Midwifery student , Mama to my 4 amazing kids.
I would take my partner's preferences into account. For example, my preference is to wait to have the midwife come at the very last minute, but my DP is terrified of catching the baby w/o her there. So we are compromising and having her come a little earlier than I might choose otherwise. If I were in your situation I might ask my partner to talk some about why the legal status is a concern.
She was simply a pair of hands, guided by years of experience - her own and the experience of all of the midwives who came before her.
~paraphrased from "Forrest Gump"~
In my own little code of ethics, it is a sin to deny a woman the freedom of birthing where she chooses. In my case, I chose home. I needed help and I chose *****. She was a very experienced CPM, and she helped my 11.5 # shoulder dystocia ds, into the world
I think I would have been nicely c-sectioned at the hospital.
I'd worked with the local legal medwives. No thanks.
Jam 7, Peanut Butter 5, and Bread 2.
My mom informed me that her homebirth had been with an illegal midwife (I didn't know that!), and that she had no problem with it at all. (And my mom is a fairly conservative, law-abiding person.) She said there are many things that are perfectly legal that she thinks are immoral, and that she had no conscience issues with a woman coming over to help another have a baby.
I think legal status would mean nothing to me in this situation. If the midwife was the right person, then that is the person I would choose, or else I would go UC. Personally, if my profession became illegal, I would still choose to follow my calling and serve people.
DS - CJ :, the love of my life
what would affect my comfort level, though, is if a mw would not go with me in case of a hospital transfer. I feel that a transfer is such a situation where you might really need heer to help you advocate for yourself and only have the stuff taht is really nessesary done to you.
However, I'd really like to have a midwife with more complementary healing technique knowledge (herbs, massage, etc.) I get the impression that this is more common with CPMs. I'm about to move and I'm not sure my previous midwives will travel as far as where I'm moving to. So if not, or if my health insurance situation changes, I'll look into other, non- or a-legal midwives.
I agree with everybody else that this is one area of civil disobedience I think is totally justified. It always does surprise me when people act as if law is a perfect guide to morality, or morality can perfectly form laws. Morality, for me, is an inherently conditional thing. The morality of an act changes according to the conditions. (I know this makes me an unpopular thinker in many circles!) Law can't change according to the conditions, so it can't ALWAYS be moral.
Here as mama to W (2/04), R (5/06), D (7/09), and J (12/9/12!), co-parenting with my DH
I WOH part-time, am a doula & childbirth educator, home/unschool, and hope we are nearing the center of chaos
And I'd question the morals of someone who would allow an immoral law to dictate her practices!
After hearing stories where women had a hard time finding legal (CPM I guess) midwifes who would attend breech births, post dates, VBAC and/or twins because of various regulations, I am glad my midwife is illegal. She can decide on a case by case basis what is safe and what she can handle. I would have a hard time going to a midwife who had to answer to any regulating body actually . . . . of course think legal midwifes should be an option for people who want that!
If something went horribly awry during our birth and she was discovered to be the attending midwife, she would be the one who got charged. I don't really see this as a moral issue for me. Its a moral issue for her as to whether or not she can justify continuing to practice in a state that does not recognize her legal status. My particular midwife looks at her midwifery business as a ministry to families, women, and babies. While my wish would be that she could attend me in the hospital, her lack of ability to do that is not something that would keep me from hiring her. I know that if I have to transfer, that I will be in good hands with the doula, and with the staff that treats me. There will be a darn good reason for me being in a hospital and she and I will have come to that agreement before I transfer.
CNMs are the only midwives in NC allowed to do homebirths, but the CNMs who do are very few. If I am correct, the CNM that does do homebirths where I live could not deliver in our local hospitals, her backup OB could, though. And homebirth with that CNM is covered under insurance. THe CNM who lives here used to work in a birth center, but did her homebirth apprenticeship under my midwife.
However, having had a sucessful UC (but CPS being called in afterwards) changed my views for two reasons. One, I don't need a midwife for a safe or comfortable birth. Two, I DO need somebody to "officially" attend the birth and file for a birth certificate, etc. in order to prevent furthur CPS problems. Why would I pay an illegal midwife to help me do something I'd rather do alone, and can't even do the one thing I'd need a midwife to do?
Ruth, single mommy to 3 quasi-adults
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