She is a woman, who would only be there to observe, and would basically just be sitting there in the background the whole time. She would want to meet me beforehand, so in the next few days.
Would you allow this? We live in a pretty anti-HB area, but there are more and more people doing them, and I think the tone is beginning to change little by little. The hospitals around here, while *good* on paper, are SO c-section friendly, and not conducive to anything close to natural birth. Maybe this could be the beginnings of change? This resident works at the largest one in this area with the biggest c-section rate and known disapproval of anything un-medical.
I am not a super private person so one more person seeing my vag isn't a big deal lol. My house is kind of small, but I don't care about that.
So I met her- she came over for coffee tonight- sooo sweet! We chatted for an hour and a half. Totally wants to learn, kind of shy, and wants nothing more than to observe She asked what she could do if anything, and I said video and take pics! I am kind of excited to have a designated person to do that because somehow everyone else always gets too busy! So I am pretty stoked!
Erika, mama to three beautiful kids (plus one gestating), and wife to one fantastic man.
Go meet her first. If the vibe is good (and it sounds like it would be) then I would totally do it! The more people that can learn about NATURAL birth the better! You might be blessing hundreds of women (his future practice) by doing this.
Meet her first and if you feel that it would not be a distraction or a hindrance then I would go for it. I would make sure to establish some boundaries before hand though
But yeah, I would do it as a teaching experience for sure.
MsBlack, thats hilarious that that doc was so proud of himself for turning off the fan...that made me giggle
you could also suggest that she watch business of being born or orgasmic birth or both before coming- just so that she is familiar with what she is walking in to.
i am a nurse and I think a lot of doctors would have a hard time just sitting by... especially if they think something is going wrong. so I would REALLY want to make sure they are aware and prepared that homebirthing looks NOTHING like a hospital birth.
If we end up delivering at the hospital one of the newer OB's to my group of docs is going to maybe come in on her day off to see a twin vaginal birth with a potential breech vaginal (little boy can't make up his mind).
I think the way to create change is to be open about things and share your experiences. The only way things may change is if they see what REALLY goes on. Many OB's still don't get that midwives carry medical equipment with them so this may be very eye opening for her. Although in the event of a transfer it may also show them how a respectable transfer goes, or in the event of something crazy an extra set of hands around is never a bad thing.
In addition to all the other reasons mentioned, I would think that being observed would cause your MW to give you the best possible care she could wring out of herself. A sort of guarantee.
But I'd still do it!
As long as she were very, very hands-off and respectful, and yes, I would appreciate meeting her beforehand.
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Doctors are a big part of the problem with American birthing culture. Doctors are the people we need to reach most. I'm a very private birther but this would be a worthwhile sacrifice if the person were respectful and willing to learn.
Loving wife and mama to my sweet little son (Fall 2008) and a beautiful baby girl (Fall 2010)
When a stupid man is doing something he is ashamed of, he always declares that it is his duty. --George Bernard Shaw
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More importantly, though, () this has to be one of the most awesome quotes I've read in a long time:
But I'd second encouraging her to watch a movie like the pp mentioned if she's never seen a hb. Just so she's not too shocked!
Banana, doula wife to Papa Banana and mother to Banana One, Banana Two, Banana Three, Banana Four...
My best friend since childhood is a med student in her first year of med school. She's very pro-natural birth yet has never seen one and likely never will (at least in school). If the timing works out and she can come (given that baby is due in the middle of the semester and she's an hour away), I will be inviting her to the birth just so she can witness a truly natural birth. The more med students, residents, and doctors who see what it's REALLY like, the better!
HeatherB ~ mama to 3 wonderful boys: 03/02; 09/04; 09/07 - and Eliana, 11/13/10!
Founder of Houston Birth Alternatives: Be Informed, Encouraged, Supported birth support group and aspiring midwife.
Sooo I had my baby, and she was there! It was GREAT! I had an wonderful, textbook homebirth, and I am so glad she was there to witness it! She videoed, and helped the midwife with a few things (like helping her draw cord blood). Midwife's assistant was sick, so I said I was ok with her helping out a little bit. She was simply AMAZED and had never seen anything close to a natural birth. So, overall, it was GREAT!!!
I liked my back up OB and some of the nurses at my local clinic. If they would have wanted to come to my homebirth they would have been welcome!