When i got to the hospital i was 6 centimerters, went to 8 in like a few minutes... then i got "forced" onto my back by the nurses and strapped to a fetal moniter, and a heplock injected into my arm... I would use the bars on the side of the bed to hold and bear down, again with the deep breathing, and the deep moaning.... the moaning really helped alot!! I think it helps because of the diaphram vibrating moves the baby down...
And read that bradley book too!!
-- changing positions often-- like squatting, leaning over stuff, all fours, etc. Change after every cx. or two in transition especially.
-- laboring in the water is supposed to reduce pain by up to 80%. Not sure how they measure that though.
-- Doing low breathing with an open mouth. My prenatal yoga DVD has a great low sound: "FAH" that requires you to do low deep breathing and open your mouth so your jaw stays relaxed.
-- Counterpressure. Have someone press hard on your feet, hands or other body parts.
USAmma, I just noticed your quote at your sig line.....where is it from? Its so beautiful!!
-Moaning/ deep, slow breathing
-Looking deep into dh's eyes
-lots of skin contact with dh
-dh pushing on my clitorus- all of our birth pictures have his hand in my crotch, but he said it was amazing when he felt ds#2 come out (I don't know that being alone is so important, except at my first hospital birth, I didn't ask dh for as much concact as I wanted, and it was probably because of all the people, bright lights, ect)
-having my toddler there, I know some people just want them out of the way, but for me it was really reasurring to be able to see he was okay during my labour and not have to worry about him
Main "practical" points for hypnobirthing are total physical relaxation, & deep slow breaths during contrax, to avoid resisting the contrax. Philosophy is that resisting them & bracing yourself against them makes them hurt because you set up contrary messages in your muscles.
And don't be scared. You can do this! If you let yourself get scared you'll resist them whether you mean to or not.
Will let you know if this works!
So while I was in labor, I focused on relaxing, breathing deeply through my contractions and experiencing each contraction. With my son, born 4 yrs earlier, I fought the cx and my labor was really very painful. With my dd, being relaxed and having no fear made it an incredibly easy labor (one nurse just assumed I'd had an epidural and it hadn't been noted on my chart....LOL!). I had, in my opinion, the perfect birth...even though it was in a hospital. I kept waiting for transition to begin only to find out I was complete and ready to go. I only pushed for 20 minutes and my 11lb 3oz daughter came into the world leaving me with no tears and then nursed like a champ.
I hope the same for you...and do try to give the hands and feet thing a shot. I know it's what made my labor so easy.
While laying down my labors were untolorable. while standing up they were completely painless.
The thing that helped me get through transition was on hands and knees with my dh presssing with all his mught into my lower back.
The truest answer to violence is love. The truest answer to death is life. The only prevention for violence is for the heart to have no violence within it. We cannot prevent evil through any system devised by mankind. But we can grapple with evil and defeat it, but only with love—real love.
OK, I'm a little biased, because I am a doula.
All fabulous suggestions so far.
Pay attention to what your gut/instinct is telling you. If your body wants to move, move it. If you need to make vocalizations, do it.
Stay upright as much as possible. Even in long, long labors. Alternate between laying down, and upright postions if you need to.
Pee every hour. Keep that bladder out of the way of a baby coming down.
Take a sip after each contraction. A well hydrated muscle contracts more effectively than a dehydrated one.
Change positions every half hour. Even if you're happy where you are. You can always go back to that same position after trying something new.
Eat 100 calories an hour.
Find a birth ball.
Read positive natural childbirth stories like Spiritual Midwifery or Ina May's other new book.
Remember you have choices.
Low vocalizations. High tones are held in your throat and upper chest. Send those sounds down low.
If labor starts at night. Go to bed. Sleep when the sun comes down, move around when the sun comes up. You'll need your energy later.
Limit the number of people in the room during labor and birth. It can be really distracting.
Ignore the clock.
Warm/hot water is a great soother. Get in the shower. You can put the ball in there too. Get in the tub. Try different positions in the tub. Hang over the side on your hands and knees.
I was really stressed over not being ready for this birth in many ways. I can see it's can be easier than I thought if I stay positive and believe in my body. It's all about getting rid of the fear. SO important!!!
Moaning...awesome, deep low moans...hot shower...amazing difference labouring in the hot shower, I stayed in there til I ran out of hot water :LOL
Concentrating on each finger individually, making sure each one was fully relaxed...I also just was in awe of my uterus, it worked so well, my whole body was relaxed other than my uterus...which was TIGHT
Um, amazing labour partners...my mom was talking me thru each finger relaxation, my sister was massaging my feet deeply and dh was massaging my back deeply...my ctx were back to back, no breaks in between, I went from 1.5cms to having baby in under 2hrs...
Lastly, keep telling yourself, I can do this. I WILL do this...
Much strength to you, and happy labouring.
With #2 the visualization and breathing worked, with #3 breathing& focusing etc didn't do squat! I felt every second of every contraction until I got in the water and then I didn't feel a single thing!!!
1.) every woman I know in my age group has had a c-section. All for various reasons. I only beleive one was actually neccesary b/c she was in a car accident and her water broke, but labor never started after 24 hours, and she was only 8 months at the time. These all were done in different hospitals, by different doctors (and one mw), in different states. Some were originally induced, some were not.
2.) I worry about tearing. I know that sounds silly, but other women I know who are older than me and who actually had vaginal births, have told me that they tore or ripped very badly. One woman had her entire perrineam and anal sphincter tear. One woman elected to have an episi, and it tore worse.
so how do you avoid these things and eliminate your fear of them? These are the only things I am really worried about.
~Christy , mom to DD Sage (12-2003) and DS Isaac (04-2012) , wife to Josh .
First, you get an ice cube and hold it in your hand for a minute. Dont' try to relax or anything, but focus on the pain. It will seem like a VERY long minute.
Take a break for a few mintues to let you hand go back to normal.
Then, get an ice cube and hold in in your other hand for a minute. this time concentrate on your breath, either your "in" breath or "out" breath--pick one for this particular contraction. Try to assess what parts of your body are tense and relax them. Notice how fast this minute goes by! So much better!
Practice every day or so, going through a couple fake "ice cube" contractions. It will teach you how to relax your body, concentrate on your breath, and develop other coping skills. The skills I gained from this exersize have helped me through other painful moments--stubbing a toe, burns, etc.
Once you get the relaxing part down, you can practice doing other mental exercizes that are in the book.
DURING LABOR I loved WATER--in any form! The pool was great, a hot shower, big glasses of water, hot soup, etc. It was all very relaxing. I also enjoyed sitting on the birth ball. And I moaned through every contraction--very helpful. But some women aren't vocal, so it doesn't help.
I'm sure that once labor hits, lots of this will come back to you. Just be open to what your body wants to do and keep moving! That's the best advice. And to just be aware that transition is going to be really hard, but you can get through it! Around 7 cm is when lots of women scream for the epidural, only to need it for an hour or less and it hinder their pushing.
I really hope you try the ice cube trick. It is extremely helpful.
But it must be really difficult to have all these horror stories around you and still try to have faith that your birth will go better. It definitely can! My sister was in the same position as you, except with horrible breastfeeding stories from ALL of her new-mom friends. But she ended up having a *wonderful* experience. There is hope!!
Take care, and I hope you're able to find peace with this.