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She's here!



I woke at 11:30 pm on the 12th with enough contractions and an upset stomach to be unable to sleep. I threw up and went back to bed thinking, "Get some sleep...baby will probably come tomorrow." I woke again at 3:30 am on the 13th after *dreaming* of having contractions for hours and couldn't go back to sleep. The contractions were fairly regular and intense enough to *bother* me but I concentrated on feeling the expansion within them.

My mom and her husband were visiting from Montana and were sleeping upstairs in my guest room. I had planned to labor in our upstairs bathroom and den if I was laboring alone in the night, but with company present, I wanted to stay as far away from everyone as possible and preserve the intimacy of the moment. So, I put on my warm bathrobe and turned up the heat and went down to the basement (unfinished) playroom/workout room. I decided to try to watch a movie and distract myself. I watched "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" for about 45 minutes with contractions continuing and maybe intensifying somewhat. I did not choose to time the contractions at any point, so I wasn't aware of any real acceleration of activity. At around 4:15 during a decent contraction my water broke, or rather trickled out and I was so thrilled I almost started crying. I was so happy that this was really it and I would have my baby before the day was out! I decided to try running a bath to see if that would ease my stress and help me release myself to the process a little.

For those of you who have been chatting with me around here, as you know, I was most concerned/interested in being able to lose myself in *laborland* and not get too caught up *thinking* about what was happening and what I was "supposed" to do. I was feeling way too cerebral at that point and hoped to *let go* in the water a little. When I first got in the tub I noticed a real difference in the way the contractions felt...much more rhythmic and expanding than crampy, but after about ten minutes I was right back at crampy and feeling like I wanted someone to talk to/distract me. So, I got out of the tub and woke my husband at about 4:45.

He was funny and dopey..all "huh? whas happin?" Ds (who is 2 1/2) was still asleep in the bedroom so we shut the door between the bedroom and bathroom. I asked DH to adjust me (he is also a chiro) while I still could stand to lie down on the table in our basement. I told DH that my water had broken and this was definately the day but it wasn't too bad yet. I said "I'm about at the same *place* I was with DS's birth when I asked you to adjust me" which had been about 5 hours before his birth. So, we were both expecting at least a couple more hours of labor. He checked and adjusted my spine between contractions and while I was up again I had a very intense contraction that forced my to lean against our treadmill. Although I had no "back labor" DH instinctively put his hand on my sacrum and I said "wow, that really feels good" He was kind of amazed and said "Your sacrum just moved all over the place" I had experienced that before when supplying chiropractic doulas services to patients of mine in labor. I should have realized it, but every time I have felt that kind of motion, it was followed very very quickly by the actual birth.

From that moment on, my contractions never really stopped. The intensity level was pretty high, but we were suddenly busy just trying to get the birthing supplies together and set up. I was in my robe, from the bath and wanted to put on a t-shirt and call my best friend who was planning to drive from three hours away to be there as soon after the birth as possible. She knew I wanted privacy for the actual event but was planning to be present as a post natal midwife and to help with DS. I could barely talk to her thru the contractions. It was about 5 minutes to 5:00. I was trying to find a t-shirt when I was struck with the uncontrollable need to go to the bathroom (another sure sign I missed), so I waddled back into the bathroom where poor DH was just getting ready to sit down on the toilet himself. I said "MOVE!" and he did, fast!

I sat down and started uncontrollably grunting and pushing. I was totally not in charge at this point, my body had taken over. I totally freaked out. I said "I'm freaking out! I feel like I gotta push but it really really hurts and I know its too soon. Husband said, "do whatever you gotta do honey" and I kept saying (between horrible grunty screamy noises) "I gotta push but I shouldn't." Then suddenly I stood up and pushed really hard and I felt my pubic symphysis seperate (front of pelvis) and something drop in. I reached down, felt the head and said "the baby is coming right now...go find the towels"

DH ran back to the basement to get the towels (I had to set up the birth supplies down there) and by the time he was back, her head was out and I was about to push out the rest. I said "catch the baby, I can't move" because I was still standing over the toilet. He knelt down and literally caught her or she would have hit the toilet. I was just totally shocked. When DS had been born I was very emotional when he came out, but with this little bean I was just too suprised to even feel anything. I think I swore and said "I can't believe it! Thats it?" It was few minutes after 5. DH had been awake for about 15 minutes!

I had a feeling she was a girl throughout the whole preganacy and we were thrilled to discover I was accurate yet again. I was still shaking with the after pains and clutching her in a towel. DH was funny. He kept asking me where my birthing box of supplies was and I kept saying "what do you need it for?" I mean, she was here, why did we need a bunch of sheets and chux pads and a shower curtain, right? I guess he just needed something to do. Since I had birthed over the toilet, all the water and what blood there was had gone into the toilet so there was really no mess to clean up. We agreed on the name (Quinlan) and I started encouraging her to nurse. He just kind of ran around gathering string for the cord and a scissors and a bowl for the placenta.

At about 5:55, DS woke up a toddled out of the bedroom. He was pretty sleepy and confused. He seemed most freaked out by the cord coming out from between my legs (and the blood in the placenta bowl) since I hadn't expelled the placenta yet. He said he wanted to go watch Sesame Street and seemed a little scared so DH took him to the play room to watch his show. My mom came down from upstairs about then and was chatting to us from the kitchen, across the hall. We told her she better come into the bathroom and see something and she was shocked to see the baby was here already.

I guess that's pretty much the whole "birth" story. Quinlan weighs about 8 1/2 pounds on the bathroom scale and we still haven't got around to measuring her. She is doing great and we went to see my friend who does some very specific chiropractic pediatric work today and we cleared out a little trauma to her spine and shoulders from the fast fast delivery. She has been much looser (not so tightly drawn together) today and nursing even better since getting adjusted by my friend.

I loved my unassisted birth (not that a midwife ever would have made it in time) and would recommend it to anyone considering it. I want to thank all you awesome mamas for your support and words of encouragement. Yaaay. Free birth is awesome! I felt very empowered and confident except the one minute when I freaked out because my body was pushing and I couldn't stop it!
Thanks again!

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Wow, Chiromom! I've been waiting to read your birth story ever since you first announced your decision to go unassisted. I'm really happy for you.

Take care of yourself and enjoy your little one!
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Congratulations on your new babe
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Awesome story!

The way nature intended it to be.

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Thanks so much for sharing and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

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Well begun is half done.

Good job!

"The great enemy of the truth is very often not the lie, deliberate, contrived and dishonest, but the myth, persistent, persuasive and unrealistic."
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That's great chiromom~

I can't believe she's here already!
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Oh wow!
Congratulations!!



I only hope I'm as in tune with my body when this guy decides it's his time! Great job!!


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Dear new mom:

Good luck - always
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That was FUN to read -- I was grinning the whole way!

I love the part where your mom wakes up and doesn't realized that you've had the baby.

Congratulations! Awesome story!

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Hi Chiromom...

Awesome story. I am a chiro student and I am specializing in Pediatrics, and my dh and I are trying for our first baby. I want to go unassisted and I LOVED reading your story. It's so great to know that the adjustments helped so much. I wish more pregnant women knew how great they are during labor. Thanks for spreading the word and for sharing your wonderful experince.


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Great story!! Good job!
Congratulations to you and your family!!!
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Congratulations and welcome Quinlan!

OUR DAUGHTERS ARE PROTECTED SHOULDN'T OUR SONS BE TOO! :
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Welcome to the world of freebirth! Oh man it is an awesome ride isn't it?!?! I am so happy you had such a wonderful time. Hugs...and great job mommy!

I also remember thinking I couldn't be pushing yet! It is amazing your body knows what to do.
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Just thought I'd add an update. We are still doing great...although I forgot how crazy engorgement is! Wow! I'm like a porn star! She can barely latch onto that monster!

A few more thoughts on the birth:

When she came out soo fast, she didn't get her lungs squeezed as much as is ideal, so she was a little "juicy" at first. She was just gently grunting and oozing out mucousy stuff from her mouth. I checked in her mouth and throat (by looking only) to see if there was any obstruction and then I really never gave it another thought. I just knew that she was fine and since we didn't cut the cord for almost 45 minutes after the birth, I knew it would do its job if she was needing oxygen, so...it just wasn't a big deal at all. My maternal instinct didn't allow me to stress at all. Cool!

Also, I maybe should explain that when my husband adjusted my sacrum, what was actually accomplished was pretty cool. The sacrum is considered by most to be a solid bone, but it in fact is composed of 5 bones which are mostly fused. When he released it, he released a little "buckle" in the sacrum that she was probably wedged up on a little and the crazy motion he felt was each sacral segment sliding forward and allowing her to scoot right down into my pelvis. She probably went from +2 to -2 station in about 5 seconds! As I mentioned in my previous post, I have felt this motion before and it is sooo cool!

The bottom line: the human body is sooo amazing. I marvel at how it chose the perfect timing and perfect process to create and deliver our little miracle. I tell my patients this all the time, but this experience proves it yet again: Nature Needs No Help, Only No Interference. Amen to that!

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Dear MDC:

The human body also strives to be healthy no matter how many insults and injuries it takes. A wonderful design that works so very well if only man (read doctors) will leave it alone.
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Congratulations Chiromom,

My husband is a chiropractor and I had a homebirth with my twins. I got adjusted all the time and I truly believe that's what helped my girls go head down. They were also adjusted a few hours after their birth. You are a strong and powerful woman!

Blessings to all!
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Congrats! What a neat story. I posted the link to this thread in the thread by AnnR asking for resources to convince her dh to go the homebirth route. Also, I posted a thread about "Ecstatic Births" under "Homebirths" if anyone out there cares to reply or has any thoughts. Chiromom, I'd love to hear your input there when you're feeling up to it or if you have time. I'm sure you have your hands full at the moment.

Thanks again for sharing such an inspiring birth story. It gives me sooo much hope!!

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Chiromom, what a great, great story! I am so inspired. Can't wait to conceive #2 and homebirth again!

I've been wondering...when did your placenta finally come out? Did you experience any concern over how long it took? I just remember my midwives very gently but hurriedly making sure my placenta came out in a certain amount of time.
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Ramona- The placenta finally came after about an hour. Two years ago, with DS's homebirth, we had a midwife and it was over an hour and a half before I expelled the placenta. She was totally freaking out about that too. I wasn't concerned at all though because I wasn't hemorraging and was just too tired to push any more. With this birth, I wasn't at all concerned. Once again, no hemorraging, and no abdominal pain and very few contractions for the first half hour after her birth. Then as the contractions started up again (after she nursed a bit), I walked around a little 'til I felt the urge to push, and then I pushed it out. I examined it closely to make sure that it was intact and not damaged looking, and that was it.

I read that one theory of why women with extreme pregnancy sickness (which I had with both pregnancies) tend to have "healthier" outcomes is that the sickness/lower amount of food intake forces the body to develop a really big and strong placenta. Perhaps that is why I had a stubborn placenta both times? I never worried because all they can do at the hospital is give you pitocin to increase contractions (she was nursing, so my body was doing that naturally) or cut it out eventually (NO WAY) so... I just waited. If I had been hemorraging I would have increased nipple stimulation and considered transporting.

About ecstatic birth; I can see how there is a duality of ecstacy and *pain/pressure* in a fully *accepted* birth. When I first started pushing it hurt like hell and I was freaking. Once I realized that the baby's head was really there and the pushing was *ok* then it felt soooo great (for the one minute it took to finish the job)! The hour or so of *labor* wasn't ecstatic for me, but wasn't horrible either. I mean it is intense and can be painful but I found thinking of what I was feeling as an expansion and visualizing the mechanics of what was happening to be very helpful in accepting the *pain*.

As far as the long term benefits of this type of birth...I think the sky is the limit. I cannot seperate the many things I encorporated into my parenting style which I chose to maximize my child having no interference to achieving his/her full potential. They include, natural/accepting birth with all the appropriate hormones present, chiropractic adjustments to remove interference to the nerve system throughout the body, good nutrition, attachment parenting, family bed, loving/positive family life, no vaxing, intact penis, etc... All of these things contribute and I don't know what is *responsible* for what. I am just very pleased with the results so far. People always comment on how "good" DS is and how loving etc. They said, the next baby probably won't be so "easy". BS I say! She is just as awesome and mellow as he was. Plus, I believe our expectations of our children will greatly affect the outcome. So, I expect that things will be great and that we will find great solutions to the problems that do arise. That is also how I approached this pregnacy and the planned free birth.

Enough yammering again. I'll step down off my soap box now.
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Nobody knows what a normal amount of time is for third stage, because nearly all third stages today are actively managed (except for the few that happen too quick for that.) I would hesitate to call a placenta that took an hour or more to be born a "stubborn" placenta -- that implies that it was not normal. It does seem that among UCers placents do *not* tend to come out in the amount of time ACOG deems "normal" -- about 15 minutes -- the average seems to be closer to around an hour.

I know the concerns -- that the cervix will close up, or that the mother will be hemorrhaging and no one will know it. As for the first concern, it's highly unlikely that a healthy body allowed ideal circumstances in which to function would not be able to work out the the hormonal balance necessary to cue different parts of the body to do the right job at the right time. In short, in a body functioning normally, it's illogical that the cervix would begin to close up before the placenta is expelled. I would rather risk having to go the hospital than allow active management of my third stage -- because problems due to the latter are so much more likely than *naturally* occuring complications.

As for the second concern -- that the mother will be hemorrhaging and no one will know it because the placenta is preventing the blood from exiting -- the mother's demeanor is as good a clue as any as to what is going on inside her body. It's not like she's going to be laughing and rosy one minute and crash the next, you know? There are signs. To me, it's sufficient to be aware, eat the placenta if necessary (or just eat it anyway) and be prepared to transport; and the best prevention is to have a healthy mother who feels safe and supported, and an uninterfered-with birth. Until many more mothers are birthing in this way, we won't know how common hemorrhaging actually is in the natural world, but I suspect it would be very rare.
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About ecstatic birth; I can see how there is a duality of ecstacy and *pain/pressure* in a fully *accepted* birth. When I first started pushing it hurt like hell and I was freaking. Once I realized that the baby's head was really there and the pushing was *ok* then it felt soooo great (for the one minute it took to finish the job)! The hour or so of *labor* wasn't ecstatic for me, but wasn't horrible either.
Yes. In fact even though my transition was very painful in my back, the actual coming down and through of the baby was glorious, the most amazing, wonderful feeling.
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oh, how wonderful!! congratulations chiromom. your birth story reminded me much of my own, mostly when i saw ds I too was very blase and like, "That's it??". W/DD, the angels sang, etc....w/ds, it was very mundane. interesting that you had the same experience.

w/dd though, I had a hard long labor w/a lot of work. Was yours like that w/your son? I think the release might have been such a relief that for me, it felt orgasmic. W/ds, it was so fast, that there was no huge buildup...not as much "work" so to speak.

anyway! Many many congrats to you!! feels like nothing else, yes??? you must be very proud!! enjoy your baby moon!
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