Hi everyone, just wondering if I could get some input.
We have our 2nd HB coming in August and have always wanted DD who will be almost 4 there (she wants to be as well). At my most recent appt with my midwife, she recommended having someone else who was specifically there for DD's needs, in case she gets scared, etc. Her opinion was that many times it can be more difficult for mom to focus on her body in part because she is still in "mommy-mode". So she thinks maybe having DD come only for the actual birth would be better. The thing is, my first birth was fairly quick and I really don't want her to miss it. Also, the person who would most likely be there for DD is my MIL whom I adore but I really don't want at our baby's actual birth and I'm not entirely sure that at the moment of, she would respect that. I wasn't very worried about having DD there in the first place but what are your experiences with having children there during your labor/birth?
Also, we have been watching a few births on youtube here and there to get her somewhat familiar with what's going to happen.
Thanks!
We have our 2nd HB coming in August and have always wanted DD who will be almost 4 there (she wants to be as well). At my most recent appt with my midwife, she recommended having someone else who was specifically there for DD's needs, in case she gets scared, etc. Her opinion was that many times it can be more difficult for mom to focus on her body in part because she is still in "mommy-mode". So she thinks maybe having DD come only for the actual birth would be better. The thing is, my first birth was fairly quick and I really don't want her to miss it. Also, the person who would most likely be there for DD is my MIL whom I adore but I really don't want at our baby's actual birth and I'm not entirely sure that at the moment of, she would respect that. I wasn't very worried about having DD there in the first place but what are your experiences with having children there during your labor/birth?
Also, we have been watching a few births on youtube here and there to get her somewhat familiar with what's going to happen.
Thanks!