Originally Posted by HeavenLeighGrace
DD was almost 9# and my mw hinted around the appointment before my sugar test that if I kept gaining weight then I wouldn't be able to have a VBAC because baby would be too big.
: I was a bit offended and discouraged by what she said because all my research I did on VBAC told me that I could VBAC regardless of my weight.
I just don't want to be scared into a c-section. I know what I want, but when it comes down to it I have a hard time making it happen!
I'm starting to come to the conclusion though that my mw is not the kind of mw I want! But she is the only mw in my area who accepts my insurance!
I get it now. Like I mentioned, both of my BILs were over 10lbs at birth and my MIL did not have C-sections. But, she's much larger boned and taller than me. I'm just 5'2" with small bones and short-waisted, so that's why we were so "smushed" and I now have a hernia. In fact, DS hardly "kicked" at all, he just "shifted."
I read that the baby grows to the size of the mother, regardless of the size of the father. So, if you are larger boned and taller then the size shouldn't be such an issue. If, however, the baby is growing larger because of excess glucose and excess insulin production, that's another issue.
When my (then new) OB/GYN left her practice and I had to find a new one (again) I went ahead and passed on the "alternative" birthing center as I was already concerned I would have complications. That said, what worries me about the other posts, and posts on other threads, is that it sounds like it's a "competition" to have the most "alternative" birth and that some posters would prefer to "cheat" the tests to avoid a hospital birth. That concerns me. I do agree that we need to question and understand our choices, and avoid mainstream medications if they are more harmful than healing when there is an alternative with fewer side effects. (DS - 19 months has never had antibiotics or synthetic ear drops. Just holistic remedies other than a couple of doses of Tylenol and a few applications of Neosporin on a cut.) But, there is
a time and place for those mainstream practices.
As I wrote, I was being induced because of my high blood pressure (only in pregnancy). I actually had to be told I was having contractions at first as I was hooked up to a machine so they knew, but I did not even feel them at first! They told DH it was okay to go get something to eat saying it could be hours. Well, he barely made it to the delivery! It all suddenly went wrong. My SIL said she saw the look on his face when he returned and was told what was happening, and he looked like he thought he'd never see us again! Made it just in time for the delivery, as DS was almost out as DH entered the room. So, I'm really
glad I was in the hospital for my birth. Was I dissapointed that even though I'd already chosen a hospital birth that I had to be induced? Yes. Was I even more dissapointed I had to have a C-section and not experience "giving birth?" Yes. Am I glad I have a healthy child? Outweighs the other dissapointments by far.
If I were pregnant again I probably would skip the glucose testing and go right to the diet and monitoring as I wouldn't want to put myself through all that eating poorly for the days prior when I'm pretty sure I'd have it anyway. But, I now know more about the condition, even though I made it through okay for my DS I've had a very hard time recovering, so I'd like to be much better prepared next time, if there is one...
I'm rambling, but I guess my point again is to say to everyone not to try to cheat the tests. You really could have something wrong, and it can all go wrong very quickly. Better to be informed and risk missing out on a homebirth (or other alternative birth) than to risk, for example, a child with cerebral palsy. I mean, I really thought about the local alternative birthing center, and I think that would be so lovely. In the end I'm glad I went mainstream as it really was called for in our case. And, I still say so in retrospect. There were other issues, such as breastfeeding, that I would definitely do differently. I did not know that, among other things, PCOS would affect my milk. Or that when DS let out his cry when nursing on my right side it was because of his yet to be diagnosed
torticollis (even though I kept saying to DH I thought he was in pain); he was actually in pain and wouldn't nurse on that side. I would find a consultant who had actually nursed a child at some point in her life to help me! I did nurse for months, but supplemented with formula, as well. So, I would be better prepared for trying to nurse exclusively. But, the rest of it... I would have preferred a different experience, but would not change anything I chose or had done given the circumstances.
So, please everyone, don't misunderstand
: and think I'm against "alternative" births. I'm not at all! I'm just saying that even though it is dissapointing some people
might just need more mainstream treatment and/or deliveries.