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#241 of 311 Old 05-29-2008, 07:20 PM
 
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Hi!
I am recently preggos with number 7. I had been working super hard to get my weight down, This has kinda thrown me for a loop. I ate more dairy and crap in the first 2 weeks than I had in 4 months. Finally I seem to be craving whole foods again instead of fried and cheese, lol. I tend to lose weight in the first trimester. I am hoping not to gain excessivley this time. I am hoping I can get back to walking and eating better soon. I have over 100lbs to lose. I would at least like to keep building my fitness level anyway.


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Hi! I never saw this thread before, but I'm so glad I found it! I'm Kristi and I'm due with #2 on 1/7! My last was an appempted UC, turned attended homebirth. Im hoping to UC with #2.

I have to add, on the carrier issue... It's soooo easy to make a good quality carrier! I have a ring sling, a wrap and a mei tei that I made myself the fit my hubby and I well and keep the baby happy and secure. Do you have a sewing machine and a bit of know how? Even if you aren't a pro, ring slings and wrap require little to no sewing and a mei tei can be made with simple instructions without the use of a pattern. I'd be happy to pm you (or post, if I'm allowed) free links to instructions for all of these carriers and others that you can customize to fit you.

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I really can't gain more than 10 lbs.
Did your Midwife/OB tell you that?

Please know that its normal for *every* woman, regardless of weight to gain 25-35 lbs with her pregnancy. It all adds up to baby, extra blood in your system, your growing uterus, and amniotic fluid. Not fat. You can get back on track with losing weight after baby. Right now, focus on getting enough healthy calories for the two of you, and enjoying your pregnancy. Dont worry about your weight. Now is definitely not the time (regardless of how much your medical professional tells you to "top out" at). Just your uterus, placenta, amniotic fluid & baby will weigh much much more than 10 lbs by the end of your pregnancy. Its healthy to gain right now.
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. I'd be happy to pm you (or post, if I'm allowed) free links to instructions for all of these carriers and others that you can customize to fit you.

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I'm glad I saw your post, I've been thinking about making my own sling or carrier, but have no clue where to start yet. I've been leery of ordering a sling online, because I want to try it on first, but none of the carriers I've seen available locally have really suited my needs. I'd love any info you may have to pass along!

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I'm glad I saw your post, I've been thinking about making my own sling or carrier, but have no clue where to start yet. I've been leery of ordering a sling online, because I want to try it on first, but none of the carriers I've seen available locally have really suited my needs. I'd love any info you may have to pass along!

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Just an FYI - I am a VERY large woman - 300+, and the Moby wrap is so size friendly. I even took it out and tried it on in the store, and it fit so well, I wanted to buy them all. Good luck!

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Am I allowed to post extrnal links here? I don't think I am. Anyways, I PMed the info to one person already, and I'd be happy to send it along to anyone else.

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... just Google "Jan Andrea, mei tei," "Jan Andrea, ring sling" and "No sew wrap." The first hit you get will take you to the instructions.

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I'm glad I saw your post, I've been thinking about making my own sling or carrier, but have no clue where to start yet. I've been leery of ordering a sling online, because I want to try it on first, but none of the carriers I've seen available locally have really suited my needs. I'd love any info you may have to pass along!

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I PMed you with the links!

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Hi, I'm new. I would love to jump in here. I'm Pregnant with number 3 and planning my 2nd vbac! My first was c-section due to PIH, my second was a extremely monitored and intervened hospital vbac, and I'm planning on a birth center water birth this time....if I even make it to the birth center I'm still undecided.

Anyway, I had a wrap made for me with my second and it is wonderful! Super easy instructions and walking into the fabric store made me drool to see all the color options and patterns!

In love with the Hubs (6-03) & : Kookie Pookie Girl (c/s 5-05) & Bouncy Big Boy (vbac 2-07) & : Miss Cheeky Cheeks (hbac 11-08) 100*90* 100lbs = Las Vegas : Almost there!
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Hi there all you beautiful mommies! I am so glad I found this thread! I am due in Dec. with #4 and so excited! I am a larger women and with my last 2 pregnancies i was told also not to gain more then 15 pounds. #2 I gained 16 and they were not happy. With #3 I only gained 13 pounds. Both my girls were a lot smaller then my son who was 8.4 my DD1 was 7 and DD2 was 6.11 This time I am planning a HBAC and not going to worry about how much weight I gain. Just hoping I don't gain 60 like I did with DS : Anyway Hi

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I just added 6 more names to the list and moved all the April mamas down. I assume they've all delivered now.

