Try posting the same question in the Pregnancy/Homebirth forum, you can find it form the main page.
There's stories in that forum and a lot of people who have things to say.
I'm planning a homebirth, but don't have any personal experience, if you know what I mean
Good luck and welcome again inky
This was such an awesome birth, it was so cool to build a special place for him to born in. And that place is still there to go to again and remember his birth.
I am reminded about the discussion by two women in a birthing class where one said "wow, you're giving birth at home, that's so brave!" and the other replied "I think you're brave for giving birth in the hospital". That's me. I'm more afraid of the hospital than home. Not just because of my pervious experience.
I think there are options for "pain" relief at home, but I'm a natural or alternative health, well, nut for lack of a better term (Not implying wemoon isn't ) I don't consider allopathic pain relief the only alternatives or the only description of "relief". My birth attendants are homeopaths and there are homeopathic rememdies available during birth that help w/issues at various stages of labor (not just "pain"), and I think there are a lot of things you can do that will help w/thru labor - for example my yoga and meditation practices I believe will be beneficial to the process. I don't really buy into the "pain is transcendental" theory of birth. I think if you can prepare yourself and it's not painful, more power to ya. But, I'm trying to be open to the process and go with the flow when the time comes. I'm still thinking of taking hypnobirthing.
There are a lot more people who are probably more "woo-woo" than me who think that my idea of "interventions" is too much - perhaps the unassisted homebirthers, as an example. There's a lot of information on that, and a cool unassisted childbirth story in the homebirth forum - if you go to the top of the page, right hand side, there's a search button, look for "unasssited childbirth" - even if you don't go that route, I found those stories imensely helpful because those women were so trusting in their own bodies and since they did the whole thing w/o someone else telling them what to do, where to stand and when to push or not to, it's pretty inspiring.
Also, there's an article on the main mothering site they have linked to - sort of a reprint, that I think is really helpful: http://www.mothering.com/11-0-0/html...ic-birth.shtml
and some general prep info: http://www.mothering.com/11-0-0/html...0/11-2-0.shtml
hope that helps. whew. I can really go on
Welcome to the boards..I hope you get the info you need..
I am also planning a homebirth for our first child. I am like Lori -- I would be afraid to have a hospital birth. How would I do it without my dog!?
You should also consider browsing the birth story threads in this forum. They are so inspiring, and they are such an obvious contrast to conventional birth stories in terms of intimacy and beauty, in my opinion.
My dog was kind enough to offer me some labor support for dd's birth. I had wondered if I was the only one who considered "won't let me bring my dog" as a big mark against hospitals and birth centers...
Muutherof1 - Staying home allowed me a sense of security I wouldn't have had anywhere else. <still loving the memory of dd's birth>
I think it's kinda cool to be that connected to your k9 inky
I had a dog that loved to watch my births, she didn't offer much help, just stood in the door way and watched. She has since passed on and I miss her very much.
With my second, I went to a free-standing birth center with CNM's. This was the birth I needed to regain my trust in the birth process! It was so empowering to be laboring and birthing in a room only full of people who supported me and my birth wishes 100%! Very different from the hospital where everyone treats you like you are a lunatic for wanting a natural birth and has NO idea how to support you mentally or physically. The labor was 6 hrs start to finish and I was home 6 hours later and felt fantastic! Another huge difference between the two births was that I was not given my baby for 30 minutes at the hospital after the birth (they HAD to weigh, measure, and "clean" him up before handing him to me) and at the birth center, he never left my chest for the entire 6 hours after I had him!
After this birth, I decided to become certified to teach the Bradley Method. I began teaching and taught over 50 couples before getting pregnant with baby #3. I KNEW I wanted to have a homebirth with this one. In the state of MD, homebirth is illegal with anyone other than a Certified Nurse Midwife, but you cannot find any who do homebirths since their back-up OBs won't let them. I used a lay midwife who has been doing homebirths here (illegally) for about 10 years. She was wonderful and I never doubted my decision! Plus, she was way more knowledgeable than the 30 year old CNM I used at the birth center
As good as my birth center birth was...my homebirth was 1,000 times better!!! I just cannot describe it in words--how totally cool it is to be the one in charge of your labor, to not have to answer to anyone but *your own body*, and for me, to have my 2 other boys there for the birth (ages 5 and 3). The best thing was to not have to pack up and go anywhere after the birth--to just get to *BE* as a family. This was also the most involved I have ever seen my DH at a birth! I think it helped that I was so educated on the true safety of homebirth from all my teachings and researching. Please feel free to e-mail me if you need/want info on homebirth!
edited to add that both our girls where born at home, the first birth was so great we couldnt wait to have another at home
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I take it that you will be looking for a midwife but you can find my birthstory here at MDC - After two horrendous hospital births I swore no one would ever touch me in birth ever again, and I went on to have birth beyond my wildest dreams.
I think the best advice I can give is to know that midwife or no, birth can be trusted, your body knows what to do. I dream of the day when it would be common place to have babies at home again, and Ob's stick to the rare "specialty" cases they were trained to handle in the first place. Good luck!
Why go anywhere else?
You have the HOME COURT ADVANTAGE.
Any athlete will tell you that.
hope that makes sense...
If you go to the hospital after planning for a homebirth, the hospital will MAKE you wait for meds b/c they want to know what is going on w/ you before they medicate you!
After the transport and checkin you will have to wait one-two-three hours for any anesthesia.
So if you want a homebirth, plan on a homebirth, not a hospital birth.
Birth is a Head Trip!
now that my name is in my sig, i don't know what to sign off with....
My midwife transported her for a prolonged second stage of labor and b/c the dh wanted to transport her. The baby was +5 and she was fully dialated to 10 cm.
When she finally delivered, she wanted to introduce everyone in the maternity ward to her (my) midwife. It was then that my midwife realized that this is what this woman wanted was a labor sitter and not a midwife.
Get clear on what you want.
It is an American cultural view of the last 60+ years that says that the safest place for a baby to be born is in the hospital. It is not a fact.
It is no good to birth at home if we are just trying to "prove something." For some women, the hospital just feels safer and they do have trouble progressing at home. Find out before you enter labor if this going to be a problem for you. If so, you can reajust your mind set so that you have confidence in your own body and not in the medical interventions, or be realistic about your feelings and change your expectations.