and watching what I eat.
 
#334 ·
So just like IRL someone else's prejudice is more important.


I don't even know if that is coming out right. What I mean to say is, that because someone else has a problem with plus sized mom's co-sleeping, we have to go back in the closet so as not to "rock the boat."

Aww prejudice is alive and kicking.

ETA: am I still allowed on this thread since my babe is 3 months old? This thread has been around for awhile..
 
#336 ·
nope your not. I get the feeling there are at least a couple other MOS on our Portland thread.

Have you used and Ergo? We are going to go into town to look at them later. (I had to steal from my secret money stash due to the UA volition at DH's work that screwed up his order.) I am afraid I will go look at them and they wont fit.
That is my fear about everything. I go try it on and it doesn't fit. One size fits all is a joke and even "adjustable" stuff often doesn't fit.
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Originally Posted by AddysMama View Post
Milagros has the Ergo AND the extenders.
i know Arwyn is, and Angie is and Kristen is. but thats it to my knowledge.
Well DH has to go to SE for something so we are going to Generations, but I am plotting the address of Milagros into the GPS just in case Generations doesn't have what I am looking for.

I know I called Generations looking for nursing bra's and they only carried ridiculous sizes, like 34 F.... Hello I am looking for a 42E/F.. "Oh they make them in that size?"
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#341 ·
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Originally Posted by aniT View Post
I know I called Generations looking for nursing bra's and they only carried ridiculous sizes, like 34 F.... Hello I am looking for a 42E/F.. "Oh they make them in that size?"
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Lane Bryant has some in that size. Whatever you find will be expensive. Be sure to buy a size larger than you need because I find the cotton bras shrink with washing. I find it easier just to wear the LB all cotton crossover style bra and pull the cups to the side. I haven't tested that though in the early months when I am prone to plugged ducts.
 
#342 ·
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Originally Posted by momuveight2B View Post
Yes, it got yanked again. I said something, not anything offensive or even directed to the pps but the individual who was rather hostile in my opinion and didn't have a dog in the fight since she stated she is not obese jumped right on it and got all defensive again. I don't know if there were any more posts but it got pulled again. I

I am unhappy about it because I think there is a lot of good info there and that a mom who is pregnant and concerned needs to be able to read our experiences and thoughts on the subject. We get enough grief for having weight problems. We don't need anyone telling us we are too fat to have babies, co-sleep, nurse or anything else. If we could all be size two I am sure we would be but the great creator didn't see fit to make us all the same KWIM.

I am seeing a peri because of scar tissue in my uterus. The OB is scared I will develop precretia. He didn't say this but I think he is also freaked out because this is the heaviest I have ever started a pregnancy and I will be 43. I just want a healthy baby. I have not gained anything yet and I am exercising and watching what I eat.

Oy! What a bummer about the thread. I don't know about precretia. I better go educate myself. I can't stand not knowing things!
 
#343 ·
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Originally Posted by aniT View Post
I know I called Generations looking for nursing bra's and they only carried ridiculous sizes, like 34 F.... Hello I am looking for a 42E/F.. "Oh they make them in that size?"
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I've had to buy all of my nursing bras online, but that's pretty normal for me unfortunately since my regular size is a G and now that I'm 37 weeks, it's an I


Anyway, I've ordered from two sites who carry larger nursing bras, and both were great.

The first is Birth and Baby. They have $1.00 shipping, a really easy return/exchange policy, and a size calculator that actually resulted in me getting a bra that fit the first time! There are also reviews about every bra explaining how they fit and which bras run small. My only complaint is that I've ordered a couple of bras only to find out when I received a partial shipment that one of the ones I ordered was out of stock.

The other place I've ordered from is Breakout Bras. They have free shipping on everything, and after the first order, they send an email coupon for 10% off each order on top of the free shipping. I haven't tried to return or exchange anything with them yet, but they seem to have a pretty good selection with good prices.

Hope that helps!
 
#344 ·
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Originally Posted by MotherWren View Post
Oy! What a bummer about the thread. I don't know about precretia. I better go educate myself. I can't stand not knowing things!
I think it is spelled precreta. It is where the placenta attaches and grows into old scar tissue in the uterus from previous surgeries or C-section. It can't be removed in the normal way since the placenta eats through the uterine wall and into the bladder or other organs. Requires C-section delivery with risk of blood transfusions and hysterectomy.

I guess we may be OK if we are monitored with specialized ultrasound on a regular basis so that before anything that bad happens we can be delivered.
 
#345 ·
just how much scar tissue do you have?! i have a giant c-sect scar at the bottom of mine, and while i am worried about my placenta on it, its more because i am worried about its seperating come time for it to come out.
couldnt you do just a few u/s? i guess i dont know the WHOLE of your situation so my bafflement is because its like trying to see the whole pucture when only a few puzzle peices are in place. i am sure the Drs all want the best for you. is there any way to get a midwifes opinion?
 
