Hi ladies! This is long and rambley, be warned.
I’m so excited for the new thread because July is close to AUGUST and soon I won’t be the only graduate! How are you August EDD mamas?Emily:
you are going to feel SO great after submitting 2 grants and 2 papers. That will be a huge weight off your shoulders – keep up the good work! Sorry about the vacation. Do something special with DH and for yourself if you can.Aimee:
I didn’t tell my mom until 13 weeks and she was just about the LAST to know. She’ll get over it when that grandkid arrives, if not before ?Julia:
1 show a week of POTO would do it for me, but 8+? Wow! Hang in there.
So Gabriella is 4 weeks old tomorrow. An amazing thing happened in the last 2 weeks – I started feeling like a Mommy! This wasn’t automatic for me – I definitely felt bonded to her from the start, but it was like bonding with a squirmy little ‘creature’ – a very cute one and all that, but hard for me to really relate to her at first. But wow, that changed! I am so in love and also starting to enjoy my identity as Mom (and making peace with no longer being the Very Pregnant Woman). Hormones have evened out somewhat. I’m even feeling good about the birth now.
It’s also been about 2 weeks since my mom left. Hmm, wonder if that had anything to do with me feeling more confident in the mommy role. But in retrospect I am so glad she came right away – we had originally planned a week just to ourselves, a private babymoon. I am incredibly independent and usually don’t want my mom to see me struggling or doing something for the first time. Turns out this was a non-issue and I’m so glad she was here. Just in case some of you are facing similar issues…
It turns out that exercise is HUGE for me. I need it; it makes me feel human. Whatever makes YOU feel human? Find a way to bring that back into your life asap (within reason) after the birth. Fwiw I am loving a workout dvd called postnatal bootcamp (with Lindsey brin). Ok, so they are dressed in camouflage and the set is a bit cheesy, but she has it divided into 3 and 10 minute workouts which is perfect when you have a baby. A few other health related things – you might be interested in the Tupler technique (check ‘losing the mummy tummy’ on amazon.com) – I never knew much about diastasis recti (ab muscle separation) before. Also, I got a book called ‘losing weight while breastfeeding’ –the recipes are not that great, but it is interesting to see what are reasonable dietary intakes, what kind of weight loss you can expect, etc. It is NOT a diet book so don’t worry.
Gabriella is usually pretty crabby around 7-10 pm. I think mostly she wants to go to sleep but we’re sort of keeping her up (hoping for a better sleep overnight). Anyway once she ‘goes down’ she’ll sleep 4-5 hours, wake briefly to eat and then right back to sleep for another 2-3 hours. I can’t complain. The last few days, when she wakes up around 5 am-ish I’ve just been feeding her in bed with us, then cuddling. OMG she is SO cute in the semi-awake state. Moving the little arms around, making funny noises. I’m going to take a video of it. However the last few mornings this has been followed by a complete diaper blowout – like all over the bed sheets blowout, so it’s kind of dangerous!
Breastfeeding is going well. There is definitely a breaking in period at the beginning where you will be sore – be ready for that but also watch the latch. If things don’t get better once your milk comes in then seek help early and often. Probably a good idea to go ahead and find a lactation consultant now, know how to contact her, figure out the deal with insurance coverage, etc. Also, work on that side-lying position – it’s awesome!
Slings. Gabriella only tolerates them at certain times, but I’m getting better at reading her. So far she’s not crazy about the pouch (I have a hotsling) but likes being upright in a ring sling. I am ordering a mei tai soon. I used to be a major clothes hog but that seems to be turning into a babywearing addict. I just wish the little one would like it more!
Other than that, we’re just trying to stay cool, keeping up on mdc threads, reliving my pregnancy through you guys
, etc. Maternity leave is a good good thing.