Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Putting boobs in babies' mouths!
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I agree that just listening to her is the most important thing. I just had an emergency C-section after 12 hours of labor without pain medication a couple of weeks ago. My first was born at home with a midwife, with no intervention whatsoever. It has been very hard and people really do not want to go past "Well, at least you have a healthy baby, that's all that really matters." They don't want to know how painful the recovery is or how you feel something was taken from you, or that you did not really give birth, etc. I think it is very important for C/S moms to know it is okay to be happy about the baby and still be sad about the birth experience. Being able to tell you what no one else is willing to hear her say will be of tremendous benefit to her.
Also, ditto the La Leche League advice. She absolutely should find someone who can help her with the breastfeeding. I'm so sorry that is not going well for her at least. I also was not able to breastfeed on the table and she was given formula. Fortunately they finger fed her, so she took to the breast later. My sister had trouble breastfeeding after a difficult birth and I was able to help her one on one and she was also able to find a LLL leader whose home she could go to for one on one help. It makes such a difference to have someone help you in person. If nothing else she could go to a meeting and get some help there. It will also be good for her to get out, too.
Single mom by choice to Sophia, age 18, and Eleanor, age 12, and mother hen to too many nursing students to count!