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#31 of 35 Old 10-03-2008, 08:18 PM
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There's this wish list site, too: www.kaboodle.com

I'd mention (every chance you get, if they're like my Mom and MIL!) your wishes to your mom and his, or aunts or whomever. Anyone hosting a shower. In fact, if you have a shower close to your due date, one of the things the hostess can ask for is that everyone brings a freezer meal as part/all of their gift.

For baby's first Christmas the year before last, the whole Made in China/lead paint mess had just broken in the news. This was an easy way for me to reiterate my reasons against huge hulking, noisy, plastic toys. It worked really well. We actually got wooden puzzles and books instead! Since it's still relatively fresh in people's minds, you could mention that as well as the BPA issues as reasons to avoid MIC/plastic stuff.
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Just FYI, Melissa and Doug toys are made in China. You can find their response to questions about that (as well as worries over lead paint) in Crunchy Domestic Goddess's blog:

Hi Amy - Yes, we definitely appreciate and understand your concern.

Please be assured, we test for lead VERY frequently.

It’s quite possible to make great quality children’s items in China, which meet all safety regulations, but the key point is that you have to test and inspect very frequently to be sure that your factories are always following your instructions explicitly. I assure you that’s exactly what we do.

From our experience, the key to doing this correctly is not simply to insist that your factories follow your instructions, but then to go one step further and to AUDIT, INSPECT, AND TEST very frequently. That is the most important part of the process, and it’s something our company has always taken VERY seriously.

Thanks again for asking, and for your support also.

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I've always seen registry info included in invites. That's how we know where to shop if we want to get them something they desire vs just something we might think they'll like. I can see how it might not fit with proper etiquette, but overall, it seems to be well excepted, and expected. I think I may try some of the suggestions for online place you ladies mentioned!

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I would probably say that you have all that you need for the new baby and instead of a gift would each person send a photo of themselves to be made into a baby photo book or a donation to xxx charity/women's shelter in honor of the new baby etc. If it isn't seen as "buy me this stuff but not that junky stuff" I don't think it is rude to redirect. If people ask you directly, then you could get into your preferences.
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You certainly have enough here to think about but I wanted to post an experience I had. A family member and her partner were expecting and had the host write in the shower invitation that the parents to be would most appreciate "hand-y" gifts--hand me downs, second hand, hand made. I feel like it was a sweet way of explaining what they wanted without it seeming tacky. I believe there was some mention of if you need other ideas to check "x" website for ideas or to contact the host of the shower or parents. The website (I forget what it was now) was obviously by the name an organic cotton type company.
I hope this helps!
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