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#31 of 50 Old 02-24-2009, 02:57 PM
 
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Thanks for all your replies...yeah i guess basically what I am hoping to hear is:

"my first birth at the hospital wasn't great x, y, z happend BUT i was able to go on and have wonderful amazing perfect homebirth babies after that."
I had 3 births in the hosp before I went on to homebirth....my first 2 had alot of interventions, w/ my 2nd being the most (pit, epi, internal monitoring...ect).

I have since gone on to have 2 wonderful home/water births & planning on another one is 5 weeks!

So it can be done....you just need to trust in your body
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Thanks for all your replies...yeah i guess basically what I am hoping to hear is:

"my first birth at the hospital wasn't great x, y, z happend BUT i was able to go on and have wonderful amazing perfect homebirth babies after that."
This was me! My first had a malpoitioned head which led to a looooong (52 hour) labor. I had pit at the very end to dilate me the last 3cm and an epidural after 43 hours. Pushed for 2 hours. I actually am happy with how his birth went - we took Bradley classes and felt prepared for birth. When things didn't go according to plan we felt included in the decision-making process for choosing interventions, felt respected by the nurses and midwives, and empowered in birth. I wish it would have been straightforward and easy but it wasn't and given those circumstances I am ok with how things turned out.

Second birth was a homebirth and 18 hours. Used the abdominal lift/tuck to get labor going again after it started to get into the same bad pattern I had with my DS. 3 hours later I was pushing and a half hour after that she was born.
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My first birth was long, painful, frightening, and full of hospital interventions (pit, epi, antibiotics), including a 3rd degree episiotomy without my knowledge or consent (because I was tearing everywhere due to directed pushing flat on my back). Had bilateral ductal yeast from day 1 that resulted in lots of pain, pumping and formula supplementing in the early weeks. That led to food intolerances and elimination diets. The whole experience sucked, and I never felt joy when I thought of her birth.

Then #2 came along and I took Bradley Method classes, read Ina May, Birthing from Within, and then my new ob (who I thought was on the same page as me) told me "sure you can push any way you want as long as you're flat on your back with your feet in the stirrups for the big moment"--and I'm still grateful for his honesty because that spurred me to leave him for a CNM and seek out a HB midwife--and I started reading up on UC and took phone classes with Pam England and my friends threw a Blessingway instead of the typical baby shower---and when my water broke on his due date I went for a walk by myself (with cell phone, lol) and realized, "I could have this baby here, anywhere, ALL BY MYSELF---this is a BIRTH, and I'm excited, not afraid this time!" And it was a beautiful midwife assisted homebirth in my shower on my terms--I BIRTHED, I was NOT DELIVERED. And now I can find the joy in my dd's birth! :

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Wow, you ladies are truely amazing, supportive, encouraging! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences...keep 'em coming!

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My second wasn't a HB but at a freestanding birth center (for financial reasons we couldn't afford a HB and BC is covered under insurance) so same dif really. My next will be a HB. Anyway, my first was a pitocin induction and I had an unplanned epidural, AROM, 3 hrs of terrible pushing, IVs etc etc etc. It is absolutely a completely different world when you are with a mw who is on your side in a place you feel safe. You will be fine.
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my first 2 wereboth hospital births with every intervention you could imagine short of a section. They were both a little more than 8 lbs. My 3rd was a homebirth with no interventions & it was wonderful. IF we ever had anymore they'd be at home hands down. BTW my homebirthed baby was 10 lbs 5 oz. I wasn't sure my body could do it but I did!!

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Do you think that if your first birth was at a hospital and there was a lot of issues, it is impossible to have a homebirth for the second?

Oh goodness, this was WHY I chose homebirth for my second! And I've known a good many other mamas IRL who have had the same experience. The horror of a hospital birth with a cascade of interventions was definitely a factor in choosing to birth at home. My first birth was pretty much a carbon copy of what you've described (except maybe add a vacuum extraction and a huge episiotomy, just for fun. Ugh.) :

My homebirth was beautiful. It was not uncomplicated; however, my birth team was amazing and I would do it again in a heartbeat. Birth can be extremely healing and empowering. Go for it, mama! Trust your body's ability to birth naturally. I wish you a peaceful and beautiful birth.

