Sorry about your loss, Veganmama. I have been through one M/C and it was very painful, physically and emotionally. But I got lucky only three months later and had my beautiful DS at 42. He is almost 2 yrs old now.
My DH and I decided on only one child. Mother nature had other plans, because I am now 8 weeks and I just had a birthday two days ago. We were using other methods of b/c that obviously didn't work and we both must be very fertile.
However, my first appointment with an ultrasound is not until Sept 5th. By that time I will be 10, 11 weeks. I couldn't get an earlier appointment, even when I told them about the previous m/c. I'm a little worried. My m/c was at about 10 weeks. The doctors knew ahead of time, but it was my first time through it and I didn't believe them that there wasn't a heartbeat (bascially I had no clue about anything that first time around) and I decided I was going to let the m/c happen naturally. That was a mistake. My DH and I were moving to another state and I was starting a new job. The evening before I was to start my first day on the new job, I had the m/c at home and was hemmoraging heavily. Stuff everywhere. I was really scared. I wound up in the ER with lots of pain meds. I don't want to go there again if this doesn't happen. I would rather have a D&C.
Please be thinking of me when I go in for my appointment on Sept 5. I think if I see a heartbeat, it's a go. I am very excited to have another baby, but I'm not excited about the prospect of going back to work (working full time with one at my age was hard enough) and it's going to be during my busiest season at work when the baby arrives (early April). I'm also not excited about going through the pregnancy itself--I gained 50 pounds because I was constantly hungry. And then I got very bad heartburn from 6 months to the end of the pregnancy that was relentless--no matter what I ate. I also started to develop symptoms of pre-clampsia, but luckily it wasn't until the 8th month. I had to be on bed rest (or lying down) the two weeks before.
My doctor induced me at 38 weeks. This time I want it to happen naturally without being induced. I never got protein in my pee, but I did get constant high blood pressure. At one point, even after I had the baby, it was up to 160/90. Most of the time it stayed at 150/90 those last two weeks but it was rather unnerving. I don't want that again.
What I'm most happy about is that my younger DH is happy to have another child. He was adamant about only having one, but a few months ago began making strange comments, like how nice it would be to have a girl, etc..
I still have symtoms, mostly mine is fatigue and a feeling like I am at high altitude with a girgling stomach. My DS is still nursing and co-sleeping, but it is really hurting my nipples, they are very sore. When does that stop if ever, or would I have to wean him? I don't want to tandem nurse if I do have a successful birth. I would rather he stop right before the new one is born.