Mom of a 7 yr old, 4 yr old, and 1 yr old. Wow. How did that happen?
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Just thought I would check in. I am feeling slightly panicky about my weight gain. 20lbs so far & I was REALLY hoping to keep it under 15lbs altogether. Ugh. But I'm trying hard to keep focussed on what is most important - we're finally having a baby!

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I made a cheap and quicky belly band.

I got some t-shirt ribbing from Joanns. I cut it to about 18" so I could have fold over on the bottom for extra support. Works great!

If you need smaller you can just cut it lengthwise and stitch in until its the measurements you need. Its nice and stretchy and doubled over is providing just a little tummy support.

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I thought I had posted on this thread but I guess not. My mind is quietly slipping away...

What are you all doing for maternity clothes? Last time I wore some sweatpant capri pants but they're completely worn out now. I've been looking for the same thing agin but haven't found any yet.

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What are you all doing for maternity clothes? Last time I wore some sweatpant capri pants but they're completely worn out now. I've been looking for the same thing agin but haven't found any yet.
Sears has a fairly good selection of maternity clothes in XS to 3x and they run large. I usually wear 18/20 but only wear 1x in their clothes.

Old Navy goes up to XXL on their website in maternity. XXL fits me.

Motherhood has plus sizes as well but I like their clothes least of all the others.

It seems any time I go into Sears they are having a major sale on their maternity clothes. I don't think I payed full price for anything there.

My favorite pants right now are some Lane Bryant yoga style pants. They have pockets too! The rise is really long so they work well for maternity pants.
I just don't get how there is so much extra rise, I have a big butt and lower gut yet they still fit me at 8 months pregnant and they are my regular pant size. I wish I could get more! They are so soft and don't push in on my anywhere which is nice.

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Wow that's some awesome places to check for maternity clothes! Thanks Megan

I'm only 13 weeks right now so I'm just wearing a belly band (well the motherhood knockoff) and keeping my jeans unbuttoned for comfort. Works well and probably will for several more weeks for me at least.

I'm frustrated because no one is taking my weight loss seriously. Not midwifes I've spoken to on the phone, not the Obs or Kaiser advice nurses because I'm 'big'. Regardless loosing 14 pounds due to nausea so bad I can't eat *is* a big deal to me! If I wasn't pregnant I'd be super happy and loosing weight but not so much right now.

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Wow that's some awesome places to check for maternity clothes! Thanks Megan

I'm only 13 weeks right now so I'm just wearing a belly band (well the motherhood knockoff) and keeping my jeans unbuttoned for comfort. Works well and probably will for several more weeks for me at least.

I'm frustrated because no one is taking my weight loss seriously. Not midwifes I've spoken to on the phone, not the Obs or Kaiser advice nurses because I'm 'big'. Regardless loosing 14 pounds due to nausea so bad I can't eat *is* a big deal to me! If I wasn't pregnant I'd be super happy and loosing weight but not so much right now.
When I was pregnant with my first I lost 15 pounds during the first 5 months. I was told that as long as what you're eating is healthy, you're drinking lots of water and taking your prenatals it was okay. I was obviously getting some of the food digested and the baby always get first dibs on the nutrients, so even if you aren't getting much, you're baby will be taken care of. By the end of my pregnancy, had gained back the 15 lbs and 15 more. After having Ziva I was about 5 pounds lighter than my pre-pgcy weight!

This time I'm trying to keep the vomitting to a minimum. I'm sucking down ginger candy like nobody's business. Plus, I've figured out that that for me the puking usually comes when I have an empty stomach and can sometimes be halted by fresh air. I keep quick foods on hand and make lots of mad dashes into the yard.

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I'm certainly glad to have found this tribe. I am 24 and currently 20 weeks with my first. Prepregnancy I was 245 and a size 16/18, but have currently lost 30 lbs over the last 15 weeks. I am definitely showing in the belly and my breasts have gotten larger, but you can still tell that I have lost a good deal of weight. My MWs were all fine with the weight loss in the beginning, because I had so much I could lose, but now say I need to bump up calorie intake (aparently, I had no idea, but I was ~700 short every day).

