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ugh! i'm so frustrated...we were so happy to have found a name that we both like and it didn't take hours and hours of debate like it did with DS, but now everyone we tell is like, "oh, well, it's not something i would choose..." or "i'll let you know what i think in a few days, maybe it will grow on me..." part of me just wants to say screw them, it's my kid but then another part of me doesn't want my kid to grow up with people making a face whenever he's introduced! ugh

fwiw, the name is warren

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Warren is way more normal than any names we have chosen, and I like it, FWIW I have to tell my mom beforehand what we plan to name our kids because otherwise she would have no idea how to spell or pronounce it Our weird kid names DO grow on her though... and it IS your kid! Name him what you want to name him. You can't please everyone, and your child can always get a name change later if he wants to Though I think Warren is a very nice name :

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I really like the name Warren - very cute! And unique too. People can be so insensitive about name choices, downright rude, especially when you announce it before the baby's born. So sorry you're getting negative feedback. I love your choice.
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Warren is pretty normal. If you really like it, use it. They'll get used to it.
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I named my kids "different" names kinda...Tanner , Selah (see-luh) and a boy Lane. Now my Brother in law calls him(Lane) driveway! Its pretty normal for other poeple not to just LOVE your choice of names! But hey, if you both love it that is what matters! Especially if it means something to you. Theyll get used to it!! Dont let them bother you
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If my baby's a girl? Her name is Aiobhlinn. You could start telling people you're naming the baby Hamish, so that when he's born and you name him Warren they accept it better. People are weird, I like the name Warren, I think it's a fine name.

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I'm kind of surprised that you are getting that reaction with the name Warren. It's a pretty normal name IMO. One, it isn't their choice and two, it will grow on them. Congrats on finding a name that you both like so easily -- that can be such a long process!

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Warren is a very nice name. I was waiitng t hear it was some totally out there freaky name...but Warren? It's a totally fine name.

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I found that you cant please anyone with name choices

I got flack for both my choices. Oh well I am happy with the names we picked. If others arnt they dont have to use them

One of my relatives still throws off on my using a X instead of Z for my ds.

 
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ugh! i'm so frustrated...we were so happy to have found a name that we both like and it didn't take hours and hours of debate like it did with DS, but now everyone we tell is like, "oh, well, it's not something i would choose..." or "i'll let you know what i think in a few days, maybe it will grow on me..." part of me just wants to say screw them, it's my kid but then another part of me doesn't want my kid to grow up with people making a face whenever he's introduced! ugh

fwiw, the name is warren

thanks for letting me vent
I think Warren is a nice name. In the future, don't tell anyone until after the baby is born--for some reason, when the kiddo is still baking, people have this misguided notion that they can offer whatever silly comment come to mind.

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I actually laughed when I read "Warren" because it's SO not the type of name I was expecting someone to have a problem with!!
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WTH! I think it's a great name! It will work for a kid but more importantly it will work for an ADULT, which is great since he'll be one for a LONG TIME. I like it. Could be professional, could be a fun guy's name, could be a professional and fun guy's name. It's nice and strong.
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If you are non-confrontation (I tend to be like that ) I probably would say "We haven't decided yet" or something along those lines. Non committal.

When I was pregnant with DS and found out that he was a boy people would ask what we were going to name him. We told them a luckily people liked the name.

When I do find out with this little one and people ask us his/her name I am prepared for people not to like it.

If they say anything negative my reply is going to be "DH and I like it and its not up to you" or "Why bother asking if you are going to be negative about it?".

It may seem rude to some people but to me that is rude and hurtful if they say things like "oh, well, it's not something i would choose..." or "i'll let you know what i think in a few days, maybe it will grow on me..."

Warren is not a horrible, wierd or unlikeable name to me. Warren is perfectly fine! Trust us. It isn't a name that a boy is going to be embarrassed about.

Now if you were going to name your son "Shadow" then maybe that is a name that you may re-consider if people are pulling faces but still ... it is your DH and your choice ... no one elses. Don't let other people stop you from doing what your heart really wants.

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I realized with my first that from that point on I wasn't sharing our names. So I made up two names and that's what I've been telling people. I tell them Uniquwa for a girl and Pilchard for a boy (both cartoon characters) LOL! No one believes me, they know I must be kidding but I don't tell. I ended up telling my Mom because she pressured me and promised she wouldn't critisize. Then my dh ended up telling his Mom and Sister, but oh well. At least I don't have to deal with their bitching and complaining.

Anyway, in the future don't tell anyone! Or say you don't know yet!

Oh and I think Warren is a great name!

