Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: my blue heaven, VA, USA
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I learned a great lesson about worry a couple of years ago when we went through this crazy week where everything that could go wrong (almost) did. We were kicked out of our rental home for 4 days (long story, but it had to look unlived in) and had to live in a hotel with our dogs, hubby had a gallbladder attack and ended up in the ER, our car was broken into (and our guns were in the trunk because of the house situation - luckily they didn't get stolen!!!) and some other things... so much CRAP all at once, and yet we held it together and made it through somehow.
Made me realize what a waste of time and health worry is. I hadn't been able to anticipate or plan for any of that stuff anyway, and all the crap I DID worry about didn't even happen. What's the point?
Worry can be functional if it helps you anticipate likely scenarios that you can do something about. You develop backup plans, if possible, and then let it go. Don't waste the time you have when NOTHING happens to be wrong with worry about when stuff will go wrong. You'll deal with it then - and trust me - you will deal with it. It will be OK.
Balance out your worry with what exotic things that could go wrong at the hospital BECAUSE of the hospital that you will be safe from at home. There are SO many more variables at the hospital that are beyond your control or anticipation. You are at their mercy, in addition to your own birth. By eliminating that HUGE variable and staying at home, all you have to do is trust in your body to do this. It was made to do this.
I know this is easier said than done, and I'm sure I'll need a pep talk or two getting closer, but hang in there. WE CAN DO THIS.