Can I complain? I don't know if this is the right place to do it, perhaps the May thread would be better, but bear with me.
One of my friends who is simpatico with me offered to give me a baby shower. She was the first friend I told about baby, and I thought it was great that she 'called dibs'. She knew that I wanted more of a Blessingway, a bit more pagany than floofy baby shower.
I had just gone through a floofy wedding shower last summer, and she knew that it wasn't my cup of tea. I wanted a rite of passage, but not too out there, because I wanted all my friends to feel comfortable.
Well, unfortunately, she doesn't have a good place to have it now, as she is having marital difficulties. So another friend, who LOVES floofy things, offered her house. Little did we know that she would take over.
Cool friend just called to warn me that it's not going to be anywhere near what I wanted, that we JUST got out of having crepe paper streamers, and that she had to knock it into friend#2's head that we were NOT having any insulting or disgusting games (measuring me or tasting baby food/smelling baby food in disposable diapers). I'm a principled person and am against Gerber and Pampers, etc, and friend#1 knew I would NOT like those companies to be supported for my "benefit".
So she stood up for me, but #2 has taken over quite a bit. I should have insisted that it be at my place, I shouldn't have let #2 offer her place. I don't enjoy surprises, which is why I know *anything* about the shower at all, but I have no say.
AND #2 is marrying in July, I'm a b'maid of hers, and she invited HER bridal party to MY shower. I know 1.5 of those women.
Well, think good thoughts about my patience tomorrow. All I wanted was henna on my belly, and perhaps a cool poem to be read. Now I've got this traditional shower
thing that I didn't want, and I doubt I'll be hennaed (didn't get that for my wedding shower either, even though I talked about it for 2 years).