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Once they hold tiny Warren, they'll fall in love head over heals... & that gorgeous entity is named Warren! They'll love the name like you do. & if not, it doesn't even matter... he'll win their love & they'll love him regardless of any name. My crazy mother has nicknames for all of the kids, grates on all of my sis's nerves like nothing else... but hey, she's not their mama, is she??!!!

This is your choice, you're growing him, your husband planted the seed... he's your (both of you) baby. If Warren feels like his name to you two, then what could possibly be wrong with that name?

Yk, as a not-a-mama-yet club member, I have to say that giving a name is so very personal... a gift of sorts... so, really, how *could* anyone know that little soul better than you & your partner? yk? Be strong & confident here. You 2 know what is best for your son, name included.

btw, I really like Warren. It sounds accomplished & free spirited at the same time.

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if it makes you feel any better, not many people originally liked the name we picked for our little guy either (ezra). we shared names with both our girls & no one expressed negative opinions about our choices so i was so shocked when people said anything at all. they're all coming around, though, and saying the name has grown on them. now if he'd just come out so we can all meet him face to face!!!!

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Aww! <hug> I have a cousin named Warren! I don't think it's weird at all. My aunt actually laughed right out and said OMG don't name him that, it's so awful!! when I told her we were considering Bjorn (with 2 dots above the O) as a name... well it ended up being his name. Whatever, her son is Zane which I personally think is a weird name but would never say anything and she obvioulsy loves it so who am I to criticize? Names grow on people, stick with what you love unless you have a weird gut feeling about it. Our little guy is SUCH a Bjorn
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I realized with my first that from that point on I wasn't sharing our names. So I made up two names and that's what I've been telling people. I tell them Uniquwa for a girl and Pilchard for a boy (both cartoon characters)
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My dd would be so stoked if we had named her Uniqua. That's hilarious!

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like the others said - if you like it go with it. almost nobody likes our kids name or the names we've choosen for the next kids.
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we have gotten some flack with the name choices for both of our girls. I don't really care most of the time sometimes it bugs me but usually when I am cranky anyway. If you are tired of hearing comments I would just start saying that you and DH have decided to keep it to yourselves until babe is born. I find a lot less people are willing to make comments once the babe is here and named.

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Awe thats a nice name! I know how you feel for sure most all of my family did this over dd's middle name which is Frances I just like that name and I was all excited to tell everyone and I get nothing but bad responses it was soooo annoying! My mom STILL makes comments to others about it saying well thank goodness she won't use her middle name much....UG that is why next time we will NOT Be sharing our name choice till he/she is born.
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This is why we just don't discuss names with anyone. It drives people nuts, but I'm just not up for dealing the the crap. Once the baby is here, they will love him/her and accept the name, too.

FWIW, I like Warren. I have a friend with a William Warren, which I always thought was super cute. He won't be one of the 14 Henrys and Harrys that are on the playgrounds around here.
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In the future, don't tell anyone until after the baby is born--for some reason, when the kiddo is still baking, people have this misguided notion that they can offer whatever silly comment come to mind.
: At every shower I go to where the name is already known there are people who don't like it. I've have even heard people say things like "well let's think of something better and change their minds". People can be thoughless and well, stupid.BTW, I like the name Warren a lot.

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I actually like Warren. I was afraid you were going to say something WAY wacky!
What I learned after #1 is not to tell people the name in advance. Obviously too late for that now but if the name really is right it shouldn't bother you so much. If you do change your mind don't tell people. Not saying you should change your mind but sometimes that just happens.

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I say WHO CARES to the 1000th power mama! Warren is pretty normal name and I cant imagine anyone having any sort of reaction when introduced. Too bad the people around you already do.....


I never understood why outside family or friends think they have ANY naming rights to a child whatsoever.....hey if I ask for your opinion cool-if I dont keep it.....
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Why, why do you tell them? We've had a name picked out for ages, but everyone knows it's top secret between me and DH. Not even DD knows. Why don't we tell? Because I don't want to hear, nor do I care what people think of the choice WE made for OUR baby
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I know a really cool guy named Warren. Love the name!

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I think Warren is a cool name! Unique - but not too weird - but not one of the gajillion 'regular' names out there. Good job mama!

I figured we'd get a bunch of crap too so I just tell everyone that we're still narrowing down a name of either sex since we are not finding out the sex. We pretty much have it settled though except for a boy middle name.
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How strange! I think Warren is a lovely name, I can't imagine why they are reacting like that to it. Does it clash with your surname or something?

Pay no attention to them, I'm sure they'll get used to it and you will not regret it.
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