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#1 of 67 Old 06-11-2007, 07:56 PM - Thread Starter
 
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are you going to circ? what are your thoughts?

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I would never circ. I think it's barbaric and should be outlawed.

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I would never circ. I think it's barbaric and should be outlawed.

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Please visit MDC's The Case Against Circumcision forum.
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Should this baby be a boy, it will be my fourth and my FIRST that will not be circ'ed. I feel very strongly about that. We didn't want the last boy circ'ed but did it anyway due to major bullying we weren't prepared for and I wish I could take all of them back. My poor babies! We're prepared this time.

My husband who is circ'ed is totally supportive of not circ'ing.

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I would not cut off any of my loved ones' body parts, nor would I subject my worst enemy to such torture. It's hard to imagine that such a practice is still legal.
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Absolutely not. It's horrific and completely unnecessary. This thread will likely be moved to The Case Against Circumcision forum that gottaknit posted, and that is a VERY informative forum.

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no, I do not plan to mutilate my child.

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I circ'd my boys and regret it more than I could ever imagine. If I were to have anymore kids, there is no way I would circ.

You can PM me if you have questions about my circ experience.

I second the recommendation for Case Against Circumcision. They have a lot of passionate people on there about the topic. There is also a sticky at the top where mamas have posted about regretting circs and why they regret the decision.

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Absolutely not. It's a horrible, horrible practice.
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If this baby is a boy, he will join his two older brothers in remaining intact.

I didn't always think that way. Up until a year before I gave birth to my older son I had assumed I would circ my children. Then I learned more about how unnecessary and harmful the practice is.

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Absolutely not. I would never mutilate my child's genitals.

And even before I had kids, and before I was crunchy, like in my early 20s, I always thought, People don't circ their daughters; why do they circ their sons?

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no i would never want any of my children mutilated

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No, not going to circ'. Why would I do that? If he's born with it, it must serve a purpose is my reasoning.

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Nope. I'm not into hacking off body parts of babies for no reason.

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I'm surprised this discussion is even being permitted here. Isn't it against the UA to even mention the very idea that one might be considering circing? I thought they were quite firm on that stance here.
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I can't even believe that circumcision is legal in this day and age. View the video link in my siggy.

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I'm surprised this discussion is even being permitted here. Isn't it against the UA to even mention the very idea that one might be considering circing? I thought they were quite firm on that stance here.
Asking for information and opinions is OK, but no one is allowed to ever argue in favor of routine infant circumcision, because there aren't any benefits.

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Nope....wouldn't mutilate my DD, why would I mutilate a DS?

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I would never consider circumcising a child. My dh is intact (not circumcised) and is very happy and thankful that his parents left the decision up to him. My FIL is circumcised and my dh is truly grateful that FIL didn't unduly pressure MIL to have dh circumcised as a baby. I'm glad too since I have no complaints although I have nothing to compare to either

Please come and visit us at the CAC forum if you have any specific questions! You can also feel free to PM any of us that have no-circ signs in our signatures

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Think of it this way: you'll be cutting off a piece of his body WITHOUT his consent. I will not be cutting off any of my children's body parts. If I have sons who choose to be circed I will try to persuade them to stay intact but ultimately it is his body, his choice. Not mine.
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Asking for information and opinions is OK, but no one is allowed to ever argue in favor of routine infant circumcision, because there aren't any benefits.
So, basically, it's okay to ask the OP's question, but anybody that answers "yes" to it is going to get in trouble?

(Just curious, not trying to start anything.)
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So, basically, it's okay to ask the OP's question, but anybody that answers "yes" to it is going to get in trouble?

(Just curious, not trying to start anything.)
Yeah, basically. Doesn't make much sense.

But anyway -- hell no. It's incredibly cruel and torturous, and to subject a human being to such terrific pain is downright disgusting.
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No. DH doesn't know this yet, but no. I'm pretty sure he is unaware of the debate, as many people are. I'm pretty sure it's a boy, so this discussion is coming.

I'm so glad DD was a girl bc I was ignorant on the subject when she was born. MDC has taught me a lot.
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Since my first baby was born nearly 16 yrs ago, I always had the same thought a few posters have shared already. I said, "I would never slice off my daughter's labia, why on earth would I slice off my son's penis tip?" And that explains it for me.

There will come a day that the barbaric practice is outlawed. And that day can't come too soon !

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If our baby is a boy, we intend to leave him intact, after all, babies are born that way. I think it's wrong to do otherwise.

It should be easy for me then, right? But I do have some slight guilt issues, though I know it might sound strange. My husband is a Jew, and to him circumcision is an important part of his culture. It is their covenant with god and he wanted to pass that along to his sons. We were not going to have anymore children after dd, because we both felt so strongly opposite about it. But he decided after some time that since it was so important to me, we would not circumcise if we had a male child, so long as I would not try to dissuade that child from making the decision to be circumcised if he chose to do so when he became older, to be in accordance with Judaism.(which seems more than fair to me)

I love my husband. He is ultra-supportive about all my ideas about birthing and parenting, and this was the one thing that was really important to him. I feel like I took something away from him. I feel like I took a part of his culture, his past, and who he is away from him. And this feels a little wrong too.

I think personally think it's not okay to circumcise, or in any way mutilate someone with out their consent. I mean, I don't even think it's right to pierce babies ears! But I also think it's slippery slope to be intolerant, or judgemental of other's religious or cultural practices if they don't fit in your moral paradigm.

So I hope you understand when I say, I will breath a big sigh of relief if this one is another girl...

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Nope. Dh is circ'd and trying to restore his foreskin. He hates that his parents did that to him.

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no way!

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wait-- but what are the *reasons*, other than "it's barbaric"? i'm honestly asking for information. Particularly, what are the reasons that are strong enough to override millenia-old cultural and religious beliefs (see Jewish Covenant With God)?

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I circed my 6 yr old Ds due to iggnorrance I was convinced that he would have chronic infections if left intact and he would be made fun of- so sad hose were my reasons but I was young and misinformed- My ds has also had problems w/ the skin growing onto his penis

Will I circ again NO I am well infrmed now and just cannot see torturing my child- if my child wants it done later in life it can still be done but you can never put foreskin back! My DH is not to happy about my no circ desicion but he will get over it! He just worried about the boys looking differnt when naked!

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Somewhere on this forum I read some posts by one or more Jewish mom's who decided not to circ. Maybe someone can point you to those posts?

Up here, it is no longer (?) routine practice to circ. And I come from Europe anyway where this is just not done. The idea never occurred to me before I came to this forum and then I was so shocked. First chance, I asked my midwife whether or not the hospital would try something like this.
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