Is there a pregnant over 40 thread? - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
Reply
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 328 Old 05-04-2008, 09:00 PM - Thread Starter
 
avivaelona's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Happy Vally MA
Posts: 3,262
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm wondering if there is a pregnant and 40 thread that I am not finding? And if there isn't is there a reason to start one? Perhaps I'm the lonely only at the moment?
avivaelona is offline  
#2 of 328 Old 05-04-2008, 10:23 PM
 
JBaxter's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: South Carolina
Posts: 4,282
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Not that I know of but I'll join you. Ive got a birthday later this month and I will be 41

Jeana Christian momma to 4 sons Logan 18, Connor 15, Nathan 6, and bonus baby Jack 1
JBaxter is offline  
#3 of 328 Old 05-04-2008, 10:58 PM
 
Anandamama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: In the Piedmont
Posts: 208
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I hope you'll start one. I've thought that the pregnant in your 30's support thread is not really so necessary - practically everyone I know has had their first during their 30's! But those who start later are less common and perhaps could use some specific peer support. I had my first (and only) at 37, so I was close!
Anandamama is offline  
#4 of 328 Old 05-04-2008, 11:25 PM
 
irony_optional's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: New York
Posts: 232
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm 43 and pregnant!
irony_optional is offline  
#5 of 328 Old 05-05-2008, 12:35 AM - Thread Starter
 
avivaelona's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Happy Vally MA
Posts: 3,262
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Well lets just consider this to be one then I guess! Hello and welcome Maybe I'll change the title if you can do that on this board.

Jeana, Happy almost birthday...we were born the same year though I still have a while to my birthday (Sept)

Anandamama I had my first pregnancy at 37 too, I think after 35 its always a little bit of a difference but now...well I definitely feel like I could use a little bit of support!

irony optional, congratulations!
avivaelona is offline  
#6 of 328 Old 05-05-2008, 07:22 AM
 
JBaxter's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: South Carolina
Posts: 4,282
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
What # is this for everyone. This is my 4th baby but 6th pregnancy. We are going to find out on the 19th. Im happy either way but I do have 3 boys and got rid of most of my baby items after Nathan was about 2. If Im going tobuy more it might as well be gender specific Nathan ( 4yr) is infatic that its a girl.

Jeana Christian momma to 4 sons Logan 18, Connor 15, Nathan 6, and bonus baby Jack 1
JBaxter is offline  
#7 of 328 Old 05-05-2008, 09:02 AM
 
irony_optional's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: New York
Posts: 232
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Number one for me. My husband and I met only two years ago, so we're moving as fast as we can.
irony_optional is offline  
#8 of 328 Old 05-05-2008, 09:33 AM - Thread Starter
 
avivaelona's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Happy Vally MA
Posts: 3,262
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
This is my third pregnancy (or possibly 4th) We lost one mid pregnancy, and have one son. (the confusion about 3 or 4 is because I think I once had a very early miscarriage but since I didn't test who knows)

I'm having a rocky morning because I had really bad night sweats last night. Since in the past few years those have always been a PMS or postpartum symptom for me I'm concerned about whether it means this pregnancy is iffy. If you are having some peri-menopause symptoms do they just keep going during pregnancy? (that is one question the "30's" group doesn't usually have to ask!)
avivaelona is offline  
#9 of 328 Old 05-05-2008, 10:48 AM
 
KatWrangler's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Affton, MO
Posts: 11,097
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I am 42 and due to have baby# 3, our final next Monday via CS.

Anne, Mama to Conner 2/27/04 blahblah.gif  Gabrielle 2/6/06 W/LMC-TCS, Neurogenic Bladder, AFO & KAFO wearer, Neurogenic Bowel energy.gif & Delaney 5/12/08 mischievous.gif &  Beethoven cat.gif& Gizmo cat.gif

KatWrangler is offline  
#10 of 328 Old 05-05-2008, 02:29 PM
 
atjmom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 26
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I will be 40 in June and this is my 4th! 1st-27, 2nd-29, 3rd-38 and 4th the big 4.0.!
atjmom is offline  
#11 of 328 Old 05-05-2008, 04:17 PM
 
KariM's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2004
Location: at the sewing machine (in zone 5A)
Posts: 3,375
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm not pregnant any more (DD2 is now 5 weeks old) but wanted to shout out to those over 40 mamas who are!
KariM is offline  
#12 of 328 Old 05-05-2008, 08:39 PM
 
BabyA'sMom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Posts: 98
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm 41 with a 5 month old. I had her at age 40. Hope to be able to squeak out another before it's too late.
BabyA'sMom is offline  
#13 of 328 Old 05-05-2008, 08:48 PM - Thread Starter
 
avivaelona's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Happy Vally MA
Posts: 3,262
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Welcome to all, Good luck next week Katwrangler! I hope it goes smooth and easy.

