I'm about 35 weeks now with baby #3 and I'm planning on having my two DDs at the birth this time. They'll have my friend there looking out for them if they get scared, etc. and I've planned some things like a new movie to watch, new markers for them to do art with, etc. to keep them distracted. We've also read "Hello Baby" (aka "Welcome with Love") about 100 times (My DD1 loves to yell "It's a boy!!" when the baby is born
), and a few months ago we watched Orgasmic Birth (or rather, they were around when I was watching it after borrowing it from my midwife), and I'm going to try to borrow that again.
But one thing I was thinking of last night, I was pretty into my own zone in active labor, just quiet and moaning with contractions, but then when I hit transition and started pushing I remember yelling that I couldn't do this anymore, stuff like that. Everyone else was really calm, and it didn't last very long before I realized what was going on and pushed the baby out
but I'm worried that's when they'll get scared if they've never seen that that can be normal. Any youtube videos I've seen the mamas are very quiet or there's music instead of real sound.
So, I come to you MDC mamas, asking if you know of any videos, youtube, DVD, whatever, that has a mama in labor making labor noises? Bonus if it's a waterbirth since that's what we're planning. And even if you don't have videos, and stories of how your kids handled the labor noises if they were at your birth?
Thanks!!
I wonder if us loud mamas don't post videos because we don't want anyone to see us yelling about how we changed our minds and would like to go to the hospital after all.
I don't have video of either of my DDs' births, but I know I did all that, so I wonder....
There are definately some one you tube. We are not having my daughter here, nor do we feel ready to explain the whole birth process so I always find myself watching the videos when they are in bed so they don't hear all the yelling and come running. I have a hard time listening to it too since I am generally quiet while in labour and it feels weird to me to hear all the noise. I could try to find some links for you... maybe this afternoon when the kids are napping.
I agree with the PP that louder mamas are less likely to post their videos online. Mine is not super loud but I made those classic pushing noises and I felt so embarrassed to share the video at first but I'm kind of over it now. PM me if you want a link to mine even though it's not super loud...just grunty pushing sounds. I have two older kids and they slept through the whole thing as I gave birth at 2:32am.
I had a waterbirth with my DS (he was 2) present and vocalized a bunch during pushing. Not so much talking, more like primal and gutteral moans. He didn't seem to care and likes to talk about his brother's birth.
My video is on youtube I think most of the noise is in part 2, which should be easy to find since it has the same title.
Thanks Mamas! We've also been watching the homebirths that have been on "A Baby Story" this week, and those have been just about exactly what I was looking for to show the kids! I never watch that show but I heard about the homebirth episodes on a blog and I have been pleasantly surprised. I wish I had DVR or something so we could watch them over again, but it at least prompted my 4yo to ask about the noises the moms were making, and she got to see some babies born in birth tubs!
My mother filmed one with her digital camera. It was pretty strange watching it afterwards. The yelling is something that just comes out, and I was worried it would freak my daughter out. Fortunately she didn't film any with me swearing!!
She didn't seem terribly spazzy during the labor, but when asked afterwards says she was worried that Mommy was hurting really bad. She had lots of people to distract her, however, and managed just fine throughout my whole 4 hour labor. She wanted to get into the water tub *with* me in the beginning, until I was able to convince her it would probably have lots of blood and pee in it!! She changed her mind, fancy that.
I'm very loud and my kids really took it in stride. This last birth we just talked a little about what kinds of things happen (including sounds) and made sure they knew mom would be in good hands and everything would be ok. Even when baby got stuck and all sorts of crazy stuff was going on they just took it as it came.
however, ds1 freaked out an hour into labor with ds2 and had to leave, and we had shown him videos, read tons of books, generally made it a huge deal. Personally I think it's a balancing act between wanting them to be prepared, and not wanting them to feel too "responsible" if that makes sense.
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