Ya'lls replies mean a lot to me. All of these stories about homebirths with a midwife really does ease my worries. If I hadn't found this board, I don't think I would have found out about this possibility and would have gone it alone b/c of lack of choices.
To tell the truth, all I'd want from a midwife is someone to be there after the birth to give us a check up for DH's peace of mind -- after its all said & done. I've already been told that I'm crazy, but I honestly think that I'd birth fine alone. I wouldn't really even want my mom or sister there -- it just feel like it should be a private moment, and honestly my mom would talk my ears off during the whole thing! lol!
Also, I think I'm also of the mind set that even someone observing can cause a change in the outcome. Kinda like when you have an expert watching you work, you tend to hesitate more & not be as sure of yourself then when its just you alone doing the work...
I live about 50 miles northwest of Huntsville, but I work there -- so I think I will ck out those Birth Story meetings.
My co-worker has mentioned them too & she knows one of the women there that is training to be a midwife. I want to surround myself with only positive thinkers. I know that there are risks & possible complications, but unless the person trying to scare me w/ "what ifs" has a solution for the what if, I don't want to hear about. If there are problems w/ birth that can be fixed at home, then I'd want to know "what to do in case of..."
I've been trying to compile a list of "what ifs", so that I can find a course of action to fix the problem or know when a transport to the hospital is a must. I think taking the responsiblity to be knowledgable about birth is the first step to being a parent, so I'm just trying my best.
If anyone knows a good website or book that details some of the:
"In case of ____, do this _____."
let me know, so that I can reassure my DH about the "what ifs".