So is there anything you found hard about being over 40 and pregnant? Anything that felt really great?
avivaelona is offline  
#14 of 328 Old 05-05-2008, 10:08 PM
 
JBaxter's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: South Carolina
Posts: 4,282
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
This is by far my easiest pregnancy so far. No nausness, breast tenderness ( may be slight) headaches bleeding or cramping. I have had some tiredness but my father recently passed away after being in the hospital for 5 weeks 1 1/2 hrs away so that took alot out of me.
I have gone from a 36c/d to a 38DD

Jeana Christian momma to 4 sons Logan 18, Connor 15, Nathan 6, and bonus baby Jack 1
JBaxter is offline  
#15 of 328 Old 05-05-2008, 11:22 PM
 
odilemarie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Posts: 84
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Good luck, katwrangler!

I'm 43, and 35 weeks pregnant with #3. Due June 9. This has been my easiest pregnancy too, go figure.

I had one in my 20's (worst morning sickness), and another in my 30's (really bad hip and back pain), now this time in my 40's. One per decade!
odilemarie is offline  
#16 of 328 Old 05-06-2008, 04:11 PM
 
Mamasjoy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Posts: 58
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Thought I'd chime in,

I will be 40 this year and this is our 3rd!
Mamasjoy is offline  
#17 of 328 Old 05-06-2008, 05:19 PM
 
JBaxter's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: South Carolina
Posts: 4,282
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
ok how old is your oldest child My oldest will be just one month from his 17 th bday when this baby is born He will be almost done with college till I send this one to kindergarten.

The plan is if I go into labor at night he will take Nathan to preschool in the morning ( and my friend will pick him up after preschool) then Logan and Connor will join us at the hospital for the birth. Both boys are super stoked about seeing another sibiling born.

One good thing is it has strenghened Logans resolve in waiting for sex he says its super cool I am having a baby but he doesnt need to be making any of his own

Jeana Christian momma to 4 sons Logan 18, Connor 15, Nathan 6, and bonus baby Jack 1
JBaxter is offline  
#18 of 328 Old 05-06-2008, 08:01 PM
 
irony_optional's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: New York
Posts: 232
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by avivaelona View Post
Welcome to all, Good luck next week Katwrangler! I hope it goes smooth and easy.

So is there anything you found hard about being over 40 and pregnant? Anything that felt really great?
This is my first, so I don't have anything to compare it to, but I haven't found it to be at all difficult. I was in pretty good shape when we were TTC (good diet, worked out), which I'm sure helped. I had a lot of fatigue the first trimester, but no morning sickness. Since then, few discomforts and no medical issues. Only 6 weeks to go!
irony_optional is offline  
#19 of 328 Old 05-06-2008, 10:30 PM - Thread Starter
 
avivaelona's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Happy Vally MA
Posts: 3,262
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Jeana I thought that was cool when I read in your sig how spread out your kids are. I would have loved to have a baby sibling when I was that age. (unfortunately my mom did not agree at all). My oldest LC will be almost 4 when the baby is born, we were late starters.
avivaelona is offline  
#20 of 328 Old 05-07-2008, 08:37 AM
 
JBaxter's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: South Carolina
Posts: 4,282
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
This baby was a total suprise. We tried to have another baby just after Nathan but I m/c. I spent 2yrs trying ( clomid a few injectables etc) to get pregnant but no one could tellme why after being able to get pregnant the 1st month I tried ( 5 times) I suddenly couldnt. We chalked it up to Gods will that our family was done biologiclly and got lic'd to be foster parents. During this time Nathan started praying for a baby sister EVERY NIGHT and at dinner. 4 months I listened to prayers from that little guy Imagine my suprise 3yrs after m/c and trying to have a light bulb moment something was up. I did 3 preg tests then bought another box because that HAD to be a bad box cried for an hour called my DH at work cried 20 min then called my ob had 2 HCG drawn and finally believed it had happened. This baby is ( I know in my heart any way) a very special gift and the results of a little boys prayers.


