Ladies, I am so glad that this thread is going strong! I have busy getting ready for my dd's birthdays on Wednesday.
Gogi, I was just thinking about how you will be at 37 weeks tomorrow! Our kids will be almost exactly five years apart! I am so proud of you! You have done such a great job taking care of yourself and preparing for these two new babes! Your son is lucky to have a Mom who has taken a lot of steps to prepare and include him.
Now you can relax and know that we will be thinking of you every day and sending you positive thoughts and wishes!!!
artofbirthing, welcome! I hope you are pregnant with twins because it is such a blessing! My midwife first noticed that I was bigger than normal at about 16 weeks. She told me "you are either off on your dates or you are having twins". At the time we were considering moving to a place that would have not been easy for family to get to so we went ahead with an ultrasound. It took me awhile to find a tech that would only take a "peek" to see if there were two and not do all the diagnostic stuff. I did find one though and she was great. I understand if you don't want one at all though. I really would have been fine without one, yet the wondering would have drove me crazy. I felt a lot more hungry with my twin pregnancy and also I felt more pressure earlier on.
Theo's Mom-If you decide to go with the dr that your speaking of you still have the right to refuse an epidural. Have you considered going out of area to find someone who will take a more trusting approach? (I'm not sure what is around your area).
I don't know that there is any easy way to prepare the older sibling for the arrival of new twin babies. It sounds like you guys have the right ideas about including them in the births as much as possible. Someone bought my ds some twin dolls when I was in the last trimester. The thing that I found difficult were when the babies were nursing and almost asleep and he would want to talk to me and wake them up. Yet it was great because I was in one spot and he still had access to me. Most of the time they were small he did great. The most difficult time was when they started crawling and getting in to his things.
Twins get a lot of attention and I would try to include him when people would notice the girls. If they would say "Oh, you have twins, what are their names"? I would tell them their names and then say "And this is their big brother" or something to make sure he was noticed as well.
One time when we were out shopping (the girls were about two years old) and some salespeople were paying a lot of attention to the girls, my son pulled on my sleeve and said "Mommy, I don't think that they know I am real". I have had to take some time to explain to him that people are really fascinated with twins and that doesn't mean that he is not important. Now that they are older I feel that his life is definitely better because his sisters. I understand your sadness about your relationship with your first child changing!
Tammy-They are not so much partners in crime any more! They are partners in secret plays, doing artwork side by side, playing dress up together, and putting stuff in each others hair.
They do still keep me busy yet in a different way. When people see me with my kids and say "Boy, you have your hands full". I smile and say "yes, and so is my heart"!! ~Jill
edited for typo (sorry so long)!!!