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Congratulations Luna13Mama!

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Congratulations Luna13Mama!!!

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congrats to all the new mommies and babies! woohoo!!!!!!!!

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: Congratulations luna13mama and Chandar on your births! We have so many happy mommies and happy babies!
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Congrats Luna13!!!! Sounds like a beautiful big boy you've got there!
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Here is my story. Sorry it is so long...

On Saturday around 4 in the afternoon I started noticing that I was contracting on a fairly regular basis. I timed for about an hour to see if I was right, and they were about 4-6 minutes apart. Cyana and Luis got home from shopping, and I told him about the contractions, but didn’t want to get too excited. I had read too many birth stories of regular contractions just fading after a few hours. So I went to Monique’s to drop off sling fabric, and chatted with her and Benji for a while. Still contracting, a little more frequently. I decided I better hit the road, before I was unable to drive. Got home, ate dinner. I kept telling myself and Luis I didn’t want to set up the pool, only to have things fade, and be disappointed. He said that it seemed likely to be it, and that we should go ahead and do it. Around 8 we set up the pool with one hose of hot from the washer, and another of cold from outside. We also put water on to boil to fill the pool as it cooled, or the water heater ran out. I got in the pool for a while with Cyana, then decided if I wanted things to move along I better get out, and move around. I paced the house for a little while, and Luis hooked up the dvd player in the bedroom in case Cyana decided she didn’t want to hang out with us. I tried to walk around my yard, but I felt super exposed. Cyana watched a dvd while I labored in and out of the pool. Contractions were very manageable. Her dvd ended, and she came out into the living room. It was getting a little more painful, and I felt the need to be alone, and wanted to try and sleep (yeah right), so I went into the bedroom for about an hour or so. I began to need to vocalize through the contractions, and repeated to myself as a mantra You have all the knowledge, You have all the power in my head between contractions. I went back out to get into the pool, and Cyana had fallen asleep in her room. Luis put her to bed, and we put on Life Is Beautiful to watch. I had planned on music, but really didn’t want any at the time. The movie was perfect, since I could labor with my back to the t.v., and easily tune it out since it wasn’t in english. Things sterted to really pick up then. I kept telling myself I couldn’t be in transition yet, because I was still too rational, and that I better prepare myself for worse. And it got way worse. I started howling and shaking during the contractions. I tried to keep my voice deep, and my mouth and face loose, and for some I could, but others I just screamed, and howled like a wild woman. I told myself I was in transition, but my logical self, and my instinctual self were not communicating effectively by then. I kept thinking I was done, and how good a shot of something to take the pain away would feel. Then I would be clear again, and would tell myself that the giving up, and desperation are all signs of transition. I was in the pool, leaning with my arms over the side, and resting my head on the side between contractions. At first Luis left me alone, which is exactly what I needed. It was good not to have any distractions. As it got more intense, he leaned over and offered me his hand. I remembered squeezing his hand when laboring with Cyana. He also did a little efflurage between contractions, which I surprisingly didn’t mind. During the really intense ones, I started yelling NO! I was getting mad at my body for hurting so much, and was telling it no more. Luis reminded me to work with the pain, and not fight it. As I was screaming no he said open, make them work for you. So I found myself howling Nooopen through a lot of them. It actually helped a lot to have him there to center me, and encourage me. After every one he would tell me I was doing a great job. I didn’t think I would want to be talked to, as with Cyana anything anyone said was irritating, and to me patronizing. This time I think it helped so much because I knew he was telling me the truth. With Cyana I think it was more he said what he thought he should, but was himself, unsure if it was true. This time we had actual knowledge of, and faith in the process, which I think gave me the ability to believe what he was saying, and trust his advice.