OH if it is a girl as Nathan says it is my DH says he has a list of things Nathan is going to add to his prayers because he thinks the big guy really likes him

Jeana Christian momma to 4 sons Logan 18, Connor 15, Nathan 6, and bonus baby Jack 1
JBaxter is offline  
#21 of 328 Old 05-07-2008, 09:17 AM
 
KariM's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2004
Location: at the sewing machine (in zone 5A)
Posts: 3,375
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by JBaxter View Post
What # is this for everyone. This is my 4th baby but 6th pregnancy.
I have three kids now. My DS is 16 y/o, my DD1 is about 3 1/2 y/o now and my newest child is 5 weeks old.

It took me 5 years to conceive my DS, about 3 years of active trying to conceive my DD1 and our DD2 surprised us! I tend to have a long periods of amenorrhea while breastfeeding (2+ years in both cases) and had had my periods back for only eight months when I realized I was pregnant with my DD2.
KariM is offline  
#22 of 328 Old 05-07-2008, 05:24 PM
 
halifax40's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2008
Location: Canada
Posts: 314
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Just joining this forum today. I turned 41 yesterday and I am 10 1/2 weeks pregnant. This will be my first. So far my only real symptoms are that my pants are a bit tighter, a little breast tenderness, and a little more tired some days. Have been very lucky to have had no nausea at all. All seems a little unreal still. Have my first ultrasound on May 22nd, I imagine that will make it seem more real.

Me-46 DH-45 DS born June 2012 TTC#2  July 2008 angel3.gif19 weeks, April 2010 angel1.gif @11 weeks, Sept 2010 angel1.gif @ 7 weeks. Feb 2011 angel1.gifangel1.gif twins @11 weeks. bfinfant.gifcd.gif

halifax40 is offline  
#23 of 328 Old 05-07-2008, 05:44 PM
 
JBaxter's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: South Carolina
Posts: 4,282
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by halifax40 View Post
Just joining this forum today. I turned 41 yesterday and I am 10 1/2 weeks pregnant. This will be my first. So far my only real symptoms are that my pants are a bit tighter, a little breast tenderness, and a little more tired some days. Have been very lucky to have had no nausea at all. All seems a little unreal still. Have my first ultrasound on May 22nd, I imagine that will make it seem more real.
Congrats and dont thing your alone in feeling unreal. This is my6th pregnancy ( 4th baby I have carried this far) and it took me 5 pregnancy tests 2 hcg and an u/s to even start to feel its real I have had 3 more u/s ( including a nuchal scan) to think WOW Im having another baby LOL.
PS :

Jeana Christian momma to 4 sons Logan 18, Connor 15, Nathan 6, and bonus baby Jack 1
JBaxter is offline  
#24 of 328 Old 05-07-2008, 05:52 PM
 
irony_optional's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: New York
Posts: 232
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by halifax40 View Post
Just joining this forum today. I turned 41 yesterday and I am 10 1/2 weeks pregnant. This will be my first. So far my only real symptoms are that my pants are a bit tighter, a little breast tenderness, and a little more tired some days. Have been very lucky to have had no nausea at all. All seems a little unreal still. Have my first ultrasound on May 22nd, I imagine that will make it seem more real.
It keeps getting more and more real as time goes on for me. First it was hearing the heartbeat, then it was the ultrasound when I saw the little fingers, then it was all the wiggly movement... At 34 weeks, it's still "getting more real" all the time. The latest is buying a car seat, taking a tour of the maternity ward, and so on.
irony_optional is offline  
#25 of 328 Old 05-07-2008, 06:43 PM
 
halifax40's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2008
Location: Canada
Posts: 314
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by JBaxter View Post
Congrats and dont thing your alone in feeling unreal. This is my6th pregnancy ( 4th baby I have carried this far) and it took me 5 pregnancy tests 2 hcg and an u/s to even start to feel its real I have had 3 more u/s ( including a nuchal scan) to think WOW Im having another baby LOL.
PS :
Thanks so much for the welcoming post and the birthday wish. I am sure it will start to feel more real for me soon, I think the lack of symptoms has just made it harder for me to really believe it...not complaining though, I am so glad to have not had the nausea and such that many people get. My doctor tried to hear the heartbeat with a doppler yesterday, but she said it was hiding (and to my mind she didn't try all that long), would have been nice to have that much confirmation that things are progressing well. Congratulations to you too!