Despite the fact that I have been showing since 12 weeks and am completely in maternity wear, in the last week four women--stangers--all proclaimed, "No way are you pregnant," when my husband and I were waiting at a restaurant and told the hostess we were leaving after our 45 min. wait because I was so hungry & pregnant...blah, blah. Even when I pulled back my shirt to expose rotund stomach, they said I didn't look pregnant at all. It also didn't help that a few days later at 20 week appt., DH was looking through my chart and read outloud in BC waiting room that my 18 week US had been "difficult to perform due to large bodus habitus but that all results were clear." If the results were all clear and they could see everything they needed to, why the need to point out how put off they were at how fat I am.

Sorry for the long post, I'm just feeling really down on myself right now.
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Am I allowed to post extrnal links here? I don't think I am. Anyways, I PMed the info to one person already, and I'd be happy to send it along to anyone else.

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... just Google "Jan Andrea, mei tei," "Jan Andrea, ring sling" and "No sew wrap." The first hit you get will take you to the instructions.
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If the results were all clear and they could see everything they needed to, why the need to point out how put off they were at how fat I am.
That is really unprofessional behavior. That was noted on my record as well. I rolled my eyes and told my midwife it might have been easier to see the scan if their machine wasn't older than the doctor doing the scan.

I have no idea why they feel the need to point out that we are overweight constantly. Its not like we aren't keenly aware of it!



As for carriers I made this one up for a friend's babyshower

mei tai Here I am in my 8 months pregnant glory trying to carry my almost 3 yr old! It didn't last long as I couldn't breath!

Its based roughly on the instructions from the Rev Jan site. She has a few so you can look at them and see which one makes the most sense to you.

And since I like seeing everyone else's I'll post my belly shot as encouragement to do the same!

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I have no idea why they feel the need to point out that we are overweight constantly. Its not like we aren't keenly aware of it!
This was the exact attitude I was so scared of that it took me 5 years to seek help for my infertility. It's so wrong.

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I have no idea why they feel the need to point out that we are overweight constantly. Its not like we aren't keenly aware of it!!
I know! This is an on going issue for me with doctors in general. One thing I have had a problem with at the OB/Midwife clinic I've been to is that everyone I have seen, since day one, has been convinced that because I am overweight, I'm going to have a high risk complicated pregnancy, and so far it hasn't been that way at all and I'm coming up on 31 weeks.

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I asked when I first toured the BC if my weight/size alone would risk me out. They said, "No, we generally risk out only because of weight at 300, but you are prone to other risks..." They are concerned that in an emergency, they wouldn't be able to transport you on a stretcher.

I love the size comments on the chart, because it's like if they don't write it down, the next midwife I see might not notice that I am plus sized. Please.

Other than this the only problem I had was in finding a maternity swimsuit that didn't show the belly at all. What's with all these tankinis that are designed to ride up the belly. I finally found one I liked at Motherhood though, but their suits certainly aren't designed for anyone with over a C cup though.
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And since I like seeing everyone else's I'll post my belly shot as encouragement to do the same!
You look so cute! I'll put up some belly shots... once my baby belly surpasses my normal belly! I'm retaining water, but at almost 12 weeks don't look pregnant yet.

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I asked when I first toured the BC if my weight/size alone would risk me out. They said, "No, we generally risk out only because of weight at 300, but you are prone to other risks..." They are concerned that in an emergency, they wouldn't be able to transport you on a stretcher.
The birth center here refused to accept me as a patient because of my BMI. They risk out first time moms with a BMI over 35. I don't know why there's such a strict dividing line between under 35 and over, and I admit I'm still struggling with this and trying to get used to the idea of delivering in the hospital. Luckily the hospital has a midwifery practice, and I'm now going there. I've just spent so much time in the fat acceptance crowd lately that it bothers me so much more to be treated like a sick patient simply because I have fat thighs. (Seriously - that's where most of my weight is. )
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The birth center here refused to accept me as a patient because of my BMI. They risk out first time moms with a BMI over 35. I don't know why there's such a strict dividing line between under 35 and over, and I admit I'm still struggling with this and trying to get used to the idea of delivering in the hospital. Luckily the hospital has a midwifery practice, and I'm now going there. I've just spent so much time in the fat acceptance crowd lately that it bothers me so much more to be treated like a sick patient simply because I have fat thighs. (Seriously - that's where most of my weight is. )
Ridiculous. I've got a +35 BMI and I had a totally healthy pregnancy with my first. My blodd pressure, weight gain, and everything was right on the mark. There's no reason for weight to be indicitive of any maternal problems.

