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K, so me and dh are SOOO ready to have another, but next year we are BOTH going to be in school full time The kicker being I have the majority of grants/scholarships through me (tuition, housing, ect.) so me missing/not going to school for a semester isn't an option...So how difficult is it? I'm I going to be totally killing myself trying to keep everything together? I don't want to wait till I graduate though b/c the youngest and the new baby would be over 6yrs apart!!! opinions?

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Honestly? It would be very difficult. It depends mainly on how flexible your university's program is and if you can drop down to the minimum number of hours to keep your scholarship valid. How many hours are you planning to take each semester? Is there any flexibility to allow you to go part time for one semester right after the baby is born and then take a few extra classes in the evenings or over the summer at a later date? It also depends on what you're studying and how much intensive work there is outside of attending lectures. Does it require a lot of groupwork, labwork, long essays? You'll have to take all of these things into account when making your decision, along with how you'll juggle childcare for your older two with breastfeeding demands for the youngest.

Good luck figuring it out. It's not impossible but it would be very very difficult for awhile and it would be wise to accept that either your grades or family life will suffer for a little while.

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K, so me and dh are SOOO ready to have another, but next year we are BOTH going to be in school full time The kicker being I have the majority of grants/scholarships through me (tuition, housing, ect.) so me missing/not going to school for a semester isn't an option...So how difficult is it? I'm I going to be totally killing myself trying to keep everything together? I don't want to wait till I graduate though b/c the youngest and the new baby would be over 6yrs apart!!! opinions?

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Is there any way that your husband can take time off from school when the baby is born? I know a woman who specifically chose to start having kids while working on her masters degree, but her husband then chose to be a stay at home dad and has been a great one ever since with their 5 kids. Even if your husband can cut back to part time to help out since you have to keep your grants/scholarships would help a great deal I think. I think it's all about your support network. I know a girl who is in vet school, getting ready to start clinics, and they've coordinated some rooms for her to pump at school in various buildings and her husband is pretty much staying home with the babe. I don't know, anything is doable, but the previous poster is correct... something is going to give a little bit. Keep us updated!
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I am pg in university - IMO it's a huge step up from being pg while working! I do take the minimum of courses to get loans (I am a single mama of a 4 year old). Also I plan to take time off after the baby comes - I am due at the very end of the school year anyway and may take a semester or even a year off depending on baby's needs. But especially if you have a partner to share childcare, i think going back with a babe who is a few months old is totally doable, especially if you don't take a full course load.

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I went while I was pregnant, but was due in March so I took the spring off. Pregnant during school isn't bad, but very very pregnant then having the baby, postpartum, and having a newborn would not have worked. I did have to kneel down and puke a couple times on campus on the way to class from morning sickness, and miss a class or two for doctor appointments. Rows between desks were hard to navigate with a preg belly. I'd say wait til baby will be due in summer if you can't take a fall or spring semester off.
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I had my oldest when I was a junior in college, and it was REALLY REALY hard. I was a single mom, though, so I'm sure that was also part of the problem, and also I was a chemistry major, so that's a bit harder than most subjects. I went from honor roll to failing a class for the first time in my life. (p-chem II) I agree you should look into what classes, how hard and how much time they take up, etc, etc. I would go part-time until the baby was over a year old. It's just so hard to be away from a little baby.
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yeah I'm going to be majoring in Ecology & Conservation Biology so I'm thinking I should probably plan either for a summer baby or wait till I can take off a year...

OTHER thing of note is my DH like i said before is going as well, but he gets his GI Bill (to the tune of over 1k a month) so really it wouldn't be good for him to miss out either (his tuition is double mine however thus the reason why everything is under me...that and the fact that my gpa was WAY above his so I've already got most of my funding)...but the first year is his last for his GI Bill...so maybe I should wait till Sophomore year so that one of us could go part time or hold off a year...hmm....