Me-46 DH-45 DS born June 2012 TTC#2  July 2008 angel3.gif19 weeks, April 2010 angel1.gif @11 weeks, Sept 2010 angel1.gif @ 7 weeks. Feb 2011 angel1.gifangel1.gif twins @11 weeks. bfinfant.gifcd.gif

halifax40 is offline  
#26 of 328 Old 05-07-2008, 06:43 PM
 
angela40's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2008
Posts: 96
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
just had my 40th bday in feb, got pg the next month; due 12-2-08. this is my 7th pregnancy but will be my third child if all goes well, i have had 3 early miscarriages and last year lost my son at 20 wks of pregnancy for unknown reasons. so needless to say i will be holding my breath until after 20 wks. my dd is almost 5 and my ds is 3.
i definitely feel much more tired but i am also hypothyroid and have 2 little ones to chase around all day.
anyway i don't know anyone irl my age who is expecting and likewise in the ddc there are very few my age so thanks for starting this thread!
i got my first mammogram the week before i got pg- a weird juxtaposition.
angela40 is offline  
#27 of 328 Old 05-07-2008, 06:45 PM
 
halifax40's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2008
Location: Canada
Posts: 314
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by irony_optional View Post
It keeps getting more and more real as time goes on for me. First it was hearing the heartbeat, then it was the ultrasound when I saw the little fingers, then it was all the wiggly movement... At 34 weeks, it's still "getting more real" all the time. The latest is buying a car seat, taking a tour of the maternity ward, and so on.
Wow, given your due date it soon will be very real for you! Thanks for your post, been reading a lot online but this is my first time posting, I appreciate the welcoming reply

Me-46 DH-45 DS born June 2012 TTC#2  July 2008 angel3.gif19 weeks, April 2010 angel1.gif @11 weeks, Sept 2010 angel1.gif @ 7 weeks. Feb 2011 angel1.gifangel1.gif twins @11 weeks. bfinfant.gifcd.gif

halifax40 is offline  
#28 of 328 Old 05-07-2008, 09:48 PM
 
juneau's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: Midwest
Posts: 756
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
JBaxter, what a sweet story about Nathan. Congratulations!

I am 44 with a 3-year-old dd, born when I was 41. I lost three babies after her; my son, Daniel, at almost 15 weeks, one at 7 weeks, and the last one (in August 2007) was ectopic (ruptured at 5 1/2 weeks). So this is my fifth pregnancy; one living child so far.

Needless to say, I'm a wee bit nervous! I just got my BFP this morning and was on the phone to the perinatologist first thing. I haven't even told dh yet -- I'm thinking about doing it on Mother's Day. After so many losses, I'm even a bit anxious about telling him!

The funny thing is, I did IVF in my 30s, and still have three frozen embryos. (Although all my conceptions have been since then, and all naturally conceived--go figure.) After my ectopic, I decided it might be a good thing to thaw the embies out inside me. So I planned a natural FET. I flew to San Diego a couple of weeks ago, where my embies live, right at ovulation, only to have my cycle canceled because my "lining was too thin and my estrogen too low." So :nana: to them; I got pregnant anyway, the old fashioned way! (We DTD right before I left town.)
juneau is offline  
#29 of 328 Old 05-09-2008, 03:29 PM
 
doularosemary's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2004
Posts: 93
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Another over 40 mama here! I'm 30w and expecting #3 in July. We have a 16yo DS and a 4yo DD. I'll be 42 by the time the baby gets here and dh is 47. This was a total shock to us and took us several months to feel even remotely excited.

I'm actually in better shape than with the last two pregnancies which both were without any complications. Have been having a little sciatic pain lately but I get that sometimes even when I'm not pregnant, LOL!
doularosemary is offline  
#30 of 328 Old 05-09-2008, 04:07 PM
 
JBaxter's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: South Carolina
Posts: 4,282
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
DH was watching the Today show last week and they did a segment on Chinese medicine / organic eating and fertility. He mentioned that it has been over a year since we started our 4 yr old on the Feingold diet/organic diet due to food dye issues. We stopped trying a year and half ago he was wondering if our better diet helped our "unexpected" fertility.

Jeana Christian momma to 4 sons Logan 18, Connor 15, Nathan 6, and bonus baby Jack 1
JBaxter is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off