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I'm so sorry you all are being treated this way. I was also told to keep my weight between the 15 and 25 lb mark. I am on WIC and they weigh me at every check pick up appointment. While they don't say anything mean to me they always write it down and chart it and show me on this graph. I"m supposed to keep my weight in the grey area. It actually makes me a nervous wreck. Last month I made myself so nervous I threw up.

I don't even think my doctor looks at my weight. He's never said a word. It took him forever to find the heartbeat at my 16 week appointment. I made some comment about extra fluff in the way and he laughed and said that had absolutely nothing to do with it, it's heartbeat was being masked by my good healthy strong one He did find it, btw, he didn't give up and I think he enjoyed the challenge.

My DH has banned the word "fat" or any synonyms from our home. He says I made the rule to ban the word "stupid" and all synonyms so now it's his turn to pick a word. And that's the word he chose. I love him.

I have a lot of body/weight issues, and I need this kind of support. Thank you all for listening.

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Pookie Mom, just tell them you want to be weighed not facing the scale and you don't want to see the graph. Tell them that your Doctor is comfortable with your weight gain and isn't comfortable with the extra stress you are getting on it. Too often as plus size women we get used to the idea that everyone has a say in our weight and forget we have a right to stand up for ourselves. WIC probably does have a requirement about needing to weigh you, but that doesn't mean you have to put up with the lecture.
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Pookie Mom, just tell them you want to be weighed not facing the scale and you don't want to see the graph. Tell them that your Doctor is comfortable with your weight gain and isn't comfortable with the extra stress you are getting on it. Too often as plus size women we get used to the idea that everyone has a say in our weight and forget we have a right to stand up for ourselves. WIC probably does have a requirement about needing to weigh you, but that doesn't mean you have to put up with the lecture.
Good advice!

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Hi,
I'm pregnant with my first child which is due in November. Being overweight and pregnant I've found talking to other women who are in the same position very helpful and reassuring that I'm not alone.
Just found this thread and was hoping some of you ladies could let me know of any other dedicated plus size forums/subforums that are out there.
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Has anyone seen the newest Fat Rant? Its worth watching.

I think its terrible how you all are being treated. Have you looked for other providers? My homebirth midwife has never asked how much I weigh. We've talked about it and she knows that it doesn't have a barring on how healthy your pregnancy can be.

What you weigh matters so much less than what you are putting in your body and how you move it. Why don't the providers ask that?

These blanket statements of so many pounds or a certain BMI are ridiculous. A 300lb woman that is 6' tall is dramatically different than 5' 300lb woman. A muscular 300lb woman is different too.
A very busty woman can many times never fall into "normal" BMI range.

These measurements mean almost nothing but they are such loaded information for us full of guilt and for medical providers its like the numbers mean more than the person.

I think we need to start demanding fair and equal treatment to "normal" sized women. I nearly typed "average" but we all know that the average size for a woman in American is now considered overweight, as that is a size 12.

If they tell you that you can't gain more than a certain amount demand medical literature to support their claim that only gaining a certain amount actually makes you healthier (not that is lowers your chance of c-section because that is because providers are biased and make up reasons why fat women need surgery).

If they tell you that your BMI or weight is too high as for proof. Make a diet diary and show it to them. Show them how well you are eating. Tell them how you are active.

And if you still aren't getting the treatment you deserve please move on to a better provider!

Mom of a 7 yr old, 4 yr old, and 1 yr old. Wow. How did that happen?
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Has anyone seen the newest Fat Rant? Its worth watching.
I have seen it! I love her videos.

I agree with your post, Megan. I *wanted* to challenge the birth center on their decision, but in the moment I wasn't feeling confident enough to do so, even though I am active in the fat acceptance and "health at every size" communities. I talked with a friend who has delivered 700 babies or so (she's a retired midwife) and she was appalled...she said she's attended lots of happy births of women much larger than myself.

I think the psychological pressures from OB and other medical personnel have an impact on pregnant women of size. It's harder to focus on being calm, relaxed, and grounded when you sense (or they tell you) that they're expecting problems. There's no reason to expect problems, though, if we do whatever we can to care for our pregnant bodies - at least that's how it seems to me.

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