I thought being in the water would really take the edge off. I don’t know maybe it did. But I was frustrated that during the worst contractions, when I was really thrashing my arms and head, the water moving against me hurt too. I kept wanting to ask Luis to rub my shoulders to relieve the tension, or counter pressure on my back, but I never found the words. I also tried to stand up at one point, but moving was not going to happen. I guess it must have been about an hour or so of super intense, out of my mind ,howling so loud I’m surprised the cops weren’t called laboring. I sat back on my knees and heels through one of them, and threw my head back, and just let go. I don’t think I have ever felt so primal, and not in control. I was leaning over the side of the pool, feeling like I was going to explode, when I felt a pop, like a balloon. I said the water just broke. Then it was 2 contractions later that I felt the burning, and pressure. I screamed at Luis it’s coming. He jumped in the pool ( fully clothed). He said he could feel the head. Then I just started pushing. I had no choice, my body needed to get rid of that pressure, and fire! Luis said the head was out, and I rested for a maybe 30 seconds, then remembered her head was out, under water, and I needed to get the rest out. I pushed to more times, roaring as I did, and felt the amazing relief of her body spinning and slipping out. Luis said she shot out like a cannonball into his hands. He lifted her out, and I heard her scream. He said it’s a girl. I was shaking and leaning on the side of the pool, and kept asking is she breathing, and telling him to rub her spine. He said she was, and that she was pink too. Then he had to pass her to me from behind between my legs. That was tricky, a we found she had a fairly short cord.
I got out of the pool, and sat to nurse her and check her out. I had Luis give me some shepard’s purse under my tongue. I wasn’t really bleeding too bad, but I was afraid of it I guess. She didn’t want to nurse immediately, so we just hung out. I kept offering her the breast, and she took it about 15 minutes later. It was awkward though, as her cord was so short. We planned on waiting to cut the cord, but when 2 hours had passed, and the placenta still had not made her appearance, and nursing and holding a slippery newborn with a short cord got too much, we cut it. It was white and limp, and cold. I started stressing about how long the placenta was taking. I did some uterine massage, and found my uterus was already turning into a ball like it was supposed to. I kept checking for excessive bleeding, there was none, but it was hard to tell what was new, or was just dripping from the sac that had fluid in it still that was hanging out with the cord. I tried squatting, light pushing, but still no placenta. I had a few contractions, but no placenta. Around 3 I got up to rinse off the old blood to help determine if there was a lot of new blood. When I was in the shower I tried squatting again, I also tried gently pulling to see if I felt anything. I didn’t, but I was NOT going to pull for real, in case the placenta was still attached. I had Luis bring me scissors, and cut what I could from hanging too low. The sac kept filling with shower water, and blood, it was irritating. It looked like a little water balloon hanging between my legs. Luis found it slightly amusing to watch me waddle through the house with a plastic bowl between my legs to keep from dripping all over. Cyana finally woke up around 4. She said she heard the bay crying, and it woke her up. HUH?! Mama screaming at the top of her lungs for an hour straight did nothing to ya though. Luis had even gone in after we cut the cord to wake her, and she just rolled over. I was clearly stressing about the placenta, and Luis told me to just go lie down, and try to rest, and wait. I did. I had just started to fall asleep when I had to pee. I got up, had a contraction with a pushy feeling, and plop went the placenta into the toilet. The placenta was born at 6:10 am a full 5 hours after her baby. I felt so much better.
We asked Cyana what the baby’s name should be, and after ruling out Miss Jimi Hendrix we agreed on Lilah Ruth. She nurses when she is not sleeping, much to the discomfort of my sore nipples. I never thought I could get sore nipples after nursing for 3 ½ years. I guess that 6 month break made a huge difference in nipple sensitivity. We will work it out though.
When I think about Liliah’s birth, and what it was, I realize that it is just normal. Sure amazing in the sense that every pregnancy and birth are amazing, but also normal. I don’t feel empowered, like I am a super woman. I feel more humbled like every mother does this (or used to). I feel like any other way we could have brought her into this world would have been wrong. That’s what I want people to understand. That we are normal. It hurt like hell, and I don’t ever want to do it again. I am tired and sore, like any other woman who has given birth. I am elated, and in love, just like any other woman who has just given birth. That’s what I am. Another woman who has given birth. I am grateful for the ability to see past society’s fears about birth, and for the friend who first alighted me onto the path of unattended birth. I am grateful for the strength that all birthing women possess. I hope that more women find it, and draw upon it.
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Announcing the birth of Elyssa Marigold on Friday, July 23, 2004 at 11:20am
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My baby BOY was born Saturday at 9:30 am!! 9 1/2 lbs if the scale is correct!!!

