I am having my third baby and am planning my second home birth. The first one went very smoothly, and I could have truthfully done it without a midwife. The only tough part was the placenta, which took a whole hour to come out. I am feeling just so excited to do this one quietly without much assistance. I have a wonderful midwife, and she is happy to be hands off...I am thinking about when to call her. I could call her right away and have her there for most of it, or I could wait and call her so that she comes at the very end or even right after the baby is born to help with post birth and newborn stuff.
I am 5 minutes from a hospital.
When did you or will you call your midwife and why?
Joyful mama of 3.
My first was precipitous birth, so I called as soon as I was in active labor with the second. My second took longer, and I regretted calling so early because they stressed me out. Not sure what I'll do about number three.
Partner to R ('03); Parent to T ('07), A ('10), and E ('13)
Fledgling midwife on hiatus, Wife to B, mama to C (c/s 12/04) and S (12/07), m/c (3/12) and expecting another bean 6/13 .
I made an active labor to-do list of what I *wanted* to do when active labor hit, including when and whom to call: http://thelaotiancommotion.com/2013/02/04/home-birth-active-labor-to-do-list/
Laotian girl, who went from heavy partying to peaceful parenting, to 'Humnoy' (3/13/2011) and 'Lanoi' (2/05/2013)
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My second home birth, with a hands off midwife, I called her when I knew that this was it because of commute traffic I needed to give her time to get there. She actually came, set up her stuff, checked me, and then she and her assistant left and went to eat dinner and leave me in peace to labor. My dh called her just as they were finishing up dinner to say come, they got there for transition. It was perfect, I had the space i needed, but also didn't have them rushing around because they were arriving so close to the end.
mama to DS born 9/7/05, DD born 8/20/07, DS born 9/4/10 and DS born 11/26/13
Loving our chaotic, crunchy, homeschooling life!
I called my midwife as soon as I was sure that I was in labor and it was progressing. I think they started to arrive around 3:00 and baby was born at 5:30. I plan on doing the same with this birth.
Loving wife and mother to three little chickadees and one sweet surprise on the way!
I too am calling as soon as I know. She lives a fair distance away and she's predicting an even faster birth (barring any bad positioning or whatever of course). She's pretty hands off and I like her so very much, I wouldn't mind if she was there for the whole thing.
WOHM to Leo (4/08) and enjoying the journey with DH
Announcing the arrival of Clara in August 2013!
Since my first birth was just shy of 4.5 hours long, I plan to call them as soon as I'm sure it's real labour.
#1 Baby Boy born Jan 1 2009 at 35 weeks 2 days PPROM
#2 Baby Boy born April 22 2013 at 34 weeks 6 days PPROM
3rd, 4th, or 5th mama who called at the onset of labor (unless it was the middle of the nigh). I figure most MWs would appreciate a heads up so they can arrange for being at a birth. My last labor started at about 6pm so I called to give a heads up for the following AM. Turns out, I was calling back just a few hours later for active labor. Whoohoo!
SAHM to 6
I'm planning on having a "hands off" midwife as well. I would call her to let her know labor is starting, but I would want her to wait hours before coming unless I needed support. Ideally she'd get there an hour before the baby is born, but I'm realizing that may be really hard for me to pull off. I'm hoping to know when things pick up enough to have her head my way, but that might not be realistic since this is my first time.