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Old 05-20-2008, 02:36 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Hi. My friend is having severe prenatal depression due to her and her partner breaking up. She can't sleep, can't eat, and is crying all the time. She wants to drink beer. Her support system isn't too great, and neither her doctor or doula is being supportive. She lives in another state so there is not much I can do to help her besides do research and talk to her on the phone.
She won't take meds, can't afford counseling.
There is not nearly as much information on prenatal depression as there is postnatal depression in my books or on the net.
Here's what I have so far:
Cod Liver Oil (She's vegetarian, so I have suggested she be taking Udo's or at least flax oil)
Sam-e (Had never heard of it before, but my midwife says she thinks its safe during pregnancy) Anyone ever use this?
Chamomile and Valerian, to calm her down when she's feeling hysterical.
What I really need is to lift her spirits. I am assuming Lemon Balm is safe during pregnancy. Somebody correct me if I am wrong.
Anybody been there, done that, treated it with herbs, flower essences, or homeopathy? What worked for you? Any good books?
Thank you.
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Honestly the best things would probably be lots of sunshine and getting some exercise. They both do wonders for the disposition.

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It's the last thing in the world she will probably want to do, but I highly recommend some sort of exercise every day. My pregnancy is night and day different than the last one where I didn't exercise. It is so worth it!!!
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Sunshine and excercise! Of course! Thank you. Another friend mentioned getting enough sleep. I know she's not gettting enough of any of these things. I will remind her.
Meanwhile, any other suggestions?
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Sunshine and excercise! Of course! Thank you. Another friend mentioned getting enough sleep. I know she's not gettting enough of any of these things. I will remind her.
Meanwhile, any other suggestions?
A good diet helps. Low blood sugar can make anyone feel like crap.
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I just wanted to chime in on the exercise/depressiong thing... I have a friend who's daughter was killed in a car accident a few years ago. She didn't want to go on anti-depressants because of the side effects. Her doctor told her that 30 minutes of exercise a day causes your brain to release the same chemicals that a low dose of Prozac does. So she's been making sure to work out daily ever since.
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A good diet helps. Low blood sugar can make anyone feel like crap.
Yeah she said she's been drinking pop, which is so unlike her, she's usually pretty healthy.
And being veggie she has to work harder to get her protein needs met.
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I just wanted to chime in on the exercise/depressiong thing... I have a friend who's daughter was killed in a car accident a few years ago. She didn't want to go on anti-depressants because of the side effects. Her doctor told her that 30 minutes of exercise a day causes your brain to release the same chemicals that a low dose of Prozac does. So she's been making sure to work out daily ever since.
Wow, I will have to tell her about the Prozac/excercise connection.
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Gosh I'm so sorry that this is happening to your friend...sometimes life hands us such heartbreak at such confusing and awful times...I know that everything will work out great for her in the end...but I know that doesn't help at all with the "now".

I have to second what others have said about exercise...getting out for a walk in the sun will help her to sort her thoughts and reconnect with herself...eating healthy foods will also do her a world of good.

Also....having friends like you to care about her and keep in touch will be such an awesome medicine for her...bless you for being a caring friend even though you are far away and at a loss for how to help her. Your energy going into this will help in the end. Big hugs to both of you and I am sending healing and peaceful vibes out to you both.

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I have been told that lemon balm is safe.

Coconut oil, good for overall health.

Rescue Remedy spray for the worst moments.
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Just wanted to add another suggestion from my midwife in case anyone else is looking for alternatives.
She had a client who got a B-12 shot every two weeks and that really helped her.
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