My first dd was born in a hospital with a horrible induced labor, lots of complications, etc. I am determined to have my next baby in a much different setting. I am due with #2 in April so I should probably decide fairly soon if I want to have a homebirth or go with our local freestanding birthing center. I would prefer to have the same midwife throughout pregnancy. I'm not sure if I am even a candidate for either since I'm pretty overweight (but healthy otherwise). I really don't want to have this baby in a hospital! The birthing center is supposed to be really great, wonderful midwives, etc. but I still keep imagining how much more comfortable I'd be at home. Heck, I can't even sleep away from home! My DH would be ok with whatever I want to do, he trusts my opinion. When I suggested the birthing center to him while pg with my dd, when I told him its very homelike, he said 'why wouldn't you just have the baby at home then?' :LOL How do you decide which place is the best for your 'risk' level? I've come up with a little pro and con list for each place.
Birthing Inn (you can look at their website at www.thebirthinginn.com
pros-close to hospital if transfer is needed, some emergency equipment
birthing tub, etc on site
my family (mom, IL's etc) would be more 'comfortable' with this
insurance will cover 80% of cost
you can leave soon after birth if you want
they have massage and photography available on site (how cool is that!)
cons-because I'm overweight they may not consider me low risk enough
(not sure if this will happen or not)
having to travel there while in labor, traffic may make it take awhile
leaving dd who will be only 23 months
trying to relax a foreign place
Homebirth...well I'm sure you probably know the reasons why I would pick this, but I worry about being too far to transfer if neccessary (we live in an area that can have bad traffic sometimes, but hopefully could get there within 30 minutes), I'm also assuming my insurance would not cover this, and my mom would FLIP out. My mom loves to use the phrase 'women used to die having babies all the time!', and thinks she would have died while having me in the 'olden days' (I am a nurse and I truly do not believe that she would have died in a modern day homebirth- her uterus inverted when the placenta came out so childbirth to her is a 'medical emergency'
I am mostly afraid that I because I am overweight that I am putting myself and the baby at risk doing either one of these things. Logically that doesn't make sense to me but I think I've bought into too much of the crap I've heard in the medical field as a nurse I guess! I really, really would appreciate some input from mamas that have been there and done this!