I understand your stress, believe me!
I have one of the most sensitive uterus' in the universe.
First pregnancy: CX started at about 18 weeks & I progressively had a greater # per day as my pg went on. I was eventually put on bedrest & Terbutaline due to them. My dd was born during my 3rd premature labor, at 35 weeks. She had a severe intestinal defect that required major surgery, which I have always believed led to her being born early (she would've been stillborn if born at term), NOT my crazy# of CX.
2nd pg: CX started up at 11 weeks. I had several a day through my 2nd trimester & then several per hour my entire 3rd tri. The OB suggested bedrest & was all freaked out about my other premature labor. My 2nd baby was born 3 days after his edd, perfectly healthy.
3rd pg: CX started up at 10 weeks, & I wasn't surprised. *EVerything* makes me contract when I'm pg- tight clothes, the seat belt, having to pee, anyone pushing on my belly, sex, laying flat on my back, walking up/down stairs, doing absolutely nothing. My MW was concerned & had me monitored at the hosp. a few times. I contracted every 7-9 mins. constantly!!
I wasn't concerned though. AFter 3 pregnancies full of nonstop CX-- I knew what real labor felt like & those were never it. My 3rd baby was born 3 days after his edd as well, perfectly healthy.
My BH CX are extremely annoying, & often pretty freaking painful. I'm already dreading another 6 mos of them when we TTC in a couple months. But I'd choose irritable uterus over hyperemisis anyday, lemme tell ya!
Re vaginal exams, personally I say get them only if they help put your mind at ease. I did get a few done during my last tri because there were days that I would spend the entire day contracting every 10 mins & I thought I'd get a quick check "just to be sure", & it did always put my mind at ease to learn that all those CX weren't doing anything but giving my uterus a workout.
It's really weird contracting all the time... even though I was pretty confident that I'd go to term & my body's just wierd, I'd still have moments of concern & get a check.
ANYWAY, I'll stop blabbing about myself now.