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going "past due"?

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Anyone have any experience with going past 41-42 weeks or have any insight for me?  I am almost at 41.5wks now.  (third baby, second homebirth)
My midwife is not concerned and is happy to wait things out if I want to.  I do think that my dates could have been a bit off so I've not been too concerned up until now.  However, I am borderline for gestational diabetes every time and the big baby fear always weighs on my mind at the end... it's also the hardest to not cheat on my diet when the end is in sight and I admit I have not been as dilligent with it as I should lately. :/  (Previous babies were 8lb11oz and 9lbs.)  
I have been trying the less invasive induction things this weekend... had a chiro adjustment Sunday, s.e.x., some nip stimulation, pressure points, taking daily walks and so on.  Plus the EPO and RRL tea I've been doing for awhile now.
I did think I will have her do a membrane sweep if baby doesn't come on her own by my next appt.  I didn't want to do castor oil or the cohoshes or anything controversial like that unless it was between that and a medical induction.
I did loose a couple chunks of mucus today so hopefully something is going to kick in soon on it's own.  Tonight would be great! lol

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My most recent child was home born at 41w4d. I feel you. 

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My first was 41 wks 4 days and weighed 8lbs 6 oz- birth center and ended up transferring to hospital due to sciatica, my second was 41 wks 6 days 8lbs 15 oz - unassisted homebirth, so I understand your predicament. Membrane sweep was helpful both times, but I HIGHLY recommend doing the Miles Circuit after that to really get things going! When it comes to "natural inductions" I have tried it all.... Nothing but the sweeping and the circuit helped me.
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My first was born at home at 41+4.


I have no advice really except that the baby WILL come out in the next few days (know anyone who is 45 weeks pregnant?) and as regards the size...how did your last 2 deliveries go?  Because to me neither baby was huge and you had the second, the larger, at home, so i assume it fitted through just fine?  I think you should take care of your diet because it is taking care of YOURSELF, but not because the baby will be "too big" - at this stage you'd need to be pregnant another 10 days or so for it to make any significant difference to the size/weight of the baby.


Don't worry, you'll be holding your LO very soon.

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Never heard of the miles circut (though I was doing some of those stretches anyway)... Thanks! I will try some of those out tonight along with my pressure points.


I do think I was "sweeped" without my consent the first time and my water broke the next day.  So I'm pretty confident it will work for me at almost 42 wks.  


I think most of the other stuff is terribly unreliable, but when you are 41+ everything suddenly sounds like it's worth a shot.  

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Thanks for the encouragement.  Though to be honest I don't know many people who weren't induced for some reason or another by 41 weeks.  Not a very a naturally minded culture here. Thus the reason I came on here. :)


The second delivery was shorter than the first.  Wouldn't say it was far easier but it followed the same general pattern only the stages were shorter and I tore less (but still needed stitches again).  The midwife did say that girls tend to weigh less and that is what the u/s said this time.  (Other two are boys.)  Good to know I'm not screwing up too much by my "cheats" lately.  It is flippin hot and I have been craving ice cream non stop.  I only had a little bit once this week though.  Been eating more fruit too, though healthy is obviously on the sugary side.

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I've had two 44 weekers based on lmp but my cycles are long so... the 2nd one looked about 39 weeks gestationally.


My baby I just had last week was 41 weeks based on early us. She was a pit induction after failing her bpp/nst. 

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My 4th baby arrived around 41.5 weeks, my longest pregnancy by over a week.  But when he was ready he came flying out, with labor less than 30 minutes.  He was also only 9 lb 8 oz, my next-to-smallest baby. 


Hope your little one decides to make an appearance soon!

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Originally Posted by mama k nj View Post

I think most of the other stuff is terribly unreliable, but when you are 41+ everything suddenly sounds like it's worth a shot.  


Yep. I did castor oil with DS and it did nothing. Some people have a very unpleasant time with that, thankfully I did not... But with DD when someone asked me at 41+ weeks if I would try it again that time, I laughed at them. Some people swear by it but it is totally illogical to me. lol my body is not going to be tricked into going into labor because (excuse my grossness) poop pushing out muscles are nearby to baby pushing out muscles.... It was as if my abdomen looked up at me and was like "Really. You think I'm fooled by that? Pffft"


I hope things get moving for you soon! Err... Baby things that is. lol
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I went 16 days over my EDD, dates were off and also went and had my EDD revised back to the one given on my original ultrasound. That said if I hadnt had the baby when I did I was off to see another doctor to see if I could get an extension. My midwife was supportive and encouraging in waiting until the baby was ready. Your baby will come soon - you wont give brith to a teenager even if that is how you feel now. My baby was a beautiful healthy weight and I think the extra time inside gave her a great start which is still apparent to me 2 years on.