Juliette! Oh, I am sooooooooooooooooooo excited for you! How was SO? A boy! at 43+ weeks! I'm so proud of you! Enjoy your baby moon...wish I was there so we could rock and nurse together.
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Congratulations to luna13mama and Chandar!! and welcome to the world your babies!
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A boy! They seem to be few and far between on this thread. Good for you!

Evergreen- Loving my girls Dylan dust.gifage8, Ava energy.gifage 4 and baby Georgia baby.gif (6/3/11).

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congratulations and kudos mamas!! you guys are awesome!!

Chandar--I love the last paragraph of your story! It revealed something to me that I didn't realize I knew!!

enjoy your baby moons and nursing those sweet newborns!!
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Chandar, congratulations, and thank you for such a detailed description of transition! DH and I were just rehashing our son's birth, and all the things that went wrong, could have gone better, and what we wished we had known...and transition was a huge one on the list of things we wished we'd known about.

In my experience, no one talks about it. We took Bradley birth classes, that's a zillion weeks of talking about birth (and we were the only students, so could discuss anything we wanted at length!!) and the only thing we knew about transition was that the contractions happen one after another, and that at some point I'd say I couldn't do it anymore. That's IT.

Now I realize none of my friends have experienced transition because they're all getting epidurals at 3-5 cm, and they aren't feeling what's going on. So they don't have the reaction, you know?

Anyway, your transition was much like mine, well, except you had the urge to push at the end and didn't have stupid midwives asking if you'd been molested b/c I had pain with practice pushes! Um yeah, that was helpful.

Other than that, I recognize a lot of what you wrote. As DH and I were saying, now we know what it's like, and he'll be able to handle watching me in transition should there be a next time. I'm thinking that he and I should go on tour, talking about transition and what it can really be like to first-time birthers (and their partners), to lessen the fear they might experience.

Anyway, thank you. And congrats again.
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I am new to the UC board, my name is Jennie and I am a sahm to 4 kids, Ethan (hospital), Jared (bonus son), Xander (hospital), Rory (UP/UC) and #5 due in March.
Hi Jennie! Welcome to this UC list! Its a fun list. Glad to see you here. (I know Jennie! Actually met her IRL!!). I have been away from the computer for a few days...time to catch up on the other posts.
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Welcome rainbowmoon

good luck with things juju You will be just fine! You can do it! Just read these wonderful birth stories... its amazing what the body can do and is designed to do.

Congratulations Chandar !! Welcome Lilah Ruth! Great birth story!

DancerMom I am sorry about the yoga class...but I am glad you are at a place within yourself that you are sure of and
feel confident about...love that quote from blueviolet-Linda.

Congratualtions luna13mama !! What is your son's name?

Well I think I am caught up now on all of the posts. I've been away from the puter for a few days... my mother came to visit for 6 days... oy vey, and we went on a mini vacation overnight to the beach. Then yesterday was my daughter's 3rd birthday. I have been so stressed out about life things (totally not pregnancy or birth related), my mom being here, other family issues etc. A friend passed away on Sunday from breast cancer...its been a tough week. My braxton hicks contractions picked up yesterday and the day before due to all of this stress. I went from having 1-2 a day to nearly 8 in one day. I know those contractions are good and 8 isn't a big deal but to go from nearly none to a whole bunch, especially ones that are intense to say the least, made me a little worried lastnight. My body was telling me to CUT IT OUT! So I did...I did absolutely nothing today... just fed myself and my daughter and made my DH talke me out to dinner.

Hope you all are doing well.
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Hi Jen! I need to catch up too but feeling too darn sick. In fact I think I am on my way back to bed *ugh*
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aaaaaaaaaaaahhh. I'm hoping I can get some of my frustrations out and get some advice from all you moms.

I chose my midwife b/c she is laid-back. She prides herself on being the "lazy midwife"--exactly what I wanted. Before I was pregnant, I told her I wanted an unassisted birth, w/a midwife hanging out in another part of my house, doing what she needs to do to CYA, while leaving me alone. She said, "no problem".

Anyway, I'm 21 weeks, and the above doesn't seem to have changed, but, I get so irritable when I see her that it is really affecting my pregnancy.

For starters, it drives me nuts that I need to see her every 4 weeks. I mean, I'm just pregnant, I'm not dying or anything. My blood pressure is low and I'm working on getting my iron up, things I told her before she checked them out. I started bleeding a 19w after sex, got an u/s and have a low lying placenta--which I felt instinctually. I got a mercury-free rhogam as she was concerned that we could have mixed blood. Okay, no problem.

Now here is what is starting to really get to me. She wants me to stop reading and to stop going on the computer, that I'm going to have to "discipline myself" to stop these things. I'm like, WTF? She is telling me that I need to get out of my head and more into my body, again, I'm like WTF? I have never been more in my body than I am right now. I saw her shortly after Brandi's daughter had died and before I had the u/s. I explained to her that I was nervous about the u/s, and how if there was something seriously wrong w/the baby, I'd prefer to not know, and just enjoy the pregnancy. Well this set her off. I guess she is one of those people who can't understand how people can have empathy for other people on the internet, and this is when she stated that I "have to get away from the computer". I said very calmly that having information, calms me. I do not think in worse case scenarios, but I want to be prepared. This is who I am. This is who I am regardless of who my midwife is.