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7 weeks pregnant, school starts again Monday, last week I put the ranch dressing away in the pantry--yeah, this is gonna hurt.
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I start school again in two weeks, I'm due in Aug. I don't think I would choose to be pregnant in school. luckily I'm at a good stopping point and can take some classes online
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I was pg with DS1 while in school full-time, I had horrible morning sickness, so it was tough, but I made it through. I then took one semester off. I was in school while pregnant with DS2 and had to withdraw 3 weeks before finals due to being put on bedrest. I got .5 units out of 13 that semester, cuz none of my teachers would do incompletes! : I took 4 years off after that & am now back in school full-time....and I have baby fever again :

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Totally do-able, esp if you can plan a due date of May/June and take advantage of summer off to get through the newborn stage.

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7 weeks pregnant, school starts again Monday, last week I put the ranch dressing away in the pantry--yeah, this is gonna hurt.
Are you graduating yet? Or are you going to take next fall off?
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Totally do-able, esp if you can plan a due date of May/June and take advantage of summer off to get through the newborn stage.
hehehe, see i was thinking that! that OR winter break, but summer would really be ideal...so that would mean starting the baby dancing "for reals" (not just "practice" as my dh calls it...hehehe) August or so huh?
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hehehe, see i was thinking that! that OR winter break, but summer would really be ideal...so that would mean starting the baby dancing "for reals" (not just "practice" as my dh calls it...hehehe) August or so huh?
Yep. I got pg August 4th and am due end of April.
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Are you graduating yet? Or are you going to take next fall off?
Probably going to take next fall off, since the baby's due in mid-August. The annoying thing is at that point I'll only have one credit hour to take but it's the senior design course that should actually be like 10 credit hours.
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Probably going to take next fall off, since the baby's due in mid-August. The annoying thing is at that point I'll only have one credit hour to take but it's the senior design course that should actually be like 10 credit hours.
Yeah, definitely don't sign up for that when you'll have a newborn! I was just stupid the semester I thought I could take p-chem II and failed it. I mean stupid for thinking I could handle it. Ds1 was a very high needs baby, though. If he'd been mellow like ds2, I probably would have been ok. But the thing is, you never know what you're going to get.
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Well, I have had all of my kids in school and it was hard. Being pregnant in college was a challenge, but doable. The really hard part comes when the baby is 3-9 months. Then they need so much more. During the newborn stage (at least for me) I could read and type papers with the baby on the boob. But then came the crawling, eating, less sleep, needy phase and it almost killed me. My grades dropped a ton during those semesters. But overall, I have done well. There are upsides to doing it while in school. My profs were great about flexibility and such. Also, I could schedule classes that worked with my husbands work schedule so we never did use any daycare.

It was hard, but I wouldn't really have changed anything, except maybe our finances. We had almost nothing to live on because I didn't work.

Good luck.
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I was taking a half time load last semester. I was in my second trimester, and yeah, it was tough. If you are going to do it, I would suggest only taking classes that you find really intriguing or really easy. I found it hard to concentrate on things other than family (I have a toddler). But, it sure made the pregnancy fly by for that trimester, and I kept in great shape hiking all over our hilly campus.

You know yourself best. Some people are really cut out for doing the juggling act of school/family/pregnancy. Me, well, I enjoyed my semester, but cannot imagine how stressed out I would've been had I been taking a full load. Good luck to you what ever you decide!
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Well, I think it depends. I went to school full time but only went 2 days, all day. Maybe you and DH could work something out where you both go full time, all day, different days. It wasn't easy going to school pregnant, but it wasn't awful... I just can't imagine having the baby during the year or summer and then having to hurry and go right back. That would be a lot on your plate at one time. I think if you and DH could both go all day on different days though, it would make things a LOT easier. good luck..

