? Any news? (Oops, you posted while I was rambling! Things sound good. I think a flexible attitude is great! Laura
, too, good luck! Actually, my uterus is also "small" [it measured 32 today at 37 wks, which is "smaller" than two weeks ago -- baby tends to hide!] but my midwife does not care -- heartbeat is good -- so don't let your dr freak you out too much based just on size.)Dee
, I understand your dilemma about pain meds. For me, it wasn't about "I want a natural birth," it was about wanting a HOME birth which automatically ruled out meds. I am totally on board the natural birth thing but I have of course also had thoughts of, wow, it seems easier just to have some pain meds. (On that note -- maybe I should have some bourbon on hand for the birth. Just in case. Kidding! Maybe.) However, I will say that I have ALSO been told that the "walking epidural" is generally a misnomer, and the "cascade of interventions" has really been drilled into my head. Plus, all the kinds of things you have to be hooked up to just to GET an epidural. If you can articulate really clearly why you don't want to be monitored/in bed, etc, and you know that an epidural increases your chances of other interventions, that gives you your answer to your question (why feel pain when I don't need to?)
Do you have the Henci Goer book? I like her discussions of the various procedures offered in hospitals, including epidurals.
I really hate the attitude Julia references, that "oh you're trying to be macho" attitude about natural childbirth, or the "you're crazy." (I'm not having a homebirth to be macho -- but to be peaceful and empowered, and because I don't feel comfortable in the hospital.) It's been explained to me that it's sort of like choosing when/what kind of pain you feel. In natural labor, it's like working out really hard -- the pain is probably offset by the other hormones ( endorphins) your body is producing. Then, after birth, it's over. An epidural would prevent the endorphins and hormone cocktail and make your memory of the pain you do feel less fuzzy. Also, if you have to have a c-section because the epidural slows your ability to push, you'll probably hurt a lot more AFTER the birth.
Forgive if I'm just repeating what the books say. I believe in the option of pain meds. I just think it's important (not yet having done it myself
) for women to believe going in that they CAN do it. You're a workout person -- I know you can handle pain. (Also you're a grad student -- so ditto!) And if in the labor itself it turns out that you need medicine? In that case, you've made the decision in an empowered way based on your actual labor, instead of out of mere fear. Which would be an awesome empowerment to draw on, to stave off PPD.
Oh, and thanks for saying I sound calm; I'm actually freaking out a little. Okay, a lot (though my midwives were very nice and gave me compliments about being prepared so that helped). I can't believe how close it is. I've been counting down to this time THE WHOLE YEAR and here it is. Wow. Totally freaky. And yeah, there's the dissertation to keep me company. If only it would show up with some food and soothing like PiePie
's friend... (I am also totally bummed to hear about the two-month side-lying thing. I am hoping for a precocious baby in this regard.)
Okay, sorry for chattering up a storm. Melanie
, how was the appointment? Judy
, yeah, childcare is super expensive! Good luck finding what you need. Karen
, omg, it just gets worse. The other day in Target someone BROUGHT ME A CART because I looked like I was "struggling" with my (nearly empty) basket. Julia
, glad your work season is starting off so well! I'm jealous of your two gliders; sounds like a great set up.