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#1 of 28 Old 04-12-2010, 10:25 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I birthed my first son with a rotating group of midwives in a hospital setting and had a pretty good experience. I did want to use the water tub, but was not able to because my baby's heart rate had dropped and they induced me. My widwife, who is no longer there, was so supportive and really was great during the delivery. I did feel a bit pressured into getting induced (by another midwife), and I don't think that they are all as natural as I am regarding medications and food choices. I also wish that I had had one midwife throughout rather than all of them. When it comes time to deliver, you get whoever is on call.

I am now 24 weeks pregnant with the second baby and still going to the same group. I am getting worried about the delivery as it gets closer for a few reasons:
1. We've moved considerable farther away from Prentice (about 8.5 miles away, but with city traffic at the wrong time of day could mean 40 to 45 minutes away), and I worry about rushing to the hospital and possibly not getting there on time.
2. I have yet to really "click" with any of the midwives there now.
3. I did kind of feel that the hospital staff during the last time encouraged the use of formula and felt like I had a medical experience. (The new hospital is quite a bit nicer in terms of amenities though.)

Am I too far along to find a home-birth midwife or to switch over to a new midwives group, which is only 5 miles away, but still could be a long drive in rush hour??

Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated.

Thanks!

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Not too late. I booked my mw at 26 weeks although I was always set on homebirth, just vascilating between UC and mw attended.

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I switched from a hospital birth with an OB to my homebirth midwife at 32 weeks with my last pregnancy. It was a good decision, and I still grit my teeth thinking about my previous OB's attitude.
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Nope, not at all. I switched at 29 weeks!

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I had my first midwife appointment at 36 weeks. I'm so glad I switched.

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My sister switched at 37 weeks and gave birth just the other day at 38 weeks.

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Definitely not too late. I personally switched at 22 weeks and it was perfect. And I have known women who have changed care providers as late as 38 weeks and it's still not a problem.


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Its never too late until the baby is out!

I have had people switch at 36, 37, and 39 weeks. Go for it!
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We have had clients come in at 39 weeks. not too late, until baby is born! I like what Paige said!
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Never too late! I didn't find my midwife until around 36-37 weeks this time!

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You are absolutely not too far along to switch! I switched at 30 weeks with my first pregnancy when I realized a home birth was a better fit for me. And here I am considering switching home birth MWs at 33 weeks! Do what feels right.

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I switched from a hospital birth with an OB to my homebirth midwife at 32 weeks with my last pregnancy. It was a good decision, and I still grit my teeth thinking about my previous OB's attitude.
I was 30 weeks with twins, but otherwise yeah to all of the above! It's not at all too late. Switch, you'll love HB!

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Never too late . . . You will feel peace of mind when you find the right attendant. I had a similar experience, with a medical midwives group. The mw who broke my daughter's clavicle as she yanked her out of me is no longer there, and there is a new one who insisted that she would still "need to be in control" when I asked her about my choices/options. I'm glad she was honest because that solidified my decision to birth at home. It was amazing how I found clarity and awareness after finding my mw, how all those seemingly minor issues that "weren't so bad" before are ludicrous to me now . . . not being allowed in the tub, not being allowed to change positions, not being allowed to choose who would attend, filling out paperwork while I was laboring, etc. Best of luck!
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Yep, I was with a rotating midwives group as well. Insurance covered them, then learned at 22 weeks that a homebirth would be covered, Yeah! So I switched. So happy with that decision and it feels more intimate and personal. Do what feels right for you mommma.

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I just found out that my insurance won't cover a home birth, and we can't afford the out of pocket expenses it would cost for a home birth right now. It is crazy to me that the far-more expensive hospital delivery might be my only option. I'll either have to stick with the current midwife group or try out this one other one, which does do births in birthing center rooms. I don't think I have any other options...

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Even if your insurance doesn't officially cover homebirth, talk to some midwives. I've heard lots of stories of homebirth midwives successfully billing insurance companies for things like prenatal care, which can wind up covering nearly the total midwifery fee.

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I switched at 29 weeks from a CNM praqctice to a homebirth midwife. I am soooo gad I did!
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It is most definitely not too late, if your gut is telling you to go for it, then switch!!
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You may want to talk to some home birth midwives anyway. We paid for the birth of our fourth baby out of pocket and he wasn't all "paid off" until he was about six months old.

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Even if your insurance doesn't officially cover homebirth, talk to some midwives. I've heard lots of stories of homebirth midwives successfully billing insurance companies for things like prenatal care, which can wind up covering nearly the total midwifery fee.
Yeah that. Some midwives hire billing services, and the insurance companies don't distinguish between home/hospital/bs -- they just see it as a bill from a mw. My mw sends a test bill to see if the insurance will approve prenatal visits, and she said more and more, they do. Worth a try! Good luck!
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I switched from an OB to a midwife at 26 weeks...that's how long it took me to find one. As for the possibility of 45 minutes to the midwife group you're considering, my midwife is 35 minutes away from me in no traffic-her assistant/backup is almost an hour away.

Unless you're grossly uncomfortable with the possibility of it taking that long in traffic, I wouldn't let that alone stop you from seeking out alternative care from where you are currently-it's obvious that you're not as happy there as you know you could be elsewhere, and I think one way or another you should move on from there. Good luck with whatever you choose.

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I switched to a homebirth midwife at 38 weeks pregnant! I only met her once, and it was the best decision I ever made

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I found a midwife at 29 weeks.

It's important that you are happy and comfortable!

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NEVER TOO LATE!

I switched to midwives in my eighth month of my first pregnancy and never looked back. What a blessing from GOD!!!!

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Goodness, if you're talking about the NMPG CNM group, I'd be running the other direction, personally. They have reputation of "finding" things that risk you out of using the tubs, and a high rate of intervention. If you must do a hospital, you really should check out West Suburban in Oak Park and West Sub Midwife group if you're interested in a water birth. Or even UIC/Rush if you have to stay in Chicago. But Prentice... I speak from personal experience with my 1st ds. My little warning voice was screaming at me to switch after the 36-week appt, and the head CNM calling me at work threatening me that they might have to drop me if I kept pursuing our "unreasonable expectations" (such as delayed cord cutting, no AROM, no residents -- all things that she had been telling us were fine up until that point). I will forever regret not switching. My dd's birth was an exceptionally healing UC and my 2nd ds is also being born at home, although this time with a mw. They've prettied Prentice up, but the policies in place are the same old out-of-date, non-evidence-based ones they've always fallen back on mainly to avoid [more] litigation than NMH already deals with.

It is never too late to switch. You don't get a do-over.

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Hello Skyblufig, thanks for your opinion. I am currently seeing the NMPG midwives group. I have had second thoughts about them and have an appointment with the West Suburban Midwife Associates tomorrow for a consultation. Did you have your first, or second with this group? If so, was it a good experience? Is there anything I should know? Also, how is Resurrection?

Thanks for any feedback. I am glad that I'm looking into my options before I get too far along.

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I saw Gayle, Hillary and Julie at West Sub MWs for most of my second pregnancy (up until 28 weeks) before we decided on homebirth. I know Hillary's no longer with them (she does homebirths now) and they have some additional midwives. They were excellent: very open-minded, thorough, caring and flexible. Gayle is the water-birth pioneer in IL. I've heard mixed reviews on West Suburban hospital itself, but I personally have several girlfriends who've delivered in the ABC rooms and have really had satisfying experiences. I'm sure others will chime in, and there's quite a few threads on both the midwife group and the hospital in the IL tribal area. Good luck!

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