#346 ·
Midwives are illegal in our state. I know of a few lay midwives but as far as I know they are not size friendly. I have never had a c-section. I have easy pregnancies and natural births. I have gotten heavier with each one but I don't think this is the real concern this time.

Last pregnancy I went to 42 weeks and was developing high blood pressure, I felt really, really bad so agreed to my first induction. I did it without an epidural because I knew I could and I am scared to death of epidurals. It was bad enough having my first IV during labor and having to keep that moniter belt on. I was tethered but not forced into bed. Anyways I have a good delivery with three pushes but the placenta would not come out so the doctor went after it. He tells me now four years later that it would not come out because of placenta increta it had grown into the muscle wall.

When DD was a year old my periods came back and they were really, really heavy so I went to the doctor several times to see what was going on. Because of our insurance it was nine months before I got an US. I had adnemyosis (a large tumor growing into the muscle wall of the uterus). This is caused by trauma to the lining of the uterus often after childbirth. I'm no expert this is just what I know about me so someone else may know lots more about this. We really wanted one more child and did not agree with the OB that I should have an immediate hysterectomy. I had heavy periods but no bleeding. This OB has tortured me for years about my weight anyways always saying my infertility problems were because I was fat. I had blocked tubes and then two ectopics. Nothing to do with being fat.

Anyway we went back to the infertility doc that helped us get pregnant with last DD and he suggested we do surgery to remove the tumor. So we did twice, hysteroscopy through the vagina, no cuts into the uterus or belly. I got pregnant but miscarried. We went back again and also traveled to see another specialist. Both agreed that we should do hysteroscopy again and then get pregnant. We did and we are pregnant now and baby so far looks great.

But I have a sub chrionic hematoma that started at 8weeks and have been spotting ever since, almost five weeks now. That is a worry and then the OB is scaring the heell out of us about the scar tissue possibly being invaded by the placenta causing percreta. So he doesn't want to take care of me and is sending me to the peri where they have specialized ultrasound equipment.

I am also fat, no high blood pressure or diabetes. I am in good health otherwise.

I am trying to be calm about this. Right now I don't have enough information to know what to expect and it sounds like from the OB that it will take a few ultrasounds with the peri over the months to see how things might turn out.
 
#347 ·
ok.
first it sounds to me like there are a bunch of sizist care providers that you are seeing.
thats not good for making you feel good about your body and its not conducive to building self trust in your own body.

second, maybe post a thread in birth professionals for one of the lovely midwives here to answer. my own midwife is on MDC and is FABULOUS. i trust her to give me an honest knowledgable answer to ANY question i throw her way. she is all about informed consent.

i hope it isnt anything to really stress about.

what state are you in? i feel so badly for women that live in states that midwives are illegal in. how SUCKY.
 
#348 ·
I can't recall if I posted an intro post. So, I'll do it again! I'm Meri--mommy to Arden and a new little one growing inside. I'm six weeks along. I am in school part time because I need to keep my student loans in deferment. Anyway.. I'm taking a 5 credit Spanish course which left me with another credit to cover. Many colleges in California require that you take one 'gym' class to graduate--and you can transfer those credits. It is my plan to transfer to a state college for a Masters program in Midwifery once I'm done staying home with my children (We're shooting for 5 years of having a mom at home).

Anyway.. I signed up for a gym class. It's an aerobic circuit class. It doesn't require any strenuous (sp?) workout or excessive cardio. The gym teachers have agreed to let me make 140 my target heart rate. Any machines in the circuit that I can't use, I am just supposed to spend the time in the routine for those machines walking in place. Things like the crunch machine or the leg lifts (which requires you to lay flat on your stomach are out for me) are out for me.

I feel okay about taking this class--and getting a 45 minutes work out in 4 days a week. It will be a light work out, but I've even talked to the instructor about excercises and specific machines I can use to strengthen my knees, thighs, and legs for labor and delivery. I think I might even take another round of this course in the summer time just to keep my muscles happy and strong--which they've never really been.

This would be my work out.

10 minutes of stretching
10 minutes of walking on the treadmill (at 3-4 mph)
18 minutes of circuit work (that's how long it takes)
7-10 minutes for cooling down and stretching

This can, potentially be a very light, healthy heart rate work out.

My only concern is that everything I read says that I shouldn't start working out in pregnancy. It's still VERY EARLY in my pregnancy and I assume that since I already walk with regularity (thing 2-3 miles 2-4 times a week chasing after my daughter!) that I'm not in HORRIBLE shape. I am over weight--yes--but my blood pressure is 118/78. I'm not unhealthy in that.

What do you all think?
 
#351 ·
does look like she has issues with size. most care providers dont mention anything about eating habits nutrition to skinny women unless it looks like there is a problem happening.
its probably just a mild underlaying of issue she has with women of size, but its there. at least thats how i read it.

its important for our HCPs to have NO issues with our weight and trust our bodies whether we are 150 or 350. everyone needs to eat healthily during pregnancy, skinny, fat, and inbetween. but it looks like she was assuming because you are a woman of size that you DONT know about nutrition and taking care of your body, and that bothers me ALOT.
 
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