(by the way, at 25 weeks I fired my birth center medwife and hired homebirth LMs, so all the things I talked about on the second interview round are still fresh in my head. also, I'm now used to changing plans late in the game LOL)
"In some cases, though, it's a matter of the law and what is healthy doesn't even come into it."
Exactly. All the midwives that I interviewed were very clear on the 37 to 42 week "standard of care" in WA state. Since I was so sure I was going to go truly late (hubby was a 44 week'er) I mainly made sure I hired people who wouldn't freak out if I went beyond 42 weeks...that's how I went from a birthing center (for the big tub) to home, because in WA, centers are NOT allowed to go beyond 42 weeks (or before 37).
I also mentioned to all the midwives that my ideal for birth would be a cabin in the woods with wolves howling in the background (and that it is ONLY some remnants of fear keeping me from that), and those who didn't look like the "dropjaw" emoticon were considered.
So I don't think the midwives I hired would be surprised if I went it alone, if they were legally NOT allowed to be here, but I personally want to feel OK that baby would likely be healthy.
If I didn't feel that way, it's not the absolute end of the world, as I did interview the midwife group that practices out of a really nice hospital 'round here, and could call the midwife I consulted with there to smooth the way.
But since I cried for 2 days even thinking about planning a hospital birth, I am not sure it's the way to go unless I'm convinced baby would have troubles due to being "premature", if what was going on last night continues AND develops contractions (there were contractions early in the day, then they stopped and the cervix stuff started in earnest, but they didn't happen together).
Found this on the site blueviolet mentioned:
"I think it's very important to appreciate that some human genes consider 37 or 38 weeks to be full term. In particular, I notice that my Asian clients often have babies come 2 or 3 weeks early, weighing 8-10 pounds. So if an Asian client carrying a good sized baby went into labor at 36 weeks, I wouldn't be all that concerned."
I'm not Asian, but hubby is, and baby is part Asian, so I wonder if this could apply to the baby. Hmm....
That's on the "Homebirth at 36 Weeks" link, but it's really 35 weeks and 5 days, which is a week before me.