So at this same prenatal, she is measuring me, which I find totally unnecessary as I'm measuring myself, and I have been measuring ahead. I'm not at all concerned, this is my 2nd child. Anyway, she is done measuring me (I'm 20w at the time), and I'm measuring right on now. This is worrying her. Later on that week I read a post from pamamidwife and she says how the uterus of 2nd time moms usually slows down at 20w, and you start measuring on track. Exactly where I am.

And then, she is using the fetoscope trying to find the baby's hb, a day after the u/s which showed a hb of 138bpm. She can't find the hb, while the baby is kicking the hell out of her. She wants to use the doppler, after I told her months ago, and the other 2 times she has brought it up, that I do not want to be touched w/the doppler unless there is a real urgency I tole her that since the u/s showed a hb yesterday she could just use that one. And since the baby is kicking her, I'm not at all worried about her not finding a hb.

I'm just getting so freakin' stressed about her. I want to have an UC/UP, but my father will call the state on me. He is dating a nurse who knows freakin' everything, and they have already threatened to call b/c we are not vaccinating. My MIL would also call in a heartbeat. I feel like I have to CYA by seeing a "professional".

I'm just so frustrated right now, and I know these things I'm frustrated w/are not huge, but they are just taking away from me enjoying my pregnancy. And I'm pissed that I'm not having a truly unassisted birth, b/c of our freakin' family.

Would love to hear some thoughts and some good ways to talk to my MW about these issues--especially the "getting out of my head" crap.

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I chose my midwife b/c she is laid-back. ... told her I wanted an unassisted birth, w/a midwife hanging out ... leaving me alone. She said, "no problem".
Anyway, I'm 21 weeks, and the above doesn't seem to have changed, but, I get so irritable when I see her that it is really affecting my pregnancy. ...
Mmm. I think it has changed. I mean, she's started to tell you not to READ, for goodness sake! That sounds insanely interventionist to me! :
I think you should write her a letter. Your first draft should be furiously angry, or as angry/pissed/confused/betrayed/whatever as you really feel, anyway. Get it all out. Then work on calming your tone and making it more of a letter you can send. Once you've gotten it to a point where a normal human could read it and not feel so attacked that they'll get all defensive, mail it to her!
Then at your next appointment you'll both have had a chance to think about the situation and prepare to talk about it.
That's my advice, anyway.
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how did those of you who UP/UC line up a back up? I will be a VBAC and am a little worried about it. I am coming to the conclusion I do not really want to see anyone when I get pg (except possibly a mw friend out of state) I can keep track of my weight,BP,sugar,protein,etc otherwise. we don't plan to have an u/s or any other kinds of tests unless indicated. what did you mamas do? how do I provide proof of pregnancy also if I never saw a provider? I am kind of really stressing over this so am looking forward to hearing what others have done..


CHANDAR- your birth story is just beautiful and inspiring! Thank you so much for sharing. I thought that was so cute about your daughter waking up because she heard the baby crying.lol. I also adore the name Lilah Ruth!

AmyD- this sort of would worry me if someone wanted me to get into the mind set THEY wanted me to. wtf? especially her telling you to stop *reading*. does she want you to be uninformed? this is not her birth and you are so right this is who you are and you are doing exactly what you should be doing (being yourself). why should you have to conform? especially in labor? your body will be taking over at that point anyway so what is her problem? I would confront her directly on this if I were in your position. I don't really understand why she is worried either. Sounds like you are doing fine and KNOW you're doing fine. If you are getting stressed maybe it's time to find someone else? I am sorry you are going through this (((hugs)))

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: My braxton hicks contractions picked up yesterday and the day before due to all of this stress. I went from having 1-2 a day to nearly 8 in one day. I know those contractions are good and 8 isn't a big deal but to go from nearly none to a whole bunch, especially ones that are intense to say the least, made me a little worried lastnight.

I noticed that we have similar due dates, and when I read you have only 1-2 BH a day, I freaked! I have been having BH since I was about 15 weeks, and now I have them pretty much continously throughout the day, sometimes so strong now that I can't walk or have to stop what I am doing and deal with them. This is my first baby, so I just assumed this is normal. Any thoughts, ladies?

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Find a new midwife! Or, if you can't do that, don't call her when you go into labor...the ole' "...Oops! The baby came so fast.." story! :LOL
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Rainbowmoon, I do think it is a good idea (for me anyway) to know someone who can help me out if I end up needing something I can't provide for myself. Better than relying on a stranger. The midwife who attended my second birth is supportive of UC, and I have kept in touch with her. I'm also friends with another midwife, our very own Pamamidwife! who is of course also supportive of UC. I kind of just fell into these associations naturally, and I realize that makes it easier for me. But it's possibe to start from scratch -- I know someone who has done this, actually, and it has taken some serious searching, but she has finally found a back-up she is happy with.