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Well, I think it depends. I went to school full time but only went 2 days, all day. Maybe you and DH could work something out where you both go full time, all day, different days. It wasn't easy going to school pregnant, but it wasn't awful... I just can't imagine having the baby during the year or summer and then having to hurry and go right back. That would be a lot on your plate at one time. I think if you and DH could both go all day on different days though, it would make things a LOT easier. good luck..
Ok, why didn't I think of that? Like seriously? Here I am trying to see if I can't schedual classes every 2 hours and what not, but only going to school 2 days out of the week would be much easier! TY for the idea!

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I'm not in the same position, but can you stack your courses so you can go to school MWF or TR... or do all your classes in the mornings or afternoons? I'd sit down with hubby and a course schedule (press uni admin for most current) and see if you both could stack so that someone would be with the baby.

I realize this is only possible at larger schools with more varied and copious course schedules, but it's worth throwing out there.

I think it would be pretty hard, depending on your subject, especially if you have lab work. Labs are a time suck. It might be doable with very careful planning and being very pushy with getting into the specific sections you want though.
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Well, I have had all of my kids in school and it was hard. Being pregnant in college was a challenge, but doable. The really hard part comes when the baby is 3-9 months. Then they need so much more. During the newborn stage (at least for me) I could read and type papers with the baby on the boob. But then came the crawling, eating, less sleep, needy phase and it almost killed me. My grades dropped a ton during those semesters. But overall, I have done well. There are upsides to doing it while in school. My profs were great about flexibility and such. Also, I could schedule classes that worked with my husbands work schedule so we never did use any daycare.

It was hard, but I wouldn't really have changed anything, except maybe our finances. We had almost nothing to live on because I didn't work.

Good luck.
I have to agree with this. I did well my first semester back when he was teeny. I even took him to class in a sling and it was fine. It was when he was older and more demanding that it got hard.
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Ok, why didn't I think of that? Like seriously? Here I am trying to see if I can't schedual classes every 2 hours and what not, but only going to school 2 days out of the week would be much easier! TY for the idea!

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Definitely don't try to do the every 2 hour thing. I thought that sounded like a good idea w/ my boy as well, but it was a terrible idea. I should have just taken all my classes in a row and gotten them over with. I could never get him to nurse before I left, and then I'd rush home after class to find him sucking down the last of his bottle, and I'd have to pump instead of nursing him before the next class. It would have been easier to just pump before I left, be gone for like 3 hours to get 2 classes in and come home and pump again.
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I went to school full-time during ds1's pregnancy and honestly it was a cake walk compared to working full-time during this pregnancy. I was lucky enough to give birth on spring break and then my professors were lenient about letting me skip classes since I had a newborn as long as I was getting my projects and such done. I didn't take any summer classes so I got a nice 3 month break and then went back to finish my senior year when ds was 5 1/2 months old. It was challenging at times but if you are disciplined and don't put off doing projects and papers until the last minute it's really very do-able.

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Last year when I was preggo, I worked full time and took night classes to get my second master's degree. I'm glad I was in school during the pregancy and not now, because I don't think I could've done it with him here. I say go for it. Do it now and get as much over with as you can. I can barely get my housework done now. He needs me too much right now.
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Hmm... Well I'm in college full time right now and pregnant with our 3rd. However I am not bound by scholarships, and i'm not sure whether or not I will apply for the 2008-2009 Pell Grant yet. If I did, that would mean going back to school while this baby is extremely young, something I really don't want to do. Sooo...I'll probably just finish up this year, take a year off, then go back part time for the 08 Fall semester and not take out the grant (I get tuition remission through DH's job as well, that plus the grant means I go to school for free right now. But if I went part time I would not need the grant, the remission would cover one or two classes.) I have a lot more freedom to make these decisions than you. I guess I'm not much help

If you are comfortable going to school full time and continuing to build on your family, and are comfortable with the baby being in daycare while you're at school, then I say go for it. You'll have to pump while you're at school, and honestly that's a big deterrent for me....I don't like pumping and can't see myself fitting it into a full time music major's schedule. All my free time is taken up by practicing. There's no way I could have enough time to pump AND practice.
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