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I had hospital births for my first two babies. DS1, I went to the hospital way too soon, ended up having Pitocin for 12 hours straight with no progress so they sent me home. I came back 12 hours later in active labor but I was so exhausted by then I asked for an epidural, so I ended up sleeping flat on my back for 7 hours until I was woken up by a nurse telling me it was time to push. They shut off my epidural but I still couldn't move/feel my legs so after 3 hours of pushing flat on my back, I ended up having an episiotomy and a vacuum extraction because my son was posterior.
My next baby I had a CNM but I had a very medically managed birth. I had a Cytotec + AROM induction, followed by an epidural, catheter, continuous EFM, IV, the whole nine yards.
My third and fourth babies were born at home in water.
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Oh goodness, this was WHY I chose homebirth for my second! And I've known a good many other mamas IRL who have had the same experience. The horror of a hospital birth with a cascade of interventions was definitely a factor in choosing to birth at home.
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Another here with an intervention-filled hospital birth (34 hr labor, 3+ hrs pushing, IV, continuous monitoring, pitocin, epidural, catheter, vacuum extraction, tons 'o stitches).

Had a wonderful homebirth 4wks ago (15 hr labor, 1 hr pushing, no stitches).
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My first was a hospital birth with a posterior 10lb babe, 24 hour labor, and all the "standard" interventions (AROM, pitocin, epidural).

Second was a very simple homebirth about two hours after the midwife arrived. It was a zillion times easier at home.
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My first (hospital) birth wasn't really so bad. I had a natural birth with supportive nurses and an on-call doctor who didn't interfere too much in my baby's birth. The key word is "too". I was lucky.

My second baby was born at home in an amazing and peaceful waterbirth. If she'd been born in the hospital they would have given me pitocin because my water broke 36 hours before labor began. Also, they probably would have freaked about the double nuchal cord. Neither was a big deal at home and handled with minimal intervention.

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My opinion is that in most cases where there were medical interventions with #1, they wouldn't have been needed if it was a planned homebirth!

My dd was born in the hospital, induced with pit and had an epi. I knew as soon as she was born that I would never PLAN another hospital birth and my son was born smoothly and beautifully at home in 7 hours and I'm planned a HB with #3. I actually think it might be more common to have a homebirth starting with #2 or #3 vs. 1st baby.

You can do it!
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I ended up with a section in the hospital for my first, and I had a homebirth for my second (HBAC technically) so yes, absolutely, it is possible, in fact birthing at home is the most likely scenario for successful vaginal birth for women with prior cesareans.
But you were just asking about prior medicalized nightmare births, or at the very least, unpleasant hospital births? Yes, you can definitely have a homebirth after.

My HBAC (home VBAC) baby weighed over 10 lbs, came out with nuchal hand, the membranes never ruptured til after his head was out (en caul birth) which is actually quite rare for large babies and generally considered lucky. I think it's lucky in fact, because it makes the pushing easier. My midwife didn't practice AROM routinely, or believe in it, and I quite agreed.

Anyway, my 3 yo daughter was in attendance, I roasted a turkey in labor until things got really underway, and had a wonderful birth overall. Big baby, nuchal arm, none of it mattered. Oh I was over 35 too, and past 40 weeks. Big deal.

I had a very special point of view, because at each turn, I could compare the pain with the prior experience of Pitocin induction, and could always go, "hey, this isn't so bad by comparison!" Seriously, nothing involved in birthing a 10 lb baby naturally ever got to be the kind of pain that only getting to 4 cm on that dreaded Pitocin had been, before. I *knew* in my bones that first time, that it was an unnatural amount of agony, and I was right.

So if it helps to know, yes, homebirth is so much better and easier than the hospital experience. Any veterinarian knows that a labor gets stalled and difficult if you mess with the mother, move her during labor, interfere with her, or scare her. Yet docs do it to women in hospitals all the time and then "save" them by surgically removing the child when the labor goes awry, or even when it doesn't but isn't happening on schedule. Ugh.

Sorry, digression.
If I ever have another child it will be another homebirth.
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I had a perfect homebirth after my first was born in a hospital with IV, Pit, Epi, stadol, catheter, etc.

You can do it!

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I had a wonderful homebirth with my second! I was only in labor for 3 1/2 hours.

With my first I was in labor for 42 hours and they put me on pit and broke my water. Not to mention all the craziness it caused when we denied every routine procedure. It made me sure that my next child will not be born in the hospital.

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I had a 46 hour posterior labor with my first, the complete package with Pitocin, epidural, AROM, and C-section. I pushed for four hours but nobody knew he was posterior, and I was on my back so I couldn't manuever him out. I hemorraged very badly after the surgery because they cut into my cervix right on a major artery.

I had a wonderful homebirth with my second that only had a few minor "glitches" (sticky shoulders, stubborn placenta, baby had fluid in his lungs and was unresponsive at first) but they were easily handled and didn't detract from the overall experience. It was about 12 hours start to finish, with 2 hours pushing. I was very committed to birthing at home after what I'd gone through with my first.

Your birth is not set in stone based on your previos birth history. Each birth is different, and that includes each birth that YOU have!
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I wanted to have a natural birth at the hospital, but when i wasn't progressing after 24 hours they put me on pitocin at which point i NEEDED an epidural, ( i was becoming exhausted and the pain was unbearable), during pushing they kept telling me I would be getting a c section if i didn't get that baby out (as if i wasn't trying as damn hard as i could), etc. i dont' think i would "risk" out as i had no other problems during pregnancy (no high blood pressure, i'm still young-25 years old, i didn' thave gdb
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DITTO almost 100% - I was progressing, but had a cervical lip and baby's heartrate dropped - plus she was posterior. But other wise yes - i was there for 24 hours and had the OB threatening C/S - my midwife kept saying I could do it and I DID, but it was long and hard.

The answer to your question??? My 2nd was a surprise homebirth as labor went so freaking fast the midwife JUST had time to arrive - she was GOING to escort us to hospital but nope! No time! My 3rd was also a successful planned homebirth.

So yep - its totally possible!

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1st birth I was slowly contracting, then went to hospital, was walking to progress. Checked and was 4 CM. Still was given pitocin. Intense pain. Failed epidural. In bed, fetal monitor, catheter, tearing and episiotomy. Writhing in Pain. Sucky healing.

2nd birth, planned homebirth. No interventions, even as I was 16 days past due (unless you count a reflexologist as an intervention). Birth pool, squatting, no tearing, no cutting. mentally strong. Best birth, so glad I did it!

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"my first birth at the hospital wasn't great x, y, z happend BUT i was able to go on and have wonderful amazing perfect homebirth babies after that."
This is me! My first hospital birth was ok: SROM followed by 15-odd hours of waiting for contractions to get going; I was GBS+ so got abx, and eventually accepted pitocin to augment labor. ds was born 3.5 hours after I felt the first real contraction, no epidural or other interventions, though I did have a PPH caused (in my view) by poor management of the third stage (pulling on the cord coupled with the fast labor and pitocin.

My 2nd was a blissful, beautiful, quick and easy home water birth. Also started with SROM but cxs started right away, no hemorrhage...absolutely perfect. I'd never ever consider a hospital birth, no way.

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My first birth was supposed to be in a birth center, but I had to transfer after 24 hours with broken waters because I was GBS+ and that was their policy. I was also only 4 cm after 24 hours. I had Pit, an epi, and pushed for more than 2 hours. The entire labor was 34 hours and horribly painful (posterior baby). Second degree tear, terribly sad about the birth, had PPD.

My second baby was a 6-hour homebirth and amazingly wonderful. There were maybe about 30 minutes of truly bad pain during transition; the rest was very manageable. I pushed for about 15 minutes and had no tears at all.

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