Amy -- oh my gosh, I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. I agree with Rainbowmoon about just being honest with your midwife and how to go about that (that is, if you decide you need her to CYA.) As for your family -- I don't mean this to sound snarky, but don't know of a better way to put it -- why do you still have contact with them? I mean, I guess it's just hard for me to imagine having a trusting and loving relationship (what family is about) with someone who threatened to report me to the authorities because they didn't like my parenting choices.
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Thank you for the replies so far. In my MW's defense, I believe her "no reading" crap is b/c she wants me to just trust my body. So I do give her some credit for that. Her delivery is just terrible.

And you are so not being snarky Linda. But I should have expanded that before I got pregnant I cut a good amt of toxic family members out of my life, and I am feeling wonderful about it I no longer talk to my father, but I talk to my brother, and I don't want to put him in a difficult situation. As it is, my dad's gf will "sh*t a brick" when she finds out I'm homebirthing. Again, living in Vermont, I'm very lucky as it is one of the safest places to homebirth in the country, so I have "that" on my side. My MIL is a different story, something we are working on in marriage counseling But, I do not talk to this woman, and when she sees us, she ignores me, so it works out well. Families are great aren't they

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hi, everyone! i need some advice from some trusted mamas---what can i do about a pinched nerve in my middle back? the pain is severe, and i didn't sleep but maybe an hour last night. it hurts to lay on my side---it hurts to breathe. hurts when baby kicks from inside, hurts when my toddler kicks me on the outside.

my biggest concern is that it won't go away---how can i possibly be in any shape to birth with this??? i'm really upset. i'm about to go to the hf store and see about skullcap, black haw and some st/ john's topical oil. i cannot fathom anyone touching it--chiro, etc. any opinions on accupuncture? i do not want to go to a dr...but at this point, i'm just stressed out. morphine sounds good

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Georgia,

I highly recommend going to a chiropractor to have an adjustment to release a pinched nerve. You will feel 100% better about 24 hours later. Ice is also good to relive the pain due to inflammation. I am 33 weeks, and just had an adjustment last week. I didn't have a pinched nerve, but I was having a lot of lower back stiffness/achiness due to a fall on my sacrum in my first trimester and I feel sooo much better now.
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StacyL - I have seen an acupuncturist before and liked it an incredible amount. But my problem was not a pinched nerve. For that, I would think chiropractor also.

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I say a chiropractor throughout this last pg and it really helped!!

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So, I've been doing some thinking, and I'm really thinking of dropping my midwife. She's sweet and laid back, but she will still be there, YKWIM? And after reading the story about (I think Chandar's) birth w/the placenta taking 5 hrs, I know that she would be freakin' out if that was happening, and that I'm sure would effect me, and effect the speed of my placenta.

I've had two birthing dreams in the past 2 nights. In the 1st one, I birthed a girl and realized that I had forgot to call my midwife, OOPS.

Last night's was a doozy though. I was laboring in a hospital w/2 other women. There was a midwife present (not my midwife). Well one woman was having contractions, so the midwife started jumping on her abdomen "to help". She's freaking out, I'm freaking out, we escape, 3 laboring pregnant women running in the hospital and we find a small room and I'm trying to lock the door, but the midwife keeps pushing against it. Finally I lock it and the 3 of us birth our babies by ourselves, no problems. I have a little boy in this one.

My body is trying to tell me something and I think I need to listen.

I just spoke for awhile w/a friend who does pregnancy support and such. As we're talking I'm thinking, "geez, I would much rather give her the money that I'm paying my midwife".

So, I'm going to try this out a little bit while having the option of having the midwife. I also need to talk to my husband quite a bit. :LOL

I'm going to start giving myself prenatals and see how that feels. What do you all do about blood pressure readings? And do you all pee on a stick? And where do you get your sticks? Anyone listening to the baby w/a fetoscope and/or stethoscope?

I'm going to buy the Laura Stanley book (finally) and the Emergency Childbirth one.

Okay, I'd love to hear your responses.

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I'm not doing a UP but just a UC (that will be called an "accident"). Just the same, we are preparing ourselves for the UC. DH listens to the baby's heartbeat with an empty roll of toilet paper sometimes so that he can be familiar with the rhythm of it. Even if I had a choice to UP (don't have that choice), I think I would want to do things like the urine testing and checking my BP. I would not do all the STD testing just because I already know they are negative. And maybe I would want the general blood work-up because that is how I learned that I'm anemic.

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