I'm reaching out to anyone who can relate. I'm pregnant. My husband and I love each other and welcome this child. The day that I discovered I was pregnant, he was arrested. We live in Arkansas, and he was arrested on a warrant from Texas, claiming he violated probation by not paying fines. He violated the probation before we met. After getting behind on payments, he hoped that if he laid low enough, Texas wouldn't bother, and so he never discussed the probation situation with me. But of course, problems never disappear from neglect, and so he was extradited to Texas. I paid the total sum of back fines, but he was sentenced to two years in prison. The lawyer I hired did a lousy job defending him (showed up at court without the letters of support that we gathered on my husband's behalf), and told us that the 2-year sentence plea bargain was the best of our choices. The lawyer also said he could be released on parole after serving 180 days, and that he will receive double time credit, since his original offense (mouthing off to a police officer, which is a form of retaliation, a third degree felony) was nonviolent and non-aggravated.
My deepest desire is to be reunited with my husband for our son's birth. Our daughter was born at an unassisted homebirth, and we want to birth our son together. I feel that the experience of holding his newborn son, and bonding with him as a young baby, is crucial to all of us.
I'm looking for support, identification, interpretation from mothers.
Also, my financial situation is much more precarious without my husband's presence. I must plan for the possibility of being a single mom to a newborn and a 2.5 year old. I am substitute teaching now, and I am fortunate to have my mil watching our daughter while I sub. But I am getting behind on bills, and I have accumulated debt from paying his old fines. I choose to stay with my babies, especially for the first year after my son's birth. And so I need single wahm mother advice for getting started with very little income.
The process of typing out the situation is helpful. Hopefully some moms out there can share their experiences.