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I can't recommend strongly enough what was already said: interview some midwives together. Absolutely insist on doing this, and make sure it gets done. Either your husband will be pleasantly surprised and impressed, or you will feel better about a decision, now made in consensus, about birthing elsewhere. You get to birth babies only a few times in your life; if you are going to make a concession to your partner's preference on something so important, make sure it is done wholeheartedly, in confidence that it's the right decision.
And, in my experience as a doula giving this advice, midwives usually impress the reluctant party enough that they end up having wonderful homebirths. One acquaintance, a woman, thought midwives just carry 'the scissors to cut the cord." (!) Once someone realizes the midwife is licensed or certified, carries oxygen, pitocin/methergine, can suture, etc, they seem a lot more professional and competent. The discussion of the midwife's protocols, her list of hospital transfer reasons, can also be oddly reassuring.
I have found in my personal life that no matter the subject, offering reading material is frustrating for everyone, and not as believable as just interviewing and putting the hard questions right out there. Good luck and may you have the wonderful birth you wish!