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My ds was 43 weeks 5 days.  Babies come when ready  ;)  Turn off the phone and relax.

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Mine went 42 full weeks, and then I was induced. I was already about 4 cm dilated and 50% effaced; I just hadn't entered actual labor yet. My Bishop score was good, so the pitocin worked quickly, and everything else went as I'd hoped (no pain meds, delayed cord clamping, immediate skin-to-skin, kept the placenta, etc.).


When TTC, I was taking my temp, using ovulation detector tests, everything, so I'm very confident about my dates. When my son was born, he was 9 lbs 4 oz and perfect. The placenta also looked great, and had not started to deteriorate; my midwife said it didn't look like an "overdue" placenta at all. The encapsulator also said this.


This was my first baby, so possibly my body just needed an extra nudge? Not that a body "doesn't know what to do," but maybe it was just slower to react, since this was a new experience for it? Hopefully yours will kick into gear soon!


Not sure how helpful this is. I tried not to babble too much :) Hope your waiting is over very soon!

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My first was a planned birthcenter/unplanned c-section at 41 weeks and 3 days weighing 8lbs, 7oz. My second was a homebirth at 40 weeks and 3 days, weighing 9lbs, 8oz. I didn't do any kind of natural induction, except walking and sex for the 1st because my midwifes assured me it was completely normal and weren't worried. The 2nd time around I was very done being pregnant and tried accupuncture at exactly 40 weeks. Two sessions later I was in labor, it worked well for me. However after the fact I was really sad I rushed the process. I kept thinking that was probably the last time I would ever be pregnant and I forgot to take the time to enjoy it. greensad.gif
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I went 42 weeks, 6 days, and we were very certain of date of conception. I thought I was going to lose my damn mind. :(  I tried evening primrose oil and daily sex the last few weeks, but I'm pretty sure none of that really did much.

But, 1 day before our scheduled induction (midwife wasn't comfortable going past 43 weeks and I was desperate), he finally decided it was time. Even going that far over, he was just 7.5 pounds and had no signs of being overdue... some babies just take longer to cook than others, and I'm so happy I respected that. I think about if I'd gone the traditional hospital route and been talked into an pre-40 week induction like so many people are; my kid would have been born an entire month before he was ready. O.O

It's incredibly hard to wait, especially with everyone asking you about it CONSTANTLY. Just try to focus on the fact that once your baby's finally here, all of this will just be a hazy memory... and a good story to tease him or her with. :)

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W/ my 1st and only I was 42.5 weeks when she finally decided to show.  My m/w stripped my membranes at 40 weeks...and nothing.  My DD was determined to arrive perfectly on her own timing...arrived on Christmas morning :):)  My m/w was not supportive in going over the 40 weeks so once I hit 41 weeks she started pushing for an u/s every few days (nervous b/c of all the medical backlash here for m/ws).  I resisted.  DD ended up being 7lbs, 8oz so the guesstimates by the u/s and doctors were WRONG...either that or I just have small-ish babies.


Also...even after I had been in labor for about 10 hours my water still hadn't broken and I still wasn't 9 cm dilated.  It just goes to show that the medical profession has the whole labor thing wrong.


I want to encourage you (if you haven't gone into labor by the time I have written this) that your daughter will arrive soon...did you read the mothering article about the in between time?  Follow your instincts!  You know best, momma!

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My 3rd was 44 weeks by my LMP- which was Jan 1st and she was born Nov 3rd.  I was worried and having a homebirth b/c I knew ovulation had been MUCH later, and my midwife was very very encouraging to wait.  I'm glad I did as I had a lovely 8lb 8oz, 21 3/4 inch long baby girl who was absolutely perfect.  The drama over going late was so hard that when I had my 4th child, I lied to everyone by a full month as to my due date.  She was 42 weeks and 7lbs.  My pregnancies go later- 4 pregnancies, and the earliest was my first who was induced at 41 weeks (42 by LMP) but when I look back, he was probably not ready, and the 3 day labor and OP delivery seemed confirmation that it was not the best choice for us both.  My 41 wk 3 day baby girl was only 7lbs 9oz, then my 8lb 8oz girl, and my 7lb peanut.  None of my babies had signs of being overdue, and my weight gain by the end slowed down so that the baby was getting bigger by all measurements but I was not gaining weight.  


It's terribly hard to wait.  Especially when so many mommas are delivering 9lb or even 10lb 38 week babies all over and you're just huge and done.  But my labors when started naturally were 1000x easier than my induction.  I will continually give myself a due month, and tell everyone the last possible dates as due dates so that I don't get the negative pressure.


All of my babies are born holding up their heads, last one could roll over from birth, and the entire transition from birth to newborn was so much more graceful for those I waited upon.  I believe in a healthy pregnancy, the babies will arrive when they're ready.  Especially if its not a first time birth- which is just a challenge for both mother and child that is specially unique!  


Blessings- I don't think it's fair that trimesters are not evenly divided, and that some of us have a full month longer in the last trimester than the first!!!

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My homebirth (baby no. 2) was exactly 42 weeks. That's just when she decided to come. I knew that my mother had me at 42 weeks (sadly, a c-section with no labor - the doc told my mother he could induce her but "nothing would happen" - wth?) and found out later that my grandmother had both her daughters at around 42 weeks as well. So, it's normal for my family. Like your midwife, mine wasn't sweating it. We did try several natural methods: I took long walks everyday, made love with my husband more frequently, ate pineapple and spicy foods, sniffed clary sage oil. Nothing worked. She just came when she wanted to. She was quite large - 8 lbs 14 oz, and her head was very round - it was intense for sure! A longer gestation is just natural for some. Ask your mother and grandmother about their gestational lengths if you're able. I'm sure he / she will come. Best of luck to you, and may you have a wonderful, magical birth!

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Originally Posted by Cassiani View Post

 The drama over going late was so hard that when I had my 4th child, I lied to everyone by a full month as to my due date.  

DH and I decided to do this with our next one too! Haha... We are adjusting the due date we tell people to reflect 42 weeks, sine the first two were 41wks 4 days and 41wks 6 days. It will be really nice not to have the several times per day "is the baby coming yet?" questions in the last couple weeks.
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Originally Posted by ashleybess View Post

 Ask your mother and grandmother about their gestational lengths if you're able. I'm sure he / she will come. Best of luck to you, and may you have a wonderful, magical birth!

I was born exactly on my due date and my brother was over 42 weeks.  However he was 10lb 2oz and a pretty fast/traumatic birth.  She had planned a HB with him but the midwives didn't make it in time and my Dad caught him.


My previous babies were 40wk2d and 40wk3d so I am surprised this is taking so long this time.  I did look at my numbers again and the absolute latest I could be 40wks would have been 7/12.  So that made me feel a little bit better.  I do wish I had given people a later due date so they wouldn't bug me so much.  Still I'm 6 days past that date now too.  

I did have her check and strip the membranes today.  She said it was mostly already separated anyway and I'm at 2cm . So hopefully that will give me a boost.  Will try the Miles circut and some more walking once it cools down a bit.  (So flippin hot today!)

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My son was born at 42+1.  I was SURE of my dates due to charting and a clear temp rise that cycle.  

I had anticipated an unassisted home birth but transfered to the hospital as I needed a cath and it ended with a c-section because of exaustion.  45 hour labor and no support from hospital staff what-so-ever.  


My son ended up being 7lbs 12oz. No big baby for going "over-due" here!  You'll be fine!  Your body knows how to do this!

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Read this article this morning and found it reassuring so I figured I'd add it here.  :)


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My son was born on January 23rd and his due date was January 7th.


I live in Central PA where I had a choice of two practices for prenatal "care" and one hospital within the 1 hr radius for delivery.  I switched practices at 20 weeks because it was so closed-minded and completely against allowing me a choice for anything (there was controversy over my thyroid and whether or not I should take medication). 

The docs let me go to 42 weeks and didn't say anything.  I was having the nst and ultrasound twice a week during the last two weeks with NO indication of upcoming labor.  On the day before the day that marked my 42nd week, they made me go in and get induced.  I say they "made me" because they gave me this line about how they are bound by their liscence to delivery by 42 weeks or something. 


I had -- no joke -- a 2-year-old's tantrum in the office because my husband was all for it and I wanted no part of it.  I had been practicing hypnobirthing for the last 7 months in preparation for a natural birth and I knew how these things ended (c-section).  I knew that if he wasn't here yet it was because he and my body weren't ready yet.  Who are we to dictate that, right?!  Well, my husband and parents and the doctors all saw my desires as simply that -- my desires.  They weren't rational and they weren't well-thought-out.  Quite the contrary.


Well, I forfeited that fight.  I cried for hours afterword and all through the night before we went to the hospital the next day.  You better believe I kept my husband up with me!   I could describe the gory details of what happened next, but it's not necessary for me to scare anyone.  I can summarize by saying that I was induced for 3 days -- with no food -- and Max was born by c-section on the 3rd day.  I was in the hospital a total of 7 days from admission to release.


I had tried accupressure out the wazooo -- essential oils until I stunk up the whole house -- bounced on an exercise ball for hours a day -- walked regularly -- washed the floors -- and had sex (only once after begging -- my DH hadn't touched me since i got a real round belly at about 5 months).  None of that did anything at all for me.  I didn't try castor oil or some other things because I felt that they'd be as invasive as pitocin -- natural or not.  Induction is induction.


My mom had advised me to just request the section from the start -- she had gone through an almost identical birth with me and felt it wasn't worth the physical and emotional toll that induction would take.  I can now attest that it was not worth it.  With the benefit of hindsight, I could say that I would have fought everyone around me and just went to the ER to have the baby when I did go into natural labor.  Screw the docs -- they'd have to deliver the baby.  To the best of my knowledge, they couldn't turn me away, right?  If for some reason that scenario wasn't possible, I'd just have the section from the get-go.


That being said, we do plan to have more kids and if I can go into labor myself by the 42nd week, I would still like to try to have a VBAC.  Yes, my son has a beautifully round head and my girl parts are not stretched from here to kingdom come -- But I wasn't able to breastfeed because of all that pitocin ... recovery wasn't as easy as it could have been ... and I never got to hold my son when he was born.  In fact, I didn't see him for nearly 1 hr!  And, even then, I wasn't allowed to be with him alone for 24 hrs because of the anesthesia I had (the surgery was painful despite the epidural -- so they gave me something general i think).  The not getting to see him part stick breaks my heart ...


Unfortunately, since I live in the middle of no where (about 10 miles from Penn State campus), they won't even do VBACs here.  I'll need  to drive 1 hr (about 80 miles) to get to a hospital that will.  :/



My advice:  WAIT IT OUT.  Your LO will come when you are both ready!

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I was 2 weeks past my due date and this was my 5th baby. I was already 41 years old and I started to have serious psychological panic issues. 

I requested a c/sec. I am glad I had that choice available.

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I had a pit induction at 42 weeks with DD1.  She was born a healthy 7lbs 7oz.  My cervix wasn't dilated, effaced, or even a little soft when they began the induction.  We did a foley catheter induction first, which dilated me to 3cm, possibly 4.  That took a good 4 hours. Then it was full on pitocin torture (contractions didn't hurt, but holy heck the back labor from my posterior babe was intense!!) and I had her 10 hours after they started the pit.  I'm glad I waited until 42 for the pitocin induction.  I think had I gotten it sooner, my body wouldn't have been ready at all and I'd have had a c/s for FTP or something or other.



With this pregnancy, I'm due September 15th.  When people ask me my due date, I just tell them "End of September, early October".  Customers at work are baffled.   "But when are they taking the baby out??".  

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You need to listen to your body and baby here. I found meditation and asking the question to myself really helped me through my pregnancy and birth. Really, we all know what's going on with ourselves and what we should do, but we try and look outside of ourselves instead of trusting what we know. 


This might sound airy-fairy but I really found the power of my own intuition and connection with my body and baby during pregnancy and it never led me astray. 


If you feel that you do not need to be induced, and you trust that your baby will come when ready, then go with that. 


If you feel something is wrong, get checked out, continue to check in with yourself and see what you really feel you need to do. 


Take care :)

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thanks for the link.  my "due date" was 4 weeks ago going off my last period.  i know the baby will come when it comes but in the meanwhile the comments suck and all the women in my June board have babies that are 2-6 weeks so i really feel left out

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Originally Posted by Sharlla View Post

thanks for the link.  my "due date" was 4 weeks ago going off my last period.  i know the baby will come when it comes but in the meanwhile the comments suck and all the women in my June board have babies that are 2-6 weeks so i really feel left out

I know what you mean.  The comments are hard as everyone seems very anxious about me having this baby.  Plus everyone on my due date club seems to be "beating" me to the finish line.  Also, I am a little puzzled as to why my pregnancy is longer this time than previously.  Trying to remain positive and hopeful but it's getting harder each day.  


PS I have a Wes too. :)

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Originally Posted by fruitfulmomma View Post



That's great!!!


DS was born at 41weeks, 6 days, after I was induced with a foley catheter because my OB was 'going on vacation the next week'... lesson learned, this time around the baby will come when he/she is good and ready, not to align with someone else's planned vacation!!!


Good luck to you!

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I'm 41+5 today, and am very anxious. My daughter was born at 40+4, so I thought this one would be right around that same time. I am a complete hermit right now. No one wants to talk to me unless it's about the baby.

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