Oh, candiland, I sympathize...but I don't know if your friends are really walkin' the walk and NOT talkin' the talk......sound to me like they're pretty consistant!
They're uneducated about birth options, they probably all have lovely OB/GYN's that they've been going to, they're at the mercy of mainstream birth culture (like watching eduational TLC progamming,) and they're talking about getting instant c-sections and epidurals...and that's just what they'll walk.
But I know what you mean....people who are crunchy for the 'real' reasons, like I don't want to fill my body with poisons, be it food or Advil or whatever, should also be the people who don't want to be pumped full of buvicaine or whatever the heck it is they put in epidurals.
As suggested, BE that crunchy, knowledgable voice to your friends....lord knows I AM, and after introducing my best gal pal to the concept of DOULA, she has been able to make all sorts of 'crunchy' choices that ARE what she wants (not just what I WANT her to want!
) because with a little exposure to doulas and some Dr. Sears books, she's making her own way.
And though I'm lil' miss homebirth, she's trumping me w/ a waterbirth (in hospital), go figure. And I was so scared back in her pre-preggo days when she talked about how much she liked her lady OB/GYN....but it didn't do me OR her any good to say, well, that sucks. I just nudged and said, hey, doulas are cool....
And one thing you can GUARANTEE capitalize on is the dreaded episiotomy!!!! Because the labor-fearing, c-section loving ladies out there who want their epis, do NOT WANT their crotches cut, which will happen if they are lucky enough to be one of the 90% of first-time moms in the USA who get the Royal Treatment.
That's a GOOD bargaining chip to promote midwifery, even medwifery...and lord knows I LOVE telling people that none of the homebirthing midwives I interviewd had EVER, EVER done an episiotomy. These chicks know crotch-cutting isn't normal or cool, no matter how in love with their dashing OB/GYN's they may be....and of course, you'll tell them to look out for the 'I only do epis when neccessary' clause!!!
And of course, once these c-sec lovers ARE knocked up, a prettily wrapped copy of The Thinking Woman's Guide will be much appriciated,.....would any of your friends want to be thought of as UNTHINKING? They'll read the book, and get a bit on insight.
Be gentle; your friends have NO IDEA what the heck they are even TALKING about. Give them some parallels....Big Tobacco - formula industry. McDonald's....modern OB practice in the USA. Be creative!!! Keep us posted!!! Tell us their usernames once you've done your duty and turned them into homebirthing, hypnobirthing, waterbirthing, lotusbirthing divas!!!