This is a ways off, but I've been thinking about it as we are taking a trip to visit my inlaws today. My DH is an only child and is very close to his family. They live 4-6 hours away in New York.
We used to go visit them practically every Christmas and Thanksgiving, but this was getting to be ridiculous as it meant my family (local) got robbed of seeing us during the holidays and the driving all the time was a little crazy.
So we made a compromise: We see his folks during *one* holiday (either Thanksgiving or Chistmas). Every year, we'd switch the holiday (IOW- one year we'd go up on Xmas and on the next we'd go up on T-day). During years, he'd miss X-mas, we'd still go up afterwards so he'd get to spend time with his grandparents during the New Year.
This year, we are supposed to visit his folks during X-mas. I will be at 32 weeks (the 3rd trimester starts a week before Thanksgiving).
*Mammas, in your opinion, do you think this is a good idea?
*Would it be selfish of me to ask us to stay here for *both* holidays?
I'm not really thrilled about being that far away from my midwives, our birthing center, and hospitals we are familiar with. Also, I'm not at all that keen about being in NY so close to the due date, either. I hear they have really stupid laws regarding vaxing and eyedrops after the birth, and I don't want that.
I'd consider offering my dh to go on his own, but I don't want us to be separated that late in the pregnancy (at 32 weeks). I may be okay with him going up by himself over Thanksgiving, though.
Still, I hate to think I'd rob my dh of spending the holidays with his family.
I know it's very early to think about, but I want to get it out of the way so it's not a last minute decision. What do you think?
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