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#1 of 28 Old 06-16-2009, 12:15 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I keep trying to talk to people, and I get no response. I'm relatively new, so maybe people just ignore newbies?

I posted responses to two different people over the past couple of days. They specifically responded to posters around me and completely ignored what I wrote.

Thought I was being nice and helpful. Honestly, my feelings are hurt.

What's up with that? Can you see my posts?

Just checking...

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#2 of 28 Old 06-16-2009, 01:44 PM
 
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I think a lot of people get that feeling now and then.

Sometimes if people see someone they "know" or have posted with a lot they might just be more likely to respond to their posts.

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i see you , mama. ( & i hear you,too. it can be so frustrating.)
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What's up with that? Can you see my posts?

Just checking...

I see you!! I have felt that way around here especialy at the begining..

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hey have you tried the pleased to meet you section? this board is so big it takes some exploring to get used to everything

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or, come join a tribe? (less scary than it sounds )
i'm in the lonely mamas one, we are all really nice!

it's here .
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Whew! I was actually starting to wonder...lol. Thanks for responding and letting me know I'm not alone.

You know what's funny? I actually joined the Indy tribe, and that's one of the places I don't always get a response. Oh, well.

I'll take your suggestions and try some of the other tribes and the new here section. Maybe I'm just too sensitive, but I like online life to be like real life, where people respond and acknowledge...it's just not like that on the net sometimes.

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i feel that way,too. but i guess it is just easier to ignore people & be rude when you have the anonymity of the internet on your side.
oh well. fingers crossed you find a nice tribe!!
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Used to happen to me all the time until my post count got up into the thousands. Some of the forums are better/chattier than others, though.
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I know someone w/ over 12,000 posts and over 3 years of membership, and she gets the invisible treatment too, sometimes.

for you, though, b/c it is frustrating when it's you.

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#13 of 28 Old 06-23-2009, 09:20 PM
 
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mama! I can see you!

I'm near Indy!

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I just do my best to not take it personally. Message boards are not like real life-- or it they were, could you imagine having a conversation with 20 different people while a thousand or so sit around and listen? It just isn't always possible to respond individually to everyone's response to a thread. My post count may not be super high, but I've been around here a long time and sometimes what I post gets a direct response and sometimes it doesn't. I just try to remember that sometimes things strike a chord in people and provoke a response and sometimes they don't and, to have any longevity on a message board like this you have to play the percentages and accept that only maybe 50% of the time will your post illicit a direct response. It's not you , it's just the nature of message boards .
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I just do my best to not take it personally. Message boards are not like real life-- or it they were, could you imagine having a conversation with 20 different people while a thousand or so sit around and listen? It just isn't always possible to respond individually to everyone's response to a thread. My post count may not be super high, but I've been around here a long time and sometimes what I post gets a direct response and sometimes it doesn't. I just try to remember that sometimes things strike a chord in people and provoke a response and sometimes they don't and, to have any longevity on a message board like this you have to play the percentages and accept that only maybe 50% of the time will your post illicit a direct response. It's not you , it's just the nature of message boards .

I absolutely agree with what you said here. Oh, I've started a few threads that were really hot, iykwim. Others, fizzle out and hardly get any posts. So it really is a gamble. One thing, IMHO I find odd is when you pm or message someone specific and they never answer. I don't get tons of pm's or messages, but when I do, I answer each one. I kinda look at it like if this person cares enough to ask my opinion or provide advice, I'm going to acknowledge it. I guess I just consider that "net etiquette."

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#16 of 28 Old 06-23-2009, 10:49 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Yay! I didn't see many of the recent responses. Thank you!

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mama! I can see you!

I'm near Indy!
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I absolutely agree with what you said here. Oh, I've started a few threads that were really hot, iykwim. Others, fizzle out and hardly get any posts. So it really is a gamble. One thing, IMHO I find odd is when you pm or message someone specific and they never answer. I don't get tons of pm's or messages, but when I do, I answer each one. I kinda look at it like if this person cares enough to ask my opinion or provide advice, I'm going to acknowledge it. I guess I just consider that "net etiquette."
Thanks for the PM and response here. I appreciate the good vibes. I responded to your PM.

Yay for nice MDC-ers! I was just new and am not used to the site yet, I guess. Thanks again! :

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I just try to remember that sometimes things strike a chord in people and provoke a response and sometimes they don't.
Exactly. I wouldn't expect a direct quote or response even half the time. And even if you don't get a response, don't assume that your support or advice wasn't helpful.
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Oh this is not uncommon at all. Don't take it personally. I get ignored lots
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Mamma, I understand you LOL. But i'm relatively new, just check my post count, so I think that's the reason.
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Don't worry, it's pretty common to feel completely ignored on a board with this many people on it. I think we've all been there. Here, have some chocolate.

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i think we have all felt that way on occasion. esp. when we're new and it seems like no one even notices we've posted!

IME posts that are quoted are often extremely amusing, extremely controversial, the correct answer to a question and the 8000 posters afterwards quote it with a :, completely outrageous ex- omg last week my MIL drove my 8 month old to mcdonalds with only a seat belt on and then bought him his own mcflurry, etc... you get the idea!
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Exactly. I wouldn't expect a direct quote or response even half the time. And even if you don't get a response, don't assume that your support or advice wasn't helpful.
Well, I didn't want to crush her spirit too much by saying that really only about maybe 20% of the time will what you post in response to a thread garner a direct response from someone else. And you're right, no response doesn't mean that you post wasn't appreciated. There are whole threads I've read and never commented on that I found interesting or helpful.
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I don't think a single person responded to me the first three years I was here! If not that's honestly what it felt like. It was pretty crushing at the time. I think it's important to not take it personally! It's not because you're not liked. :

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I was honesrly sitting here thinking that same thing when I saw the post come up on the front page . I am having a breast feeding issue and posted on he BF challanges board and so far ppl have hardly looked at let alone gave any advice oh well .
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I see you !

I feel like I'm on everybody's Ignore List most of the time .

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Exactly. I wouldn't expect a direct quote or response even half the time. And even if you don't get a response, don't assume that your support or advice wasn't helpful.
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Mama look how many people replied you are so popular! I wish I was that popular!! I know I have had that happen to me so many times actually the only time I feel I really was listened to was in the single parenting forum and now in the November and December due date club's see I had to go get pregnant to have people like me no just kidding (kindda) I try to reply to posts but there are sooooo many I hope you feel noticed soon if not you could do what I did and go get yourself pregnant j/k

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In some of the quieter tribes, it can take awhile for questions to get answered.
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