So, my question to you is this: How did you or how do you explain your decision to your curious family and friends?
If people are fearful, or judgmental, I respond with "for healthy moms and babies it is as safe as the hospital and less stressful for me".
If people don't ask, I don't offer.
wife of 8 years to DH , mama to DD (2006) & DS (2011) (Dec. 2012) due Nov. 2013
Really, though, you don't owe anyone an explanation and there's no need to defend yourself. Talk about it if you want to but don't be afraid to change the subject if you don't feel like educating the world right at that moment. Your body, your birth, your choice. End of discussion.
Loving wife and mama to my sweet little son (Fall 2008) and a beautiful baby girl (Fall 2010)
When a stupid man is doing something he is ashamed of, he always declares that it is his duty. --George Bernard Shaw
Boys: 12/94, 1/99, 11/03, 6/11. Girls: 11/06, 10/09, 12/12
HeatherB ~ mama to 3 wonderful boys: 03/02; 09/04; 09/07 - and Eliana, 11/13/10!
Founder of Houston Birth Alternatives: Be Informed, Encouraged, Supported birth support group and aspiring midwife.
I also make sure the person knows that a mw is trained, experienced and carries basic equipment to monitor heartrate, perform sutures, resuscitate, etc (you'd be amazed at how many people do not realize this! I think they imagine some lady in Birkenstocks just shows up and catches your baby bare-handed or something ).
eta: I didn't have negative comments although I could sense that some people didn't approve of my decision to HB. I've never really allowed people to criticize my decisions (looking at them blank faced and raising one's eyebrows while absentmindedly going "Hmm?" seems to help).
DCP to 1 busy munchkin! and a CRST too!
Hospitals are for emergencies or for sick people. Healthy people don't benefit from being exposed to all of the hospital germs & contaminants; certainly not my newborn!
is an awesome site by a midwife Ronnie Falcao, she has all kinds of info.
You could make a printout and give it to them. If they are concerned enough to read it, fine. If not, they don't need to start another conversation about it. You baby, your body, your choice. That's it. Good for you for choosing wonderful, safe homebirth!
- E . Single mom to DS E (15.12.05), T (reincarnated 18.04.08) and DD A (11.02.11) and Hoppy