|I've been struggling with this a lot. My mind really wants to have sex, but I can't get my body to respond positively. And then it ends up being terribly uncomfortable, regardless of positions. I feel bad for dh cause I know he's certainly interested and it incredibly patient - he's resigned himself to thinking that pregnancy and sex just don't mix. But I sure would like to get my body on the same page as my mind, cause I want to do it.
Yep - I can relate to this completely. Plus I'm scared of MC. We had one miscarriage before, and I always wondered if it was due in part to a day when we had a sort of tickle-war (I started bleeding the next day). So - any sort of strenuous activity in the first trimester scares me.
I did finally tell DH if its slow and gentle we could, and it was nice. He pulled out all the stops to make me comfortable and work with me, and waited until I was ready. he's been incredibly supportive and so so sweet. i